# Is the Mormon practice of "soaking" a real thing? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 26, 2024, 2:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-mormon-practice-of-soaking-a-real-thing/1006223 "2024-08-26T02:45:02Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Orville\_mogul](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/aeb1de/32.png) [@Orville\_mogul](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Orville_mogul)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2024, 8:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-mormon-practice-of-soaking-a-real-thing/1006223/61 "2024-08-31T08:16:22Z")
> [@TokyoBayer](#): > > It’s also recent. > > > [@](#): > > > > One source said the term started as “dick soak” on an internet forum in 2009, and morphed to simply “soaking” by 2011, and gained wider use in 2019. I actually was told about the term by a friend in 2007. I remember very clearly ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2024, 8:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-mormon-practice-of-soaking-a-real-thing/1006223/62 "2024-08-31T08:18:20Z")
> [@P-man](#): > > Would they wear condoms? I’d think many horny, sexually repressed young people would blow their load as soon as they entered a woman for the first time, moving or not. As I posted above, I don’t think they would because that would mean they are planning to have sex. ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2024, 8:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-mormon-practice-of-soaking-a-real-thing/1006223/63 "2024-08-31T08:19:49Z")
> [@Orville\_mogul](#): > > I actually was told about the term by a friend in 2007. I remember very clearly Oh, OK. But recent is a relative term. It’s not like it’s from the 19th century. ---
**Author:** ![Orville\_mogul](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/aeb1de/32.png) [@Orville\_mogul](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Orville_mogul)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2024, 8:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-mormon-practice-of-soaking-a-real-thing/1006223/64 "2024-08-31T08:26:41Z")
Sorry, I wasn’t questioning you. I just thought it was cool that I might have known of a dirty term before most other people. Or maybe I invented it 😁 Orville “the soakster” Mogul ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2024, 8:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-mormon-practice-of-soaking-a-real-thing/1006223/65 "2024-08-31T08:45:42Z")
No problem. My post was in reply to someone who was questioning if it were an obcure practice from some other branch of Mormonism, and it looks like soaking is a modern term. ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2024, 10:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-mormon-practice-of-soaking-a-real-thing/1006223/66 "2024-08-31T10:25:49Z")
Oh, and since this thread is petering out, I have to include [this bit](https://www.smh.com.au/culture/celebrity/the-swinging-mormon-moms-of-tiktok-are-at-war-with-each-other-20220603-p5aqsh.html) about Mormons and TikTok from a few years ago. > [@](#): > > Every so often, a news story featuring just the right amount of weirdness comes along to capture the collective fascination of the internet. This week that coveted spot belongs to the Swinging Mormon Moms of TikTok, a group of Utah-based Mormon (naturally) influencers whose friendship is currently imploding after allegations of spouse-swapping rocked their circle. > > The Swinging Mormon at the centre of this drama is Taylor Frankie Paul, a 28-year-old mother of two. She has spent the past fortnight documenting her marriage breakdown on TikTok, much to the delight of her 3.5 million followers. > [@](#): > > **Go on.** > > So basically, in Utah, there’s a group of Mormon influencers, who are also mothers, and they’ve become famous for their #MomTok content. Which is really just them dancing on TikTok and talking about their kids. > > **Groundbreaking**. > > Sure, but this week things really kicked off after the unofficial leader of the MomTok gang, influencer Taylor Frankie Paul, revealed that she and her husband Tate participated in “soft swinging” with their fellow Utah couples. I have no idea if this is true or not, but it’s amazing that Mormon swingers can have 3.5 million followers, although it seems they build up their base before revealing they were swingers. Not typical Mormon fare. Anyway, back to your regularly scheduled soaking program. ---
**Author:** ![scudsucker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scudsucker/32/14101_2.png) [@scudsucker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scudsucker)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2024, 11:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-mormon-practice-of-soaking-a-real-thing/1006223/67 "2024-08-31T11:07:11Z")
Knowing no morman people at all, my only opinion on the matter is that I would be unable, given the alleged circumstance, to avoid premature ejactulation. Those older, wiser and better at controlling their orgasm (Sting tantric sex style - safe for work link - [Sting Talks 7-Hour Tantic Sex With Trudie Styler - ABC News](https://abcnews.go.com/Entertainment/sting-talks-hour-tantic-sex-trudie-styler/story?id=26398064) ) may differ. ---
**Author:** ![Gyrate](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gyrate/32/3588_2.png) [@Gyrate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gyrate)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2024, 12:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-mormon-practice-of-soaking-a-real-thing/1006223/68 "2024-08-31T12:33:06Z")
I would thinking that “soaking” would be the normal practice of Mormons. No, wait, I’m thinking of “mermen”. Never mind. ---
**Author:** ![BippityBoppityBoo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bippityboppityboo/32/5745_2.png) [@BippityBoppityBoo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BippityBoppityBoo)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2024, 1:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-mormon-practice-of-soaking-a-real-thing/1006223/69 "2024-08-31T13:09:23Z")
> [@TokyoBayer](#): > > and since this thread is petering out We all see what you did there. ---
