# Is swallowing necessary to complete a proper blow job? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [March 8, 2001, 12:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-swallowing-necessary-to-complete-a-proper-blow-job/57171 "2001-03-08T00:19:48Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![TomH](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/90db22/32.png) [@TomH](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TomH)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2001, 1:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-swallowing-necessary-to-complete-a-proper-blow-job/57171/21 "2001-03-08T13:21:16Z")
> [@](#): > > Sorry, it’s just that the phrase “a proper blow job” makes me think of the Queen Mum goin’ down! I feel sick. ---
**Author:** ![Deiket](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ce7236/32.png) [@Deiket](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Deiket)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2001, 2:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-swallowing-necessary-to-complete-a-proper-blow-job/57171/22 "2001-03-08T14:09:59Z")
I am also in the “might as well” group. It doesn’t bother me. I have a strong stomach, but also, unfortunatly, a strong gag reflex. Have since I was little. So the whole concept of a blow job is not a good thing. I do anyway, though, and I’ve gotten better about that. And anyway, HE doesn’t seem to complain… ---
**Author:** ![gobear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/8dc957/32.png) [@gobear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gobear)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2001, 2:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-swallowing-necessary-to-complete-a-proper-blow-job/57171/23 "2001-03-08T14:16:00Z")
Assuming a monogamous relationship and no chronic STDs like herpes or HIV, then yes, I’d swallow. Nothing like the glow of pride in a job well done. ---
**Author:** ![ChoosyChipsAndCeilingWhacks](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c77e96/32.png) [@ChoosyChipsAndCeilingWhacks](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ChoosyChipsAndCeilingWhacks)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2001, 2:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-swallowing-necessary-to-complete-a-proper-blow-job/57171/24 "2001-03-08T14:23:40Z")
Surprised to see me show up here? I thought not… I certainly love swallowing, as long as goboy’s qualifications are met. Must be careful! However, I also find that it’s nice to have my tits put to good use in this sense. 🙂 I mean, what did you THINK they were there for? -L ---
**Author:** ![Hamadryad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/6de8d8/32.png) [@Hamadryad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hamadryad)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2001, 2:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-swallowing-necessary-to-complete-a-proper-blow-job/57171/25 "2001-03-08T14:44:36Z")
Well, since the OP is, “Is swallowing NECESSARY…” rather than “do YOU spit or swallow,” I will choose to answer the OP. I’d say…no, it’s not necessary. There are a lot…a LOT…of men out there who are almost completely unable to orgasm exclusively from receiving oral sex, but they enjoy it a lot. If [generic] he doesn’t climax, is it his fault? The fault of the fellator (or fellatrix)? Is NO one at fault? If a man climaxes in the course of a blowjob, I’d say that was a proper blowjob, whether it ended up down the recipient’s throat, all over his or her chest, or on the CAT, for cryin’ out loud. Even if the gentleman in question doesn’t achieve orgasm, I’d say that if he properly enjoyed the experience, it was a proper blowjob, and with the absence of climax comes the absence of a REASON to swallow. I think that if I went down on a guy, and he came, and I didn’t swallow and he had the GALL to tell me, “Well, THAT wasn’t a proper blowjob,” that snowball cat would catch that asbestos rat in hell before my mouth went anywhere NEAR his penis again. ---
**Author:** ![ChoosyChipsAndCeilingWhacks](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c77e96/32.png) [@ChoosyChipsAndCeilingWhacks](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ChoosyChipsAndCeilingWhacks)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2001, 2:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-swallowing-necessary-to-complete-a-proper-blow-job/57171/26 "2001-03-08T14:51:18Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Hamadryad \* > \*\*Well, since the OP is, “Is swallowing NECESSARY…” rather than “do YOU spit or swallow,” I will choose to answer the OP. > \*\* Well lah di dah!!! (Just kidding.) ---
**Author:** ![gobear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/8dc957/32.png) [@gobear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gobear)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2001, 3:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-swallowing-necessary-to-complete-a-proper-blow-job/57171/27 "2001-03-08T15:16:44Z")
Ah, well, My apologies, Hamadryad (picky, picky). My answer, then, is no, swallowing is not necessary. A lot of guys, including most of the guys I’ve been with and myself as well, are unable to achieve orgasm through oral sex, but they do find it highly stimulating. IMHO, a blow job followed by mutual J/O is the ideal way to get off. ---
**Author:** ![mouthbreather](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a698b9/32.png) [@mouthbreather](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mouthbreather)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2001, 3:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-swallowing-necessary-to-complete-a-proper-blow-job/57171/28 "2001-03-08T15:40:37Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by relic\_11 \* > \*\*::collapses in a mad fit of giggles:: > > Sorry, it’s just that the phrase “a proper blow job” makes me think of the Queen Mum goin’ down!\*\* It’s making me thing of MC Hammer. I’m not sure which is worse. ---
**Author:** ![Typo\_Negative](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/typo_negative/32/484_2.png) [@Typo\_Negative](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Typo_Negative)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2001, 3:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-swallowing-necessary-to-complete-a-proper-blow-job/57171/29 "2001-03-08T15:44:53Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Hamadryad \* > **I’d say that was a proper blowjob, whether it ended up down the recipient’s throat, all over his or her chest, or on the CAT, for cryin’ out loud** I say that if it ended up on the CAT, something went seriously wrong! :eek: From the other side, I find the idea of coming in my dates mouth much more erotic in theory than in practice. In fact, I find it downright uncomfortable. So I usually interupt the BJ before it gets to that point. ---
**Author:** ![hypergirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/49beb7/32.png) [@hypergirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hypergirl)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2001, 4:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-swallowing-necessary-to-complete-a-proper-blow-job/57171/30 "2001-03-08T16:28:27Z")
I think that an important ingredient in a good blow job is enthusaism. I think that swallowing is only an extension of that. If you are giving head and you’re enjoying it then why wouldn’t you want to swallow? ---
