# Is this normal? (Work related) **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [December 26, 2010, 3:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-normal-work-related/565429 "2010-12-26T15:31:18Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 18\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Zsofia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/7bcc69/32.png) [@Zsofia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zsofia)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2010, 5:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-normal-work-related/565429/21 "2010-12-27T17:04:28Z")
Or he could just be your garden variety socially awkward person. The point is, you are not required to take rides from anybody, nor to associate with anybody who makes you uncomfortable. And you should listen to your gut as long as your gut isn’t always yelling. ---
**Author:** ![TruCelt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/trucelt/32/523_2.png) [@TruCelt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruCelt)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2010, 6:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-normal-work-related/565429/22 "2010-12-27T18:28:39Z")
I vote sociopath. And read the deBecker book. Alwasy trust your instincts. Bad people are far more common than you’ve been led to believe. ---
**Author:** ![otternell](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/ecc23a/32.png) [@otternell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/otternell)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2010, 7:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-normal-work-related/565429/23 "2010-12-27T19:05:25Z")
Even if its not the more exciting / melodramatic cases as written above, my husband always advised that the person who tries hardest to be your friend is exactly the person you don’t want as a friend. That advice has always been spot-on for me, especially in regards to work acquaintances. If you’re new, and they are trying so hard to be your friend, why is it they aren’t really friends with anyone else at work. There’s a reason, you’re just too new to realize what it is. ---
**Author:** ![Zsofia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/7bcc69/32.png) [@Zsofia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zsofia)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2010, 7:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-normal-work-related/565429/24 "2010-12-27T19:15:01Z")
Well, that only goes for the guy who _isn’t_ friends with other people at work. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Last\_of\_the\_Puritans](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ce73a5/32.png) [@The\_Last\_of\_the\_Puritans](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Last_of_the_Puritans)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2010, 2:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-normal-work-related/565429/25 "2010-12-29T02:30:52Z")
You’ve already told him “no” several times. You no longer owe him any explanation for anything. And if you don’t have to directly work/take orders/communicate with him in any way, I wouldn’t even acknowledge him. If he STILL persists, you’ll have to tell him off in a pretty harsh and public way, with some pretty foul language. It may get you in trouble at work, but hey, no job is worth your life; not even in these times. ---
**Author:** ![SandyHook](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dec6dc/32.png) [@SandyHook](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SandyHook)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2010, 5:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-normal-work-related/565429/26 "2010-12-29T05:49:46Z")
> [@madmonk28](#): > > He is hitting on you. Yeah, that was my first thought. Just let him give you a blow job in the toilet at lunch some day and he’ll quit asking you to let him drive you home. Then, and this is where I show off how incredibly clever about these things, ask your boss if you can work through lunch and go home a half hour earlier. There you go. There’s no need to thank me. Of course you could skip step 1 and go directly to step 2. But hey, we’re talking a blow job here. ---
**Author:** ![ColinZeal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/d07c76/32.png) [@ColinZeal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ColinZeal)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2010, 6:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-normal-work-related/565429/27 "2010-12-29T06:36:44Z")
Wow, very interesting case here. What’s the latest dev on this if anything? ---
**Author:** ![zoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zoid/32/336_2.png) [@zoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zoid)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2010, 6:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-normal-work-related/565429/28 "2010-12-30T18:08:32Z")
Yeah, at some point he’s gonna ask you if you know how to play “Hide the Wienie” ---
**Author:** ![madmonk28](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/madmonk28/32/20811_2.png) [@madmonk28](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/madmonk28)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2010, 6:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-normal-work-related/565429/29 "2010-12-30T18:11:40Z")
I worked with a guy that was kind of like mentioned in the OP, it turned out he was trying to find guys who would bone his wife while he watched and jacked off. Some people just give off the sad and desperate vibe and that’s all you really need to know. ---