**Author:** ![Asuka](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/dec6dc/32.png) [@Asuka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Asuka)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2024, 7:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-mormon-practice-of-soaking-a-real-thing/1006223/70 "2024-08-31T19:31:29Z")
As someone who grew up Catholic I’ve definitely heard both “Anal doesn’t count as sex” and “Soaking” we rule loopholes before, but it wasn’t called soaking it was called something else. ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2024, 7:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-mormon-practice-of-soaking-a-real-thing/1006223/71 "2024-08-31T19:32:47Z")
Pregnancy? ---
**Author:** ![Al128](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/al128/32/16541_2.png) [@Al128](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Al128)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2024, 2:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-mormon-practice-of-soaking-a-real-thing/1006223/72 "2024-09-01T02:17:34Z")
> [@TokyoBayer](#): > > **Soaking** is a [sexual practice](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_sexual_activity) of inserting the [penis](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_penis) into the [vagina](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vagina) but not subsequently thrusting or [ejaculating](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ejaculation), which bears the question: what happens next? … do they e.g. then (with PiV) binge-watch S3 of Seinfield together? ---
**Author:** ![Mikestone8](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/779978/32.png) [@Mikestone8](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mikestone8)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2024, 6:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-mormon-practice-of-soaking-a-real-thing/1006223/73 "2024-09-01T06:25:04Z")
Guess I must have led a sheltered life. I’ve been active in the Church for almost thirty years, and this is the first I’ve heard of it. On the whole I doubt if I have missed much. ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2024, 12:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-mormon-practice-of-soaking-a-real-thing/1006223/74 "2024-09-01T12:04:23Z")
> [@Mikestone8](#): > > I’ve been active in the Church for almost thirty years, and this is the first I’ve heard of it. On the whole I doubt if I have missed much. Are you saying it’s a cockamamie story? ---
**Author:** ![Mikestone8](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/779978/32.png) [@Mikestone8](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mikestone8)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2024, 5:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-mormon-practice-of-soaking-a-real-thing/1006223/75 "2024-09-01T17:48:17Z")
I’ m saying it’s the first I’ve ever heard of it. ---
**Author:** ![Mikestone8](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/779978/32.png) [@Mikestone8](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mikestone8)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2024, 8:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-mormon-practice-of-soaking-a-real-thing/1006223/76 "2024-09-01T20:26:11Z")
I’ m saying it’s the first I’ve ever heard of it. i can’t flatly deny its existence, as it does sound like the sort of rather childish thing that college students and the like might possibly concoct, However, in the course of my membership I have watched fifty or sixty General Conferences (ie from SLC) and attended similar numbers of Stake and Ward Conferences. In all that time I’ve never heard “soaking” so much as mentioned. I might add that we LDS are a chatty lot (I’ve even heard members jokingly call us “natter-day saints”) so I don’t see how I could have avoided hearing about the practice were it at all widespread. So mark me down as a sceptic. ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2024, 8:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-mormon-practice-of-soaking-a-real-thing/1006223/77 "2024-09-01T20:31:28Z")
I think it has been fully established (repeatedly) that it is not part of Official Church Doctrine, and thus not discussed at Official Church Meetings, establishing that it doesn’t Officially Exist. ---
**Author:** ![Gatopescado](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gatopescado/32/5711_2.png) [@Gatopescado](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gatopescado)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2024, 6:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-mormon-practice-of-soaking-a-real-thing/1006223/78 "2024-09-02T06:00:31Z")
Ever open a thread out of shear boredom and immediately regret it? Uh… I have, we’ll say. ---
**Author:** ![Mikestone8](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/779978/32.png) [@Mikestone8](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mikestone8)\ **Post date:** [September 3, 2024, 9:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-mormon-practice-of-soaking-a-real-thing/1006223/79 "2024-09-03T21:41:15Z")
It’s not official existence that I was thinking about, but rather awareness of it among ordinary members. Thus the Church has never taught that the Anglo-Saxon peoples are the Lost Tribes of Israel, or that the AIDS epidemic was a punishment from God, yet I have come across members who believe one or both of those things. OTOH I have never heard a word about “soaking” - sympathetic or otherwise - from anybody, and I’m pretty sure that if it was at all common I would have heard _someone_ say _something_ on the subject. ---
**Author:** ![MW\_Degen\_Gamblr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ec9cab/32.png) [@MW\_Degen\_Gamblr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MW_Degen_Gamblr)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2024, 2:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-mormon-practice-of-soaking-a-real-thing/1006223/80 "2024-09-04T02:21:21Z")
I disappear for a week and there’s almost 80 replies. Holy smokes, I wasn’t expecting this thread to blow up like this! And I actually learned some things. I think those who said that “soaking” exists, but it isn’t widely practiced or acknowledged are probably on the right track. Even without “failure” I can’t see how this is acceptable in Mormonism. But I bet someone somewhere within the vast deserts of Utah has tried it! [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-mormon-practice-of-soaking-a-real-thing/1006223.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-the-mormon-practice-of-soaking-a-real-thing/1006223.md?page=5)