# Is There Anything Good About Male Sexuality? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 15, 2015, 1:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352 "2015-09-15T13:22:57Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![LinusK](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/258eb7/32.png) [@LinusK](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LinusK)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2015, 1:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352/1 "2015-09-15T13:22:57Z")
Is there anything good about male sexuality? ---
**Author:** ![Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/qadgop_the_mercotan/32/83_2.png) [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Qadgop_the_Mercotan)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2015, 1:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352/2 "2015-09-15T13:27:16Z")
šŸ˜• Itā€™s pretty much all good, in my experience. Some minor drawbacks in my days of reckless youth, but nothing terrible resulted from that. ---
**Author:** ![Eonwe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/eonwe/32/240_2.png) [@Eonwe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eonwe)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2015, 1:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352/3 "2015-09-15T13:30:50Z")
Is this more of a rhetorical rant? Whatā€™s your debate, **LinusK**? ---
**Author:** ![kk\_fusion](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kk_fusion/32/15276_2.png) [@kk\_fusion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kk_fusion)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2015, 1:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352/4 "2015-09-15T13:34:42Z")
If you think thereā€™s anything good about _female_ sexuality, then it needs a male counterpart to be effective. If you donā€™t, then I donā€™t understand why you single out males here. ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2015, 1:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352/5 "2015-09-15T13:35:11Z")
Not much bad about it. Nothing bad about it that is solely male. ---
**Author:** ![Stoneburg](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/df705f/32.png) [@Stoneburg](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stoneburg)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2015, 1:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352/6 "2015-09-15T13:38:03Z")
It would probably help to explain what you mean with ā€œmale sexualityā€. If you mean the penis, which is the only thing I can think of that Iā€™m pretty sure fits the bill unequivocally for everyone, then I have to say itā€™s fine. At least mine is. Iā€™m a huge fan and weā€™ve become great friends over the year. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2015, 1:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352/7 "2015-09-15T13:38:07Z")
The whole orgasm thing is a-ok in my book. ---
**Author:** ![up\_the\_junction](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/f1d935/32.png) [@up\_the\_junction](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/up_the_junction)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2015, 1:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352/8 "2015-09-15T13:46:26Z")
Fwiw, Iā€™m currently averaging about three news articles a day telling me how shit I am, by dint of birth gender. Itā€™s been like this since about 1976. ---
**Author:** ![Jonathan\_Chance](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jonathan_chance/32/701_2.png) [@Jonathan\_Chance](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jonathan_Chance)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2015, 1:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352/9 "2015-09-15T13:48:14Z")
Off to IMHO ---
**Author:** ![andros](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e480ec/32.png) [@andros](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/andros)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2015, 2:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352/10 "2015-09-15T14:14:52Z")
> [@Stoneburg](#): > > If you mean the penis, which is the only thing I can think of that Iā€™m pretty sure fits the bill unequivocally for everyone, then I have to say itā€™s fine. At least mine is. Iā€™m a huge fan and weā€™ve become great friends over the year. I know a number of men without penises. AFAIK their sexuality is just fine. ---
**Author:** ![running\_coach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/running_coach/32/15836_2.png) [@running\_coach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/running_coach)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2015, 2:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352/11 "2015-09-15T14:21:48Z")
> [@up\_the\_junction](#): > > Fwiw, Iā€™m currently averaging about three news articles a day telling me how shit I am, by dint of birth gender. Itā€™s been like this since about 1976. I ainā€™t got time to _read_. ---
**Author:** ![Esox\_Lucius](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/848f3c/32.png) [@Esox\_Lucius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Esox_Lucius)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2015, 2:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352/12 "2015-09-15T14:29:38Z")
> [@Jonathan\_Chance](#): > > Off to IMHO **I** **M** ust **H** ave **O** rgasms? Makes sense for this thread. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2015, 2:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352/13 "2015-09-15T14:33:25Z")
> [@up\_the\_junction](#): > > Fwiw, Iā€™m currently averaging about three news articles a day telling me how shit I am, by dint of birth gender. Itā€™s been like this since about 1976. Are you female, or is there some third gender Iā€™m unaware of? Iā€™m a man, and I read a lot, and the only real criticism of _my_ gender is the implication from housewares commercials that weā€™re all hopeless domestic peons. ---