**Author:** ![Ryan\_Liam](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ryan_liam/32/3965_2.png) [@Ryan\_Liam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ryan_Liam)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2011, 7:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-normal-work-related/565429/30 "2011-04-14T19:27:13Z")
**UPDATE:** I recently was rehired by the company last week, and on the very first day back he offered me a drive home (this was with other people I work with, a carpool) anyway, I point blank refused to accept a drive home. Same thing happened the next day, luckily I ride to work on my bike now. What happened next was one of my friends explained to the guy why I never wanted a lift from him, and told me that they had a few laughs about it, I don’t mind about that, the guy doesn’t speak to me anymore, my friend said that he doesn’t wanna bother trying with me. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2011, 7:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-normal-work-related/565429/31 "2011-04-14T19:32:34Z")
Well, thanks for the update. That guy still sounds odd. ---
**Author:** ![Wile\_E](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c37758/32.png) [@Wile\_E](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wile_E)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2011, 7:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-normal-work-related/565429/32 "2011-04-14T19:54:05Z")
Well, he may not be a creep, he may just be really co-dependent and thinks he has to help everyone. I have a co-worker like this. Mention that you want a snack and she offers to go to the store to buy it. Ask her if she’s ever been to a produce stand in her neighborhood because you’re thinking of shopping there and she offers to go pick up the produce for you, no I was just asking if you had any experience with the place. She is just so co-dependent that she thinks she has to take care of everyone and please everyone that she gets insistent and annoying about it and yes, it does get a bit creepy. ---
**Author:** ![TruCelt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/trucelt/32/523_2.png) [@TruCelt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruCelt)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2011, 9:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-normal-work-related/565429/33 "2011-04-14T21:33:07Z")
> [@Ryan\_Liam](#): > > **UPDATE:** > > I recently was rehired by the company last week, and on the very first day back he offered me a drive home (this was with other people I work with, a carpool) anyway, I point blank refused to accept a drive home. Same thing happened the next day, luckily I ride to work on my bike now. > > What happened next was one of my friends explained to the guy why I never wanted a lift from him, and told me that they had a few laughs about it, I don’t mind about that, the guy doesn’t speak to me anymore, my friend said that he doesn’t wanna bother trying with me. I’m not sure I understand that last sentence. what exactly did your friend tell him? And what was his response? ---
**Author:** ![Mosier](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ea924/32.png) [@Mosier](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mosier)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2011, 1:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-normal-work-related/565429/34 "2011-04-15T01:20:42Z")
> [@TruCelt](#): > > I’m not sure I understand that last sentence. what exactly did your friend tell him? And what was his response? Sounded to me like friend told creeper why OP doesnt accept his offer for rides, and creeper and friend laughed about the misunderstanding. Creeper probably realized he was being creepy at this point, and doesn’t bother the OP anymore. At least I hope that’s what happened. Awkward workplace relationships really suck. ---
**Author:** ![MPB\_in\_Salt\_Lake](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c0e974/32.png) [@MPB\_in\_Salt\_Lake](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MPB_in_Salt_Lake)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2011, 1:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-normal-work-related/565429/35 "2011-04-15T01:31:01Z")
> [@madmonk28](#): > > I worked with a guy that was kind of like mentioned in the OP, it turned out he was trying to find guys who would bone his wife while he watched and jacked off… I didn’t realize that you used to be a Congressman… ---
**Author:** ![TruCelt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/trucelt/32/523_2.png) [@TruCelt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruCelt)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2011, 3:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-normal-work-related/565429/36 "2011-04-15T15:43:09Z")
> [@](#): > > " he doesn’t wanna bother trying with me." My sense is that the creeper was trying _something_ and has given up. So that’s good. But trying what? Was there any indication? ---
**Author:** ![MikeF](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@MikeF](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MikeF)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2011, 6:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-normal-work-related/565429/37 "2011-04-15T18:29:16Z")
Any unsolved disappearances of people who look like you within 100 miles? Unsolved found murder victims? I’m just sayin’. ---
**Author:** ![Markxxx](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/5daacb/32.png) [@Markxxx](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Markxxx)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2011, 6:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-normal-work-related/565429/38 "2011-04-15T18:32:12Z")
I agree if you think something is wrong, be polite but follow your gut instincts. I knew of a similar guy. He was kind of creepy, harmless but he had no social skills. Poor guy he just wanted a friend and he’