# Is There Anything Good About Male Sexuality? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 15, 2015, 1:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352 "2015-09-15T13:22:57Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/6/e19adc/32.png) [@6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast)\ **Post date:** [September 17, 2015, 4:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352/81 "2015-09-17T16:15:56Z")
**LinusK** , you got me at “…only two entries…” ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [September 17, 2015, 4:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352/82 "2015-09-17T16:20:34Z")
> [@2ManyTacos](#): > > Well, on the whole, male sexuality ensures that our species continues to propagate, so that’s a win. > > But beyond that, at least in comparison to _female_ sexuality, us guys probably got the short end of the stick. Men generally want to have sex _far more_ than women; men are more sexually aroused by visuals than women, and we can’t even share in the multiple orgasms that women can enjoy when _they_ have sex. > > C’est la vie. Most women can’t have a single orgasm easily, let alone multiples. Many, many women cannot orgasm from intercourse alone, yet many men get all huffy when a woman tries to introduce a toy into the bedroom. And of course women’s sexuality has been kind of put in the closet and locked up for a long time - if you like it too much clearly you’re a whore. I certainly say women got the short end of the stick! ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [September 17, 2015, 4:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352/83 "2015-09-17T16:25:49Z")
Gah, I should know better than to ever respond to a LinusK thread though. Oops. ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [September 17, 2015, 4:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352/84 "2015-09-17T16:34:14Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > I certainly say women got the short end of the stick! So you’re saying size _does_ matter…? ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [September 17, 2015, 9:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352/85 "2015-09-17T21:34:22Z")
> [@Martian Bigfoot](#): > > About time someone around here said it out loud. I was wondering when somone would point out the elephant in the room. 😉 > > Oh, yeah, I’m totally a jerk. Not pretending otherwise. So maybe I shouldn’t blame my sex drive, and instead just declare myself incompetent to drive it. As I said, I mostly wish it would go away. As I was getting at earlier, this thread has reminded me that other people are capable of driving theirs safely, while enjoying the experience, and not getting into too many accidents. > > And, I know, you could say: “Why not simply stop being a jerk?” Well, the problem is, I don’t always realize that I’m being a jerk. I look back now at situations where my behavior somehow made sense to me at a time, but now it’s obvious that I was being a jerk. It seems foolish to think that it couldn’t happen again. > > If I didn’t want to bonk anyone, I’d still be a jerk. But at least I would be a jerk in the privacy of my own home, as opposed to a jerk rummaging around in other people’s underwear. Only the worst of the worst intend to be jerks. And everyone is a jerk to some degree at some times. But a fatalistic attitude doesn’t help. So you don’t notice when you’re being a jerk. So figure out what it means to be a jerk and try to catch yourself when it happens. The same way someone with depression has to catch when they think depressed thoughts or an anxious person has to catch anxious thoughts. You clearly can not be a jerk, as I’ve never really felt you were a jerk to anyone here–at least, not for any extended period. And you don’t like being a jerk. So why not try? It’s a lot easier than trying to get rid of your libido, that’s for sure. ---
**Author:** ![Lord\_Ashtar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7ea924/32.png) [@Lord\_Ashtar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lord_Ashtar)\ **Post date:** [September 17, 2015, 10:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352/86 "2015-09-17T22:39:23Z")
> [@Martian Bigfoot](#): > > I’ve never raped anyone. But I have behaved like a dick, and ruined perfectly good friendships, because I’ve wanted to bonk someone instead of appreciating them as a human being. I’m not happy about that. > > Yes. Or, well, I don’t know if that phrase has ever come up in conversation. But I do sometimes feel like I should come with a warning tag attached: “Will sometimes become creepy and stupid when aroused.” I’ve certainly apologized quite a lot for stupid shit I’ve done because I was horny. > > Certainly when I was younger. Less so now, though, I suppose. One benefit of getting older. Everything you’ve listed here is individual behavior and has nothing to do with “male sexuality”. For instance, there are women who have ruined relationships with male friends because they wanted it to become sexual and he didn’t. ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [September 18, 2015, 2:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352/87 "2015-09-18T02:12:44Z")