**Author:** ![BrainGlutton](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/82dd89/32.png) [@BrainGlutton](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BrainGlutton)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2015, 2:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352/14 "2015-09-15T14:36:55Z")
> [@jsgoddess](#): > > Not much bad about it. Nothing bad about it that is solely male. Well, perhaps there is; almost all rapes are done by men. And most sexual harassment. And cat-calling on the street. And prostitution (straight and gay) exists mostly for a male market. The male sex drive might not really be any more powerful than the female, but it is definitely more urgent, and less discriminate. ---
**Author:** ![maryann660ac](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c77e96/32.png) [@maryann660ac](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/maryann660ac)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2015, 2:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352/15 "2015-09-15T14:39:55Z")
everthing good about mals sexuality without it i would be out of a job ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2015, 2:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352/16 "2015-09-15T14:45:02Z")
OP needs to quit pestering his wife for sex when sheā€™s not in the mood. Ditto watching porn to get her in the mood. ---
**Author:** ![Enderw24](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ba9def/32.png) [@Enderw24](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Enderw24)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2015, 3:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352/17 "2015-09-15T15:20:05Z")
> [@LinusK](#): > > Is there anything good about male sexuality? Men, huh, yeah What are they good for? Absolutely nothing, uh-huh, uh-huh Men, huh, yeah What are they good for? Absolutely nothing, say it again, yā€™all ---
**Author:** ![Stoneburg](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/df705f/32.png) [@Stoneburg](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stoneburg)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2015, 3:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352/18 "2015-09-15T15:29:21Z")
> [@andros](#): > > I know a number of men without penises. AFAIK their sexuality is just fine. Well I guess we are at the point now where we can not agree on anything being male or female. If my penis were to leave me, however, I would be devastated and suspect that my sex life would take a real downturn. ---
**Author:** ![OneCentStamp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/13edae/32.png) [@OneCentStamp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OneCentStamp)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2015, 3:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352/19 "2015-09-15T15:31:32Z")
> [@LinusK](#): > > Is there anything good about male sexuality? Well, you can say this: for its intended function (i.e. the propagation of the species), it absolutely works. ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2015, 3:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352/20 "2015-09-15T15:43:47Z")
Iā€™m on pretty good terms with my own, overall. But yeah, there are some damn _silly_ things about male sexuality, Iā€™ll warrant. Being so strongly attracted to someone on the basis of what she looks like, for instance, whatā€™s up with that, pardon the entendre? If the attractive womenfolk were equally inclined to give me the glance and say ā€œyeah you look yummy to me tooā€ and start undressing me, that would be one thing, but since instead theyā€™re mostly annoyed by guys they donā€™t even know expressing sexual interest, itā€™s a pretty useless response. I mean, the visual cuteness of a stranger isnā€™t an indicator of whether or not sheā€™d be a good girlfriend, so if the world is very thinly populated with female people who are as interested in immediately bedding me on sight as my sexuality makes me interested in doing so to them, itā€™s a response doomed to lifelong thwartation. I know some people have the notion that weā€™re supposed to try hard (sorry, they just write themselves) to make stuff happen anyway, but if the female-bodied person is mostly only interested in sex if thereā€™s a personal connection with the possibility of emotional intensity and perhaps ongoing relationship evolving out of it, then the visual-attraction thingie just isnā€™t relevant. First off, because Iā€™m a slut in that regard. Being found visually sexually attractive by me isnā€™t much of a compliment, a huge majority of the femalepeople betwixt 13 and 90 fit into that category. Then, given that as a starting point, if Iā€™m going to narrow my focus to those I find fascinating and interesting as people, now weā€™re back to being on the same playing field, me and the female folk, insofar as these would be mutual interests, and therefore thereā€™s no particular reason at this point that I should be trying to make stuff happen except in the same fashion that they are, and the visually-compelling sexiness thingie is relegated to entertaining but irrelevant. (Of course there _are_ people who assert that itā€™s only a social-cultural myth that we male-bodied people have distinctively more of that visual sexual attraction thing going on, and that itā€™s just been socially verboten for women to express it and act on it. It _would_ be nice to think I have the same effect on random-stranger female people that they have on me! But it does seem from my experience that the visual thing is indeed much more of a male-sexuality characteristic) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352.md?page=2)