# Is swinging a sustainable, long term sexual lifestyle for a couple? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 9, 2003, 2:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-swinging-a-sustainable-long-term-sexual-lifestyle-for-a-couple/206403 "2003-10-09T02:49:07Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 3\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![bittersweet](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/c57346/32.png) [@bittersweet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bittersweet)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2003, 1:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-swinging-a-sustainable-long-term-sexual-lifestyle-for-a-couple/206403/21 "2003-10-13T13:20:10Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Spiff \* > **Make up your mind, bittersweet!** Sorry, I should have typed “provided I marry **that person** ”. I think y’all understood what I meant anyway. ---
**Author:** ![Superdude](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/superdude/32/13450_2.png) [@Superdude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Superdude)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2003, 6:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-swinging-a-sustainable-long-term-sexual-lifestyle-for-a-couple/206403/22 "2003-10-14T06:51:10Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Doctor Jackson \* > \*\*I was going to try wife swapping 'til I found out that, after a short time, they make you take her back. \*\* [Hal Sparks] I have no problem with wife-trading, as long as you’re trading UP. [/Hal Sparks] ---
**Author:** ![Scumpup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ce73a5/32.png) [@Scumpup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scumpup)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2003, 4:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-swinging-a-sustainable-long-term-sexual-lifestyle-for-a-couple/206403/23 "2003-10-14T16:29:44Z")
A good friend of mine and her husband have been swingers for several years. They don’t make a frequent thing of it, though. A few times a year, at most, and the majority of their activity consists of inviting a mutually agreeable 3rd party into their bed. It seems to be working well for them, with a (to date) minor bit of conflict regarding female 3rd parties. Wifey is apparently excessively picky, in hubby’s opinion, regarding female 3rd parties. Essentially, it seems, she doesn’t like them to be prettier than her. Hubby is more easy-going about who wifey wants to invite on board. Anyway, they’ve been at this for ten years or so and seem to be doing okay. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-swinging-a-sustainable-long-term-sexual-lifestyle-for-a-couple/206403.md?page=1)