# Is the average time for sex really this short? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [June 3, 2014, 2:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-average-time-for-sex-really-this-short/689889 "2014-06-03T02:36:37Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 19\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Shagnasty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9dc877/32.png) [@Shagnasty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shagnasty)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2014, 10:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-average-time-for-sex-really-this-short/689889/61 "2014-06-04T22:40:57Z")
> [@Shakes](#): > > I’m a little skeptical is this isn’t a classic example of how a fond memory gets aggrandized with the passage of time. > > I’ve had all night marathons too, but my penis certainly didn’t stay hard through out. It usually goes something like this: > > Fuck - lay in bed and talk- > Fuck- lay in bed and watch tv for an hour or so- > Fuck- Grab something to munch on from the kitchen- > Fuck- more talking > Fuck- etc… > > If my penis stayed hard during those breaks, I would have been miserable. And I don’t even want to imagine the pain involved if I went six full hours with out busting a nut. For me every one of those sessions involves a climax. (For both parties. Or at least I hope so.) I promise you it was real but it was a one-time deal. The 2nd longest was about 2.5 hours and yes, I stayed hard the whole time. There was no TV or snacks involved. Just straight sex for 6 hours although a little of it was oral rather than just straight PIV. Since we are well into TMI here already, I will say didn’t need to go that long without coming. I am one of those rare multi-orgasmic men that doesn’t need a refractory period. I can have as many as I want without a break although you stop ejaculating after the first few. That is why it is possible at all. I always forget that most men can’t do that. She was very multi-orgasmic as well so we just kept going because we could and it was the last chance for us to do it. I always thought this type of thing was a little unusual but not unheard of. I guess that is what you get by learning sex by watching porn. ---
**Author:** ![Dangerosa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/22d042/32.png) [@Dangerosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dangerosa)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2014, 11:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-average-time-for-sex-really-this-short/689889/62 "2014-06-04T23:41:45Z")
> [@Malthus](#): > > I suspect the answer is “porn” - same place (some) guys get the notion that women in general prefer gigantic penises. > > Most porn dispenses with foreplay (other than oral) altogether, goes straight for lengthy jackhammering sessions. And making a huge mess when ejaculating. Because, you know, the wet spot isn’t bad enough, what women really like is to be covered in sticky all night (or have to get out of bed post coital for a shower). Oh, most women aren’t into sex with other women so you can watch, etiher 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [June 5, 2014, 12:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-average-time-for-sex-really-this-short/689889/63 "2014-06-05T00:52:30Z")
> [@Loach](#): > > A sex session is not what is being discussed here. Its that actual pelvic thrust without interruption time. Are you saying you did the old in an’ out for 6 hours straight without stopping? In my youth I certainly had sessions that lasted that long. But they were made up of multiple happy fun times. As a whole I would consider it one session but there certainly wasn’t 6 hours straight of thrusting. At some point someone needs a bathroom break or a drink of water. …or food! ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [June 5, 2014, 1:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-average-time-for-sex-really-this-short/689889/64 "2014-06-05T01:39:16Z")
> [@dracoi](#): > > Maybe you have, but in my (admittedly limited) experiences with women, most are very hesitant about saying what they want. She might say “Oh, right there!” but I have to stumble across it… and then I’m totally confused when that same spot isn’t working the same way the next week. There are a lot of women out there who need to get that guys are mostly pretty good at following directions, but we suck at mind reading. 🙂 I was completely clueless at first, and it didn’t help hearing other guys brag, as well as girlfriends who, looking back now, were clearly trying to feed my ego. I think that most of us guys think we’re better drivers behind the wheel and in the sack.😛 > [@Shakes](#): > > I’m a little skeptical is this isn’t a classic example of how a fond memory gets aggrandized with the passage of time. I donno. However, unless he also wants to brag about winning times on marathons, six hors of vigorous thrusting isn’t possible for all but elite athletes, and would also result in tearing. ---
**Author:** ![Shagnasty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9dc877/32.png) [@Shagnasty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shagnasty)\ **Post date:** [June 5, 2014, 1:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-average-time-for-sex-really-this-short/689889/65 "2014-06-05T01:57:45Z")
> [@TokyoBayer](#): > > I donno. However, unless he also wants to brag about winning times on marathons, six hors of vigorous thrusting isn’t possible for all but elite athletes, and would also result in tearing. No I won’t. I swear on any religious text of your choice that one is 100% true. She was a special person. She woke up at 4:30 am every morning 7 days a week and ran at least 5 miles and sometimes 10 depending on the weather. She sucked me into her fitness regime one-on-one for a year before we ever so much as kissed. She also told me that she absolutely had to have sex on a regular basis (near daily) or she couldn’t cope with life. We worked together and took multi-mile walks during lunch every single day. It took two years before I took the hint and slept with her. I met my match on stamina with that one. I only slept with her 7 times because it was so long and so exhausting. We were in really good shape and neither one of us was willing to be the first to give up. I haven’t met anyone near like that since. That is partially why I asked the question. Everyone else seems lame in comparison and yet I have been not been nice about claiming people were bad in bed when they only wanted to go 3 - 7 minutes. I am learning that is more normal than not and it is me that expects something that most people don’t do regularly. ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [June 5, 2014, 3:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-average-time-for-sex-really-this-short/689889/66 "2014-06-05T03:13:00Z")
> [@Learjeff](#): > > As John Lennon said, sex is 99% imagination and 1% friction. In other words, 99% fiction and 1% friction. > [@Loach](#): > > 3 minutes is like 10 orgasms for her. Or so she tells you. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [June 5, 2014, 3:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-average-time-for-sex-really-this-short/689889/67 "2014-06-05T03:21:03Z")
