# Is this inappropriate or I am a prude **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [July 13, 2017, 8:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-inappropriate-or-i-am-a-prude/791192 "2017-07-13T20:15:20Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 19\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2017, 10:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-inappropriate-or-i-am-a-prude/791192/21 "2017-07-13T22:49:28Z")
> [@Thudlow\_Boink](#): > > “Mommy, what’s masticating?” [Ahem](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=712248) ---
**Author:** ![cochrane](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cochrane/32/10441_2.png) [@cochrane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cochrane)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2017, 10:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-inappropriate-or-i-am-a-prude/791192/22 "2017-07-13T22:54:44Z")
> [@Grrr](#): > > Well, I don’t think it’s inappropriate to talk to your children about masturbation. But to film it and post it on YT is a big WTF ?! > That being said, I do think Americans tend to be a little prude. I remember someone share a sex ed video from another country (Switzerland maybe?) on my Facebook, and I remember thinking: “Holy crap! Is this for real?”. I agree. I think it’s appropriate to discuss sex and teach your kid, even if he or she is only 8 or 10 in a private setting. Not so cool to film it and put it out on the internet. ---
**Author:** ![Slash1972](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/slash1972/32/6461_2.png) [@Slash1972](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slash1972)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2017, 11:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-inappropriate-or-i-am-a-prude/791192/23 "2017-07-13T23:19:10Z")
I like Dan Conner’s approach in an episode of Roseanne -“DJ, it’s perfectly normal, everybody does it, but nobody talks about it” Friction burns??? Come on, man! ---
**Author:** ![madsircool](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/madsircool/32/3432_2.png) [@madsircool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/madsircool)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2017, 11:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-inappropriate-or-i-am-a-prude/791192/24 "2017-07-13T23:24:34Z")
> [@Slash1972](#): > > I like Dan Conner’s approach in an episode of Roseanne -“DJ, it’s perfectly normal, everybody does it, but nobody talks about it” > > Friction burns??? Come on, man! Yeah, I can say I never had any friction burns. ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2017, 11:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-inappropriate-or-i-am-a-prude/791192/25 "2017-07-13T23:28:31Z")
> [@Slash1972](#): > > I like Dan Conner’s approach in an episode of Roseanne -“DJ, it’s perfectly normal, everybody does it, but nobody talks about it” > > Friction burns??? Come on, man! I thought the quote was: “It’s like peeing in the shower. Everybody does it, but nobody likes to talk about it.” ---
**Author:** ![Slash1972](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/slash1972/32/6461_2.png) [@Slash1972](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slash1972)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2017, 11:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-inappropriate-or-i-am-a-prude/791192/26 "2017-07-13T23:35:56Z")
I just looked it up, the quote is: “Even though it’s okay and everybody does it and there’s nothing wrong with it, nobody ever ever talks about it” ---
**Author:** ![BobBitchin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7ea924/32.png) [@BobBitchin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BobBitchin)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2017, 12:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-inappropriate-or-i-am-a-prude/791192/27 "2017-07-14T00:43:00Z")
> [@Slash1972](#): > > I like Dan Conner’s approach in an episode of Roseanne -“DJ, it’s perfectly normal, everybody does it, but nobody talks about it” > > Friction burns??? Come on, man! > [@madsircool](#): > > Yeah, I can say I never had any friction burns. I wasn’t,t there but I’ve been told by that.by at least 2 sources. One guy said he heard about masturbating with a sock, he used it as a partner…not a towel. The other was given guidance by a differently equipped friend… evidently guys with a foreskin are less relient on lube, was the story. I don’t know, I wasn’t there. What I do know is that over the years, people tell stories of fail…burn turkeys, crashed cars and on the topic of this thread I’ve heard stories of sex/solo fails. It’s not the examples that stand out, it’s the repeating phenomenon of ignorance and misinformation causing regret and shame where there was no good reason for it. ---
**Author:** ![Machine\_Elf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/82dd89/32.png) [@Machine\_Elf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Machine_Elf)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2017, 3:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-inappropriate-or-i-am-a-prude/791192/28 "2017-07-14T03:20:13Z")
> [@BobBitchin](#): > > But, I’ve seen the outcome of ignorance and misinformation. > > I’ve heard stories of boys getting friction burns, girls getting items stuck, or using the wrong items, it’s horrendous and what’s worse is the shame of having to ask for help afterwards.( Not to mention family and doctors will laugh in your face, you know that nervous “sex/masturbation” laugh). I learned very early on, first-hand (so to speak), that shampoo, slippery though it may be, is not a good choice for a lubricant. I didn’t have to shamefacedly ask for help from anyone afterward, but the skin on my penis was rubbed raw (and my anus and urethra were on fire for a while too). Mighta been nice to have a heads-up before that happened… ---
**Author:** ![Dr.Crap](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dr.crap/32/3131_2.png) [@Dr.Crap](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dr.Crap)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2017, 3:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-inappropriate-or-i-am-a-prude/791192/29 "2017-07-14T03:37:08Z")
I didn’t realize my grip was unconventional until my mid 20s. ---
**Author:** ![MrDibble](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mrdibble/32/114_2.png) [@MrDibble](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MrDibble)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2017, 10:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-inappropriate-or-i-am-a-prude/791192/30 "2017-07-14T10:40:09Z")
> [@Grrr](#): > > That being said, I do think Americans tend to be a little prude. I remember someone share a sex ed video from another country (Switzerland maybe?) on my Facebook, and I remember thinking: “Holy crap! Is this for real?”. Probably Norway [Link to show site](http://tv.nrksuper.no/serie/newton-pubertet) if this was recently. And it is a _great_ sex-ed show. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2017, 12:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-inappropriate-or-i-am-a-prude/791192/31 "2017-07-14T12:32:32Z")
