# Is there a "nice" way to say to a woman... **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 7, 2015, 11:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-a-nice-way-to-say-to-a-woman/739696 "2015-12-07T11:16:49Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Isamu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/7c8e57/32.png) [@Isamu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Isamu)\ **Post date:** [December 8, 2015, 6:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-a-nice-way-to-say-to-a-woman/739696/41 "2015-12-08T06:07:30Z")
Top nips Flipper! ---
**Author:** ![Senegoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/senegoid/32/6606_2.png) [@Senegoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Senegoid)\ **Post date:** [December 8, 2015, 7:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-a-nice-way-to-say-to-a-woman/739696/42 "2015-12-08T07:01:41Z")
> [@usedtobe](#): > > How about the old Playtex “Cross Your Heart” bra? Yes, you can see these old commercials on YouTube. ---
**Author:** ![Leaper](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/4bbf92/32.png) [@Leaper](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leaper)\ **Post date:** [December 8, 2015, 7:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-a-nice-way-to-say-to-a-woman/739696/43 "2015-12-08T07:20:38Z")
Seems to me that when someone comments positively on a body part that society sees as sexual, the implication is always there that you’re saying “[You/that body part of yours] really turns me on sexually.” That may not be what you want to say, but I think that’s the reality. ---
**Author:** ![LSLGuy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lslguy/32/5813_2.png) [@LSLGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LSLGuy)\ **Post date:** [December 8, 2015, 12:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-a-nice-way-to-say-to-a-woman/739696/44 "2015-12-08T12:25:50Z")
> [@Arrendajo](#): > > Women want to be appreciated for their brains, not their bodies. Tell her she has beautiful frontal lobes. You win the thread. Bravo! ---
**Author:** ![DrFidelius](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drfidelius/32/3447_2.png) [@DrFidelius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrFidelius)\ **Post date:** [December 8, 2015, 12:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-a-nice-way-to-say-to-a-woman/739696/45 "2015-12-08T12:55:25Z")
I tend to say “Yowsa!” or “Hubba-hubba” but many of my female Facebook friends are pin-up models or strippers. ---
**Author:** ![WordMan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/e8c25b/32.png) [@WordMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WordMan)\ **Post date:** [December 8, 2015, 1:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-a-nice-way-to-say-to-a-woman/739696/46 "2015-12-08T13:04:30Z")
Yes. The term is “Pbbbbbbbtttt!!!”: the motorboat sound you make when you place your face between her boobs and blow. She’ll love it! ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2015, 12:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-a-nice-way-to-say-to-a-woman/739696/47 "2015-12-09T12:17:39Z")
It’s not like anyone else is directly commenting on her breasts, either. I’m not sure a guy friend or her son couldn’t have said the same things. ---
**Author:** ![LSLGuy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lslguy/32/5813_2.png) [@LSLGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LSLGuy)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2015, 3:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-a-nice-way-to-say-to-a-woman/739696/48 "2015-12-09T15:37:46Z")
> [@BigT](#): > > It’s not like anyone else is directly commenting on her breasts, either. I’m not sure a guy friend \*\*or her son \*\*couldn’t have said the same things. Bolding mine. “Hey Mom: Nice Tits!!” Not a comment I’d expect to hear from too many sons regardless of age. Might be evidence of an … errm … unusual … family dynamic perhaps? ---
**Author:** ![JRDelirious](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jrdelirious/32/9531_2.png) [@JRDelirious](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JRDelirious)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2015, 3:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-a-nice-way-to-say-to-a-woman/739696/49 "2015-12-09T15:44:20Z")
> [@LSLGuy](#): > > Bolding mine. > > “Hey Mom: Nice Tits!!” Y’know, I honestly expect that in my lifetime I’ll hear that line in a TV sitcom… ---
**Author:** ![Find\_Friends](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/c37758/32.png) [@Find\_Friends](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Find_Friends)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2015, 3:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-a-nice-way-to-say-to-a-woman/739696/50 "2015-12-09T15:46:43Z")
> [@TriPolar](#): > > If you don’t know her well just keep limit it to “Nice Blouse!”.\* > > If you know her a little better then your eyeballs should pop about 1 foot out of your head, your hat should fly up in in the air, your bow tie should spin like a propeller, your tongue should roll out of your mouth and down to the floor like a red carpet, smoke should shoot out of your ears, and there should be a loud Ah-Ooo-Gah sound. She’s not going to be impressed with anything less. > > \*Allegedly the MO of Newt Gingrich 😃 ---
**Author:** ![LSLGuy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lslguy/32/5813_2.png) [@LSLGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LSLGuy)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2015, 3:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-a-nice-way-to-say-to-a-woman/739696/51 "2015-12-09T15:47:50Z")
> [@JRDelirious](#): > > Y’know, I honestly expect that in my lifetime I’ll hear that line in a TV sitcom… The nice part about a race to the bottom is it’s almost never over. There’s always a new depth to plumb. :eek: ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2015, 9:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-a-nice-way-to-say-to-a-woman/739696/52 "2015-12-09T21:53:29Z")
> [@LSLGuy](#): > > Bolding mine. > > “Hey Mom: Nice Tits!!” > > Not a comment I’d expect to hear from too many sons regardless of age. Might be evidence of an … errm … unusual … family dynamic perhaps? I’m referring to the OP, who said > [@Urbanredneck](#): > > One of the women said “You know how to work that dress” and she said her daughter went “Oh my Mom”. Most people just pointed out just how beautiful she looked and she really enjoyed the compliments. PS. it’s funny how other women can say things about boobage but men are not. I don’t see how any of those things are things men could say about “boobage” that men could not. ---
