# Is there any truth to the stereotype that crazy women are good in bed? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 20, 2012, 7:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-any-truth-to-the-stereotype-that-crazy-women-are-good-in-bed/632089 "2012-08-20T19:57:41Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Diamonds02](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b5a626/32.png) [@Diamonds02](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diamonds02)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2012, 7:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-any-truth-to-the-stereotype-that-crazy-women-are-good-in-bed/632089/1 "2012-08-20T19:57:41Z")
I don’t have enough experience to weigh in on this. I do notice, however, that crazy women are more likely to have more sexual partners and talk about their exploits. I am curious if they are actually better in bed than sane women, on average. Dopers who have been around, what were your experiences? ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2012, 8:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-any-truth-to-the-stereotype-that-crazy-women-are-good-in-bed/632089/2 "2012-08-20T20:03:22Z")
Not that I can tell. ---
**Author:** ![Justin\_Bailey](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/justin_bailey/32/8792_2.png) [@Justin\_Bailey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Justin_Bailey)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2012, 8:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-any-truth-to-the-stereotype-that-crazy-women-are-good-in-bed/632089/3 "2012-08-20T20:06:57Z")
Nah… too easy… ---
**Author:** ![Munch](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/munch/32/5281_2.png) [@Munch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Munch)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2012, 8:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-any-truth-to-the-stereotype-that-crazy-women-are-good-in-bed/632089/4 "2012-08-20T20:08:22Z")
> [@Justin\_Bailey](#): > > Nah… too easy… No kidding. ---
**Author:** ![Smeghead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f1d935/32.png) [@Smeghead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Smeghead)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2012, 8:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-any-truth-to-the-stereotype-that-crazy-women-are-good-in-bed/632089/5 "2012-08-20T20:17:37Z")
Can’t imagine why that OKCupid thing didn’t work out. ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2012, 8:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-any-truth-to-the-stereotype-that-crazy-women-are-good-in-bed/632089/6 "2012-08-20T20:46:54Z")
Yes, and it’s not worth it.\* _At least not twice._\* \*\*OK, that depends if you are looking back and thinking about the sex or the crazy part. ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2012, 8:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-any-truth-to-the-stereotype-that-crazy-women-are-good-in-bed/632089/7 "2012-08-20T20:55:29Z")
> [@Munch](#): > > No kidding. Damn near bit my tongue off. ---
**Author:** ![Yarster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/7c8e57/32.png) [@Yarster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yarster)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2012, 8:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-any-truth-to-the-stereotype-that-crazy-women-are-good-in-bed/632089/8 "2012-08-20T20:57:57Z")
I’m not sure there would be any scientific way to measure ‘craziness’ against quality in bed since it is quite subjective. My guess is generally yes based on very limited experience is: 1. Crazy women, because they are the way they are, will have few if any any long term partners since the non-sex part of the relationship is unmanageable assuming the other person is normal. As such, I’ll go out on a limb and say they have more sexual partners on average than an equivalent non-crazy women. 2. The more sex they have, like any skill someone practices, the better at it they become. In addition, I would say they would become more comfortable being naked and with their bodies such that they would try more adventurous sex all things being equal. 3. Assuming they want to be in a relationship, and realize from past experience that they are unable to do so (likely not accepting that they are crazy) they may be more eager to please a potential new partner, especially if they have self esteem issues. That is, “No one wants to be with me because I’m broken, but men who I do the ‘X’ unusual sex act with seem to really enjoy it, and watching how much they enjoy it makes me feel better about myself” Ergo: Yes, in answer to your question… ---
**Author:** ![Sicks\_Ate](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/258eb7/32.png) [@Sicks\_Ate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sicks_Ate)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2012, 8:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-any-truth-to-the-stereotype-that-crazy-women-are-good-in-bed/632089/9 "2012-08-20T20:58:56Z")
Yes, a percentage of them are. Just like it’s truth that a portion of perfectly wonderful level-headed women are good in bed. ---
**Author:** ![kyogi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/51bf81/32.png) [@kyogi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kyogi)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2012, 9:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-any-truth-to-the-stereotype-that-crazy-women-are-good-in-bed/632089/10 "2012-08-20T21:14:41Z")
Yes. Unquestionably. Worth it? Very questionable. ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2012, 9:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-any-truth-to-the-stereotype-that-crazy-women-are-good-in-bed/632089/11 "2012-08-20T21:30:06Z")
Years ago I had a girlfriend who was in desperate need of therapy. She was adventurous, giving, and submissive in bed, and also subscribed (or at least claimed to subscribe) to the belief that it was positively immoral for a woman to reach orgasm before the man did; she felt that if she was in a relationship, keeping her man happy was her God-given duty. She’d also weep inconsolably for a good hour after sex and could only achieve climax herself if she were insulted and manhandled during the act; and that was only the tip of the iceberg when it came to her lack of self-esteem. So yes, in this case a “crazy” woman was better in bed because of her “craziness.” ---
**Author:** ![Emtar\_KronJonDerSohn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/58956e/32.png) [@Emtar\_KronJonDerSohn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Emtar_KronJonDerSohn)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2012, 9:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-any-truth-to-the-stereotype-that-crazy-women-are-good-in-bed/632089/12 "2012-08-20T21:53:29Z")
I don’t think so. The craziest chick I ever boned always got her way by throwing tantrums and she acted so childish that I sometimes felt like a child molester. She was of age and she always wanted to try freaky stuff, but she wasn’t really any good at it and I found myself making excuses not to sleep with her hoping she would find someone else and kick me to the curb and not stalk me. That didn’t work. ---