**Author:** ![Giraffe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/giraffe/32/129_2.png) [@Giraffe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giraffe)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2001, 4:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-swallowing-necessary-to-complete-a-proper-blow-job/57171/31 "2001-03-08T16:48:45Z")
I think **dublos** hit the nail on the, um, head. As long as you don’t pull away until all the thrashing and moaning completely dies down, I don’t think it matters whether you spit or swallow. Swallowing does seem a lot more convenient, and personally I prefer it, but the key is taking things up to and through the climax. The few spitters I’ve been with always tended to leap away at the moment of climax like cyanide gas was about to come out, which is definitely not a good way to maximize the pleasure of the experience. ---
**Author:** ![Cyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a88e4f/32.png) [@Cyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cyn)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2001, 8:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-swallowing-necessary-to-complete-a-proper-blow-job/57171/32 "2001-03-08T20:03:57Z")
Gotta agree with Hypergirl. I’m doing what I enjoy, he’s liking it, and there is no proper/improper between us. He doesn’t pressure me to orgasm, so why call it a less-than sucess story if he doesn’t? For me, swallowing is part of what completes the experience and if propriety must be served, I’ll wear my Queen Mum costume and he can wear his MC Hammer costume…wait. No. Bad visual. Don’t wanna be proper. ---
**Author:** ![todaystomsawyer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/59ef9b/32.png) [@todaystomsawyer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/todaystomsawyer)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2001, 8:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-swallowing-necessary-to-complete-a-proper-blow-job/57171/33 "2001-03-08T20:19:03Z")
I’ve read and heard that the taste varies depending on what the “shooter” ate recently. I’ve also read a couple of recipes that should enhance the flavor. I love to see my partner finish me off by jerking me off into her wide open mouth with her tongue out…it makes her look so hot and dirty. I so love these boards. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![ThisYearsGirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/73ab20/32.png) [@ThisYearsGirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ThisYearsGirl)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2001, 11:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-swallowing-necessary-to-complete-a-proper-blow-job/57171/34 "2001-03-08T23:45:44Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Pammipoo \* > \*\*I once read that cum has 15 calories or something in it. For what it’s worth. . . [http://www.straightdope.com/classics/a1\_054.html](http://www.straightdope.com/classics/a1_054.html) And I’m in Commander Fortune’s school of swallowing, and then making him kiss me. ---
**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2001, 12:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-swallowing-necessary-to-complete-a-proper-blow-job/57171/35 "2001-03-09T00:35:18Z")
Blow it out of your mouth, that’s why it called a blow job, otherwise it would be called a swallow job. ---
**Author:** ![ChoosyChipsAndCeilingWhacks](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c77e96/32.png) [@ChoosyChipsAndCeilingWhacks](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ChoosyChipsAndCeilingWhacks)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2001, 12:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-swallowing-necessary-to-complete-a-proper-blow-job/57171/36 "2001-03-09T00:44:05Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by handy \* > \*\* > Blow it out of your mouth, that’s why it called a blow job, otherwise it would be called a swallow job. \*\* What? Is that really the origin of this phrase? I’ve always wondered, but that really doesn’t sound plausible. In any case, why is someone named **handy** talking about oral sex? -L ---
**Author:** ![Eo\_Echo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ebca7d/32.png) [@Eo\_Echo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eo_Echo)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2001, 5:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-swallowing-necessary-to-complete-a-proper-blow-job/57171/37 "2001-03-09T05:26:15Z")
Swallowing is not _necessary,_ of course. It’s the thought that counts. And technique. That counts as well. ---
**Author:** ![Lazarus7](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/67e7ee/32.png) [@Lazarus7](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lazarus7)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2001, 6:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-swallowing-necessary-to-complete-a-proper-blow-job/57171/38 "2001-03-09T06:33:16Z")
swallow or spit? … who really cares? … Well, I do, a bit anyhow. When my lovely wife is giving me a blowjob, it is just not the same when it ends before I actually come. She has always been a dodger (as opposed to spit or swallow) … well, for me anyhow, the enjoyment does not end there. A tender tongue snaking up … a skillful mouthful coaxing and massaging … soft kisses … well, you get the picture. That said, I have only once come in her mouth (and that was 10 ten minutes ago (TMI that !)). Now having been there, I can tell you, I don’t care what she does with it, as long as I am in her mouth when I come. The experience was so different. The orgasm more full body as opposed to centralized to a single point. ---
**Author:** ![Barbarian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e19adc/32.png) [@Barbarian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Barbarian)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2001, 10:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-swallowing-necessary-to-complete-a-proper-blow-job/57171/39 "2001-03-09T10:26:22Z")
Waah! I feel deprived, having never had a woman actually let me _finish_ an orgasm in her mouth. They always leap away… which does wonders for the old self-esteem, let me tell you. I’m wondering if I should try the same tactic on my wife just as she’s on the verge… ---
**Author:** ![plnnr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7ea924/32.png) [@plnnr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/plnnr)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2001, 1:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-swallowing-necessary-to-complete-a-proper-blow-job/57171/40 "2001-03-09T13:20:07Z")
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