But one side of the no-win is not going and getting shit from your more aggressive counterparts, like Kirk, or not getting a command because you’re too timid, or too callous.
The choices aren’t just dying in manner A or dying in manner B. The choice of not dying IS a valid choice. One IMO I don’t think should be a disqualification from command. If you can justify it. Space is littered with the debris of starships whose captains went in guns a-blazin’. Just because someone once said:
If you can’t take a little bloody nose, maybe you ought to go back home, and crawl under your bed. It’s not safe out here! It’s wondrous…with treasures to satiate desires both subtle and gross; but it’s not for the timid.
Doesn’t mean you have to go and die just to prove you aren’t timid. After all, what are we - Klingons?
This is why I loathe the opening scene in Generations. Captain Cameron kept dismissing every possible way of saving the Enterprise because he knows that choice is pointless:
Kirk: You left spacedock without a tractor beam?
Harriman: It won’t be installed until Tuesday.
but yet, the scene is supposed to make Kirk look heroic and decisive, and Cameron look wimpy
Kirk: [to Harriman] Risk is part of the game if you want to sit in that chair.
But I submit Harriman was right. Or, at least, right-er.