**Author:** ![Onomatopoeia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/onomatopoeia/32/4145_2.png) [@Onomatopoeia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Onomatopoeia)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2012, 10:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-any-truth-to-the-stereotype-that-crazy-women-are-good-in-bed/632089/13 "2012-08-20T22:09:09Z")
> [@Diamonds02](#): > > I don’t have enough experience to weigh in on this. I do notice, however, that crazy women are more likely to have more sexual partners and talk about their exploits. > > I am curious if they are actually better in bed than sane women, on average. > > Dopers who have been around, what were your experiences? I haven’t dated in a long, long, long time, but your question took me right back to someone I dated over 25 years ago who was freaking off her bloody rocker. She was very smart; spoke 4 languages, which I’m a sucker for, and worked for the Swiss Consulate in New York. Being in public with her, however, was always an adventure and mostly not in a good way as she had no inhibitions that I could detect. She almost got me beaten up one day outside of Junior’s in Brooklyn when she loudly made fun of three guys wearing sheepskin jackets (sheepskin jackets were very popular in the inner city in those days) who were minding their own business walking down the street. I was able to talk my way out of what most likely would have been a nasty beat-down, but I was pissed at her for a while anyway…not that she cared. But yeah, best sex of my life, by far…and I was relieved when we broke up. ---
**Author:** ![StusBlues](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dc4da7/32.png) [@StusBlues](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StusBlues)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2012, 10:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-any-truth-to-the-stereotype-that-crazy-women-are-good-in-bed/632089/14 "2012-08-20T22:17:07Z")
There’s definitely a lack of inhibition, and that can be a good thing. Crazy women rarely devote themselves to learning the skills that take one over the edge from good to great, though. That, and somewhat wilder, more uninhibited sex is DEFINITELY not worth putting up with the crazy. ---
**Author:** ![HoneyBadgerDC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/honeybadgerdc/32/1033_2.png) [@HoneyBadgerDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HoneyBadgerDC)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2012, 10:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-any-truth-to-the-stereotype-that-crazy-women-are-good-in-bed/632089/15 "2012-08-20T22:58:57Z")
Well, I have seldom had a woman that wasn’t crazy and most of them were good in bed. I have no idea what a normal woman is like. ---
**Author:** ![Zebra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/c0e974/32.png) [@Zebra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zebra)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2012, 11:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-any-truth-to-the-stereotype-that-crazy-women-are-good-in-bed/632089/16 "2012-08-20T23:23:20Z")
They will be up for just about anything. Anything you want. Just ask. ---
**Author:** ![al27052](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/41988e/32.png) [@al27052](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/al27052)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2012, 11:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-any-truth-to-the-stereotype-that-crazy-women-are-good-in-bed/632089/17 "2012-08-20T23:35:33Z")
> [@Sicks\_Ate](#): > > Yes, a percentage of them are. Just like it’s truth that a portion of perfectly wonderful level-headed women are good in bed. Oh my fucking God. Has PC-ness even infected THIS thead? Way to threadshit. ---
**Author:** ![al27052](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/41988e/32.png) [@al27052](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/al27052)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2012, 11:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-any-truth-to-the-stereotype-that-crazy-women-are-good-in-bed/632089/18 "2012-08-20T23:36:40Z")
> [@Yarster](#): > > I’m not sure there would be any scientific way to measure ‘craziness’ against quality in bed since it is quite subjective. My guess is generally yes based on very limited experience is: > > 1. Crazy women, because they are the way they are, will have few if any any long term partners since the non-sex part of the relationship is unmanageable assuming the other person is normal. As such, I’ll go out on a limb and say they have more sexual partners on average than an equivalent non-crazy women. > > 2. The more sex they have, like any skill someone practices, the better at it they become. In addition, I would say they would become more comfortable being naked and with their bodies such that they would try more adventurous sex all things being equal. > > 3. Assuming they want to be in a relationship, and realize from past experience that they are unable to do so (likely not accepting that they are crazy) they may be more eager to please a potential new partner, especially if they have self esteem issues. That is, “No one wants to be with me because I’m broken, but men who I do the ‘X’ unusual sex act with seem to really enjoy it, and watching how much they enjoy it makes me feel better about myself” > > Ergo: Yes, in answer to your question… I 100% agree with all of these, both in terms of my experiences and in terms of common sense. ---
**Author:** ![Jaledin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Jaledin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jaledin)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2012, 11:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-any-truth-to-the-stereotype-that-crazy-women-are-good-in-bed/632089/19 "2012-08-20T23:45:29Z")
What in the hell are you talking about, OP? Like full-on mental fat tranny Tim Curry crazy? Or just kind of impulsive chick who wants to get their gun off? The latter are fine – cross selb I never had the former, but it’s not a def sentence slapping leather with some Missus Ma’am who happens to take a shine to you. Why are you asking? ---
**Author:** ![DrFidelius](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drfidelius/32/3447_2.png) [@DrFidelius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrFidelius)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2012, 11:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-any-truth-to-the-stereotype-that-crazy-women-are-good-in-bed/632089/20 "2012-08-20T23:48:26Z")
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