All I know is I feel pretty. ---
**Author:** ![halman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/5f9b8f/32.png) [@halman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/halman)\ **Post date:** [September 18, 2015, 5:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352/88 "2015-09-18T05:21:22Z")
> [@Aangelica](#): > > I believe this is actually less a function of male sexuality and more a function of male _behavior_. Sexuality and behavior, while sometimes related, are not inextricably intertwined. One need not behave badly to express one’s sexuality, male or not. True, but a human male can perform sexually with all of his higher reasoning centers destroyed. As happens every weekend to many men. ---
**Author:** ![Runs\_With\_Scissors](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/278dde/32.png) [@Runs\_With\_Scissors](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Runs_With_Scissors)\ **Post date:** [September 18, 2015, 6:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352/89 "2015-09-18T06:46:46Z")
Yes. Next topic? ---
**Author:** ![jz78817](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jz78817/32/1028_2.png) [@jz78817](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jz78817)\ **Post date:** [September 18, 2015, 7:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352/90 "2015-09-18T07:00:45Z")
> [@Siam\_Sam](#): > > Sounds like someone’s Little Buddy has been getting him in Dutch lately. No, just an MRA who thinks the deck is stacked against men. ---
**Author:** ![Your\_Great\_Darsh\_Face](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/ac8455/32.png) [@Your\_Great\_Darsh\_Face](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Your_Great_Darsh_Face)\ **Post date:** [September 18, 2015, 12:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352/91 "2015-09-18T12:44:11Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > Most women can’t have a single orgasm easily, let alone multiples. Many, many women cannot orgasm from intercourse alone, yet many men get all huffy when a woman tries to introduce a toy into the bedroom. And of course women’s sexuality has been kind of put in the closet and locked up for a long time - if you like it too much clearly you’re a whore. > > I certainly say women got the short end of the stick! You’re probably right, although as to the toys issue, I’d really like if a few men could check in some time with their stories about how they said “Honey, you know you’re not really getting me off these days so I think we should start using this Fleshlight together?” and tell us how it went down. ---
**Author:** ![LinusK](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/258eb7/32.png) [@LinusK](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LinusK)\ **Post date:** [September 18, 2015, 9:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352/92 "2015-09-18T21:04:29Z")
Originally I was just going to reassure \*\*JSGoddess \*\* & friends that I wouldn’t be bothering her: in fact, this is only here because somebody moved it. There was at least one thoughtful reply, though, so: \*\*WF \*\ ***Tomba** : > [@](#): > > I think I’m getting an idea of what LinusK’s angle is. He’s saying that feminism is dedicated to fighting an enemy that, in his opinion, no longer exists. He feels that female sexuality is no longer demonized, and that the pendulum has in fact swung all the way to the other side of the clock. Yes, that’s exactly right. > [@](#): > > My response to that: Western culture has become fragmented. I’d argue, that if anything, it’s become more homogeneous. Television, internet, interstates, and increased mobility have all worked to make the US less diverse, culturally. Who lives in the same town they were born in, anymore? > [@](#): > > There is no longer a real mainstream. I think there certainly is a mainstream: that doesn’t mean everybody belongs to it, merely that it exists. A hundred or 150 years ago, if you’d talked about “mainstream”, people wouldn’t know what you’re talking about. Today - while certainly not everybody agrees with it - they do. > [@](#): > > If you spend all day reading opinion pieces on liberal/feminist Internet sites, you can get the impression that everyone believes that stuff now, because you never hear any other points of view. > > But there’s a whole other world out there. If you live in the US, try driving through a remote rural area in the South or Midwest, and surf the radio. Try joining a Mason lodge or some other club for good old boys. Or just try watching Fox News for a week. You’ll find attitudes you thought died out fifty years ago. You’re right, of course, that cultural diversity still exists. Some “fundamentalist” Mormons, for example, still