# Is this comment disrespectful to gays??

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-comment-disrespectful-to-gays/797382>\
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [September 26, 2017, 11:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-comment-disrespectful-to-gays/797382 "2017-09-26T23:37:05Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 3\
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**Author:** ![Lamia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8e7dd6/32.png) [@Lamia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lamia)\
**Post date:** [October 1, 2017, 7:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-comment-disrespectful-to-gays/797382/41 "2017-10-01T19:34:01Z")

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> [@HoneyBadgerDC](#):
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> It does involve closets and gays were in the closet for a long time. Funny or not it seems to have caught on, lots of references on different threads to closet NFL fans.

Look, you don’t need to explain your joke to me. I’ve been trying to explain to _you_ why it didn’t go over well, but clearly I am wasting my time.

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**Author:** ![HoneyBadgerDC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/honeybadgerdc/32/1033_2.png) [@HoneyBadgerDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HoneyBadgerDC)\
**Post date:** [October 1, 2017, 7:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-comment-disrespectful-to-gays/797382/42 "2017-10-01T19:56:34Z")

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> [@Lamia](#):
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> Look, you don’t need to explain your joke to me. I’ve been trying to explain to _you_ why it didn’t go over well, but clearly I am wasting my time.

Sorry about that, I understand how some might take it badly, but hopefully not too badly. I didn’t see it as an insult of any kind.

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**Author:** ![TwoCarrotSnowman](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/twocarrotsnowman/32/15879_2.png) [@TwoCarrotSnowman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TwoCarrotSnowman)\
**Post date:** [October 3, 2017, 11:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-comment-disrespectful-to-gays/797382/43 "2017-10-03T11:48:44Z")

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I’d agree that referring to ‘gays’ rather than ‘gay people’ is a bit jarring (I thought that about the thread title as well). I can’t put my finger on why, but I think it’s to do with reducing people to one aspect of their personality. It feels a bit objectifying.

Other than that, not offensive.

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