When I was a kid, my mom handed me a two foot high stack of sex-Ed books, a few extremely graphic. I read them cover to cover. With my kids I took the Mr Science approach, starting with how single called organisms reproduce and working my way through birds-bees to a video of a cat having kittens. None of the above was filmed. We lived in a simpler time. ---
**Author:** ![overlyverbose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/9dc877/32.png) [@overlyverbose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/overlyverbose)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2017, 1:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-inappropriate-or-i-am-a-prude/791192/32 "2017-07-14T13:56:37Z")
Wow, that seems a bit much on a few different levels. I think it’s appropriate to talk to your kids about masturbation insomuch as to advise them that it’s private (but not bad) and also that forcing something into your body isn’t the smartest thing to do, but I don’t think they need detailed instruction. Also, as a parent who requests permission of my kids prior to posting pictures of them on facebook (they’re 7 and 11 and most of my eldest’s friends have a phone with data plan, which I think is a whole other issue but I’m old school…and cheap), I couldn’t conceive of posting such an intimate discussion on youtube. ---
**Author:** ![Little\_Nemo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/little_nemo/32/3120_2.png) [@Little\_Nemo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Little_Nemo)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2017, 3:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-inappropriate-or-i-am-a-prude/791192/33 "2017-07-14T15:27:12Z")
Another vote for inappropriate. It’s fine for parents to have conversations on sexual matters with their children. But there’s no good reason to post it online. ---
**Author:** ![MandaJo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ac91a4/32.png) [@MandaJo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MandaJo)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2017, 6:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-inappropriate-or-i-am-a-prude/791192/34 "2017-07-14T18:05:03Z")
> [@BobBitchin](#): > > It’s not the examples that stand out, it’s the repeating phenomenon of ignorance and misinformation causing regret and shame where there was no good reason for it. If you aren’t ashamed of masturbating, then I would think “the time I gave myself a friction burn” becomes a painful-at-the-time-but-amusing-story, like breaking your arm trying to fly. ---
**Author:** ![Barkis\_is\_Willin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/a183cd/32.png) [@Barkis\_is\_Willin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Barkis_is_Willin)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2017, 8:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-inappropriate-or-i-am-a-prude/791192/35 "2017-07-14T20:59:50Z")
Inappropriate. I did not get the sense that those were even serious conversations. It seemed the purpose was for youtube viewers’ entertainment. ---
**Author:** ![Sahirrnee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sahirrnee/32/13937_2.png) [@Sahirrnee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sahirrnee)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2017, 9:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-inappropriate-or-i-am-a-prude/791192/36 "2017-07-14T21:07:40Z")
> [@Machine\_Elf](#): > > I learned very early on, first-hand (so to speak), that shampoo, slippery though it may be, is not a good choice for a lubricant. I didn’t have to shamefacedly ask for help from anyone afterward, but the skin on my penis was rubbed raw (and my anus and urethra were on fire for a while too). Mighta been nice to have a heads-up before that happened… The problem with that is, even if you give a child a detailed talk, unless you have experienced it you are not likely to think of telling them that. Then you have the ones that as soon as you tell them not to do something they just have to go try it and see for themselves. ---
**Author:** ![Sahirrnee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sahirrnee/32/13937_2.png) [@Sahirrnee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sahirrnee)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2017, 9:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-inappropriate-or-i-am-a-prude/791192/37 "2017-07-14T21:16:45Z")
> [@BobBitchin](#): > > NOTICE: THIS POSTER HAS NO CHILDREN :dubious:😃 > > I saw more right than wrong in the video. > > I cringe at the idea of discussion the mechanics of masturbation with my parents let alone if I do it,if they do it etc. > > But, I’ve seen the outcome of ignorance and misinformation. > > I’ve heard stories of boys getting friction burns, girls getting items stuck, or using the wrong items, it’s horrendous and what’s worse is the shame of having to ask for help afterwards.( Not to mention family and doctors will laugh in your face, you know that nervous “sex/masturbation” laugh) > > I with no kids assume it used to be easier before internet, you only had to describe basic sex or self manipulation…now it’s all glow in the dark dildos and donkey sex at any click, and if the kids can see that much more, I have to wonder how much bigger and more damaging the miconseptions might be. > > I am not sure posting a kid’s frank and open sex talk with their parents is a good idea… I agree that there should be a talk, but I think bringing out the toys and asking and telling personal info is too much. We’ve come a long way from it’ll make you go blind or you’ll grow hair on your palms, which is a good thing. ---
**Author:** ![Machine\_Elf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/82dd89/32.png) [@Machine\_Elf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Machine_Elf)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2017, 9:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-inappropriate-or-i-am-a-prude/791192/38 "2017-07-14T21:45:11Z")
> [@Sahirrnee](#): > > The problem with that is, even if you give a child a detailed talk, unless you have experienced it you are not likely to think of telling them that. > > Then you have the ones that as soon as you tell them not to do something they just have to go try it and see for themselves. Individual parents may not have the range of experience to properly educate their kids. It’s the kind of thing that ought to be covered in sex-ed classes and/or books, i.e. how to be safe when exploring your own body - what objects/lubes are safe to play with, and what are not, that sort of thing. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2017, 3:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-inappropriate-or-i-am-a-prude/791192/39 "2017-07-17T03:28:38Z")
Those poor kids seemed so embarassed, especially that one girl with the glasses. “So, have you ever masturbated?” Oh dear god. However, “That’s so rude to chickens” should become a meme. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-inappropriate-or-i-am-a-prude/791192.md?page=1)