practice polygamy. AM talk radio is a microcosm of fear, hate, and lies. There may be communes out there practicing free love and communism. But they’re are not part of mainstream culture. **Mosier** : > [@](#): > > Things would be a lot easier if I didn’t want to fuck everything that moves. I would be more productive. I would treat people better. I wouldn’t have that almost but not quite shameful feeling when I realize a woman has caught me looking, and she’s uncomfortable about it. Don’t take it personal, lady! I do that to every woman. Literally every single one. I can’t help it, and I don’t like doing it. Today I saw a woman wearing florescent pink short-shorts. I can only assume, from her outfit, she doesn’t like being noticed. While it’s true that having a lower sex drive is easier, having a high sex drive doesn’t make you evil. It’s nothing to feel shameful about. ---
**Author:** ![Ann\_Hedonia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ann_hedonia/32/319_2.png) [@Ann\_Hedonia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ann_Hedonia)\ **Post date:** [September 18, 2015, 9:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352/93 "2015-09-18T21:50:37Z")
> [@QuickSilver](#): > > OP needs to quit pestering his wife for sex when she’s not in the mood. Ditto watching porn to get her in the mood. Somehow I’m pretty convinced the OP is single. ---
**Author:** ![DocCathode](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doccathode/32/18773_2.png) [@DocCathode](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DocCathode)\ **Post date:** [September 18, 2015, 9:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352/94 "2015-09-18T21:56:19Z")
> [@LinusK](#): > > While it’s true that having a lower sex drive is easier, having a high sex drive doesn’t make you evil. It’s nothing to feel shameful about. That at least I agree with. Re The Use Of Toys As a stereotypical Jew, if my partner doesn’t orgasm I feel massively guilty. If a toy can help her orgasm, then I support using one. Re Whore To me, exchanging sexual acts for money or such makes you a whore. Enjoying sex is normal and expected. ---
**Author:** ![Grim\_Render](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a87d85/32.png) [@Grim\_Render](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grim_Render)\ **Post date:** [September 18, 2015, 10:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352/95 "2015-09-18T22:37:51Z")
It fills a hole in many peoples lives. ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2015, 4:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352/96 "2015-09-20T04:02:49Z")
> [@jz78817](#): > > No, just an MRA who thinks the deck is stacked against men. MRA? 😕 Master Residential Appraiser? ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2015, 4:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352/97 "2015-09-20T04:14:29Z")
> [@Siam\_Sam](#): > > MRA? 😕 Master Residential Appraiser? Ah, Men’s Rights Activist. Just found it in the Urban Dictionary. ---
**Author:** ![x-man](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/x/46a35a/32.png) [@x-man](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/x-man)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2015, 4:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352/98 "2015-09-20T04:26:47Z")
> [@LinusK](#): > > Originally I was just going to reassure \*\*JSGoddess \*\* & friends that I wouldn’t be bothering her: in fact, this is only here because somebody moved it. > > There was at least one thoughtful reply, though, so: > > \*\*WF \*\ ***Tomba** : > > I’d argue, that if anything, **it’s** become more homogeneous. Television, internet, interstates, and increased mobility have all worked to make the US less diverse, culturally. Who lives in the same town they were born in, anymore? I believe **it** refers in this thread to western civilization. Please do not equate the USA with western civilization. You can’t imagine how offensive this sounds to Canadians and probably to many other peoples as well. I mean no disrespect to anyone here. ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2015, 2:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352/99 "2015-09-20T14:24:08Z")
> [@LinusK](#): > > Today I saw a woman wearing florescent pink short-shorts. I can only assume, from her outfit, she doesn’t like being noticed. I can only assume, from your comments, that you’re generally scared to death of women. ---
**Author:** ![Inna\_Minnit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/5f8ce5/32.png) [@Inna\_Minnit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inna_Minnit)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2015, 4:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352/100 "2015-09-20T16:01:29Z")
> [@LinusK](#): > > Is there anything good about male sexuality? Well, I’m a big fan. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-there-anything-good-about-male-sexuality/731352.md?page=6)