**Author:** ![gigi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a587f6/32.png) [@gigi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gigi)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2015, 10:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-a-nice-way-to-say-to-a-woman/739696/53 "2015-12-09T22:23:56Z")
> [@Arrendajo](#): > > Women want to be appreciated for their brains, not their bodies. Tell her she has beautiful frontal lobes. This line from Ally McBeal has always stuck with me, just the way the actress said it: Renée: Ally, do you know how many men have been interested in me only because of my big, lofty goals? “big. lofty goals” kind of overenunciated to indicate euphemism. > [@even\_sven](#): > > To women, boobs are generally just boobs. They can be big or small, and played up or played down, but we rarely invest the kind of emotional attachment to them that we might with a slim figure or a nice face. I’m not being 😕 here, but is this true? I don’t have many friends and the women I know don’t discuss boobs. But I would think boobs are right up there (heh) with things women are concerned about. ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2015, 2:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-a-nice-way-to-say-to-a-woman/739696/54 "2015-12-10T02:28:46Z")
Short answer: no. Unless you wish to communicate your desire to fuck a person, don’t comment on their body parts sexually. (If you are super close friends this may not apply… but if that were the case, you wouldn’t have to ask.) [Obligatory Onion Link.](http://www.theonion.com/article/woman-flattered-complete-stranger-would-say-someth-33304) ---
**Author:** ![j666](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/9de0a6/32.png) [@j666](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/j666)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2015, 2:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-a-nice-way-to-say-to-a-woman/739696/55 "2015-12-10T02:51:32Z")
> [@PatrickLondon](#): > > If she’s not already in a relationship with you, yes. It’s just bad manners to comment uninvited on anyone else’s sexual attributes. Actually, it’s bad manners to make a “personal comment” about any attribute, sexual or otherwise. The only men who can comment on a woman’s breasts are her dress-maker, plastic surgeon, or oncologist. > [@Little\_Nemo](#): > > I believe there was an old rule of etiquette that said you shouldn’t speak to a person directly until somebody had introduced that person to you. > > That rule has mostly fallen to the side but it still applies in this situation. A man should not speak directly about a woman’s breasts until the woman has chosen to introduce you to them. Nice recycling there. Now try applying “the roof is the introduction rule” to this case. ---
**Author:** ![puzzlegal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/puzzlegal/32/3827_2.png) [@puzzlegal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/puzzlegal)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2015, 2:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-a-nice-way-to-say-to-a-woman/739696/56 "2015-12-10T14:06:44Z")
> [@gigi](#): > > …I’m not being 😕 here, but is this true? I don’t have many friends and the women I know don’t discuss boobs. But I would think boobs are right up there (heh) with things women are concerned about. I’d guess yes. It’s not a part of my body I am especially invested in. But I haven’t talked to a lot of other women about it, and I might be wrong. > [@j666](#): > > … > Nice recycling there. > > Now try applying “the roof is the introduction rule” to this case. It works. If you and the boobs are both under her blouse, you can safely comment on them. ---
**Author:** ![Urbanredneck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/ea5d25/32.png) [@Urbanredneck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Urbanredneck)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2015, 3:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-a-nice-way-to-say-to-a-woman/739696/57 "2015-12-10T15:21:57Z")
> [@puzzlegal](#): > > I’d guess yes. It’s not a part of my body I am especially invested in. But I haven’t talked to a lot of other women about it, and I might be wrong. > . Well maybe not in the context of say a PTA meeting but at a party where the women have had some drinks and ALL topics come out. Another is when they are wearing swimsuits and the topics are rather “obvious” so to speak. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2015, 3:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-a-nice-way-to-say-to-a-woman/739696/58 "2015-12-10T15:29:09Z")
> [@usedtobe](#): > > Following that lead:“My your boobs look well lifted and separated!” might work… I thought bras were supposed to lift and smoosh together. ---
**Author:** ![LSLGuy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lslguy/32/5813_2.png) [@LSLGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LSLGuy)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2015, 3:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-a-nice-way-to-say-to-a-woman/739696/59 "2015-12-10T15:34:35Z")
> [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](#): > > I thought bras were supposed to lift and smoosh together. Depends on which era we’re talking about. You might be too young to have lived through the “lift & separate” era. Before anybody was willing to show any chest skin below the larynx having two separately identifiable breasts proudly poking forth from your sweater or blouse was considered \*much \*hotter than the full-width “uniboob” look. Kinda like how women look now while wearing a car’s seatbelt / shoulder harness combo. But without the strapwork being visible. ---
**Author:** ![puzzlegal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/puzzlegal/32/3827_2.png) [@puzzlegal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/puzzlegal)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2015, 4:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-a-nice-way-to-say-to-a-woman/739696/60 "2015-12-10T16:26:18Z")
> [@Urbanredneck](#): > > Well maybe not in the context of say a PTA meeting but at a party where the women have had some drinks and ALL topics come out. > > Another is when they are wearing swimsuits and the topics are rather “obvious” so to speak. Honestly, it’s a topic that mostly “comes out” among my friends if someone is having trouble nursing or has been diagnosed with breast cancer. I mean, you can SEE them when we are wearing swimsuits, but if it’s just girls, no one is going to comment on them. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-a-nice-way-to-say-to-a-woman/739696.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-a-nice-way-to-say-to-a-woman/739696.md?page=4)