> [@Shagnasty](#): > > It took two years before I took the hint and slept with her. I met my match on stamina with that one. I only slept with her 7 times because it was so long and so exhausting. We were in really good shape and neither one of us was willing to be the first to give up. > > . Honestly, that sounds awful. ---
**Author:** ![simster](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/simster/32/1047_2.png) [@simster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/simster)\ **Post date:** [June 5, 2014, 3:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-average-time-for-sex-really-this-short/689889/68 "2014-06-05T03:28:24Z")
> [@Shagnasty](#): > > No I won’t. I swear on any religious text of your choice that one is 100% true. She was a special person. She woke up at 4:30 am every morning 7 days a week and ran at least 5 miles and sometimes 10 depending on the weather. She sucked me into her fitness regime one-on-one for a year before we ever so much as kissed. She also told me that she absolutely had to have sex on a regular basis (near daily) or she couldn’t cope with life. We worked together and took multi-mile walks during lunch every single day. > > It took two years before I took the hint and slept with her. I met my match on stamina with that one. I only slept with her 7 times because it was so long and so exhausting. We were in really good shape and neither one of us was willing to be the first to give up. > > I haven’t met anyone near like that since. That is partially why I asked the question. Everyone else seems lame in comparison and yet I have been not been nice about claiming people were bad in bed when they only wanted to go 3 - 7 minutes. I am learning that is more normal than not and it is me that expects something that most people don’t do regularly. there are enough contradictions in this post that I call complete bullshit on it. For starters - “she had to have sex daily or she couldn’t cope” and “it was a year before I kissed her and 2 years before I fucked her” Was she sleeping with others during that 2 year training period? ---
**Author:** ![johnpost](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f17d59/32.png) [@johnpost](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/johnpost)\ **Post date:** [June 5, 2014, 3:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-average-time-for-sex-really-this-short/689889/69 "2014-06-05T03:37:23Z")
you have first string players and second string players. good to give the whole bench some time though. ---
**Author:** ![Malacandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Malacandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malacandra)\ **Post date:** [June 5, 2014, 7:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-average-time-for-sex-really-this-short/689889/70 "2014-06-05T07:54:54Z")
> [@Dangerosa](#): > > And making a huge mess when ejaculating. Because, you know, the wet spot isn’t bad enough, what women really like is to be covered in sticky all night (or have to get out of bed post coital for a shower). Some women - I don’t say it’s a general thing - are out of bed and into the shower in something under a minute after withdrawal, never mind where you finished. “Sorry I polluted you, dear”. :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![fisha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/da6949/32.png) [@fisha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fisha)\ **Post date:** [June 5, 2014, 9:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-average-time-for-sex-really-this-short/689889/71 "2014-06-05T09:44:31Z")
And some like to wallow. ---
**Author:** ![Malacandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Malacandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malacandra)\ **Post date:** [June 5, 2014, 9:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-average-time-for-sex-really-this-short/689889/72 "2014-06-05T09:47:53Z")
> [@fisha](#): > > And some like to wallow. Boy, did I just misread that. ---
**Author:** ![Malthus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/85f322/32.png) [@Malthus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malthus)\ **Post date:** [June 5, 2014, 1:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-average-time-for-sex-really-this-short/689889/73 "2014-06-05T13:00:44Z")
> [@Dangerosa](#): > > And making a huge mess when ejaculating. Because, you know, the wet spot isn’t bad enough, what women really like is to be covered in sticky all night (or have to get out of bed post coital for a shower). > > Oh, most women aren’t into sex with other women so you can watch, etiher 😛 Nothing says “I love you” like a facial. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![AaronX](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/7bcc69/32.png) [@AaronX](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AaronX)\ **Post date:** [June 5, 2014, 1:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-average-time-for-sex-really-this-short/689889/74 "2014-06-05T13:19:32Z")
Same hen every time? ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [June 5, 2014, 1:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-average-time-for-sex-really-this-short/689889/75 "2014-06-05T13:38:20Z")
> [@simster](#): > > there are enough contradictions in this post that I call complete bullshit on it. This isn’t the first of his sex stories which are great for retelling in bars. It’s a pity I don’t drink anymore. ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [June 5, 2014, 2:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-average-time-for-sex-really-this-short/689889/76 "2014-06-05T14:27:32Z")
But do you drink any less? ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [June 5, 2014, 2:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-average-time-for-sex-really-this-short/689889/77 "2014-06-05T14:31:40Z")
> [@Dangerosa](#): > > And making a huge mess when ejaculating. Because, you know, the wet spot isn’t bad enough, what women really like is to be covered in sticky all night (or have to get out of bed post coital for a shower). That sounds Awful! I don’t think that you should put up with it… ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [June 5, 2014, 3:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-average-time-for-sex-really-this-short/689889/78 "2014-06-05T15:54:32Z")
> [@Siam\_Sam](#): > > But do you drink any less? Two years and three months. I spend a fair share of my 30s and 40s in Tokyo bars self-medicating. I met a lot of lonely women at those places, and being a Japanese-speaking _gaijin_ didn’t hurt. At the time, I thought I was having fun, but it was a really sad life. Sometimes I miss the bullshit stories guys tell. It was always the guy, only met a few women who could, or rather would, BS that badly. This kind of stuff. And special ops. I used to BS a lot as well. Back in the early 1990s, a couple of my friends and I made up bogus business cards saying we worked for some French lingerie company. The idea was that women would talk more about their underware to a professional. :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [June 5, 2014, 4:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-average-time-for-sex-really-this-short/689889/79 "2014-06-05T16:05:13Z")
Missed the edit window. For clarification, the name cards were just a joke and never used really seriously. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-average-time-for-sex-really-this-short/689889.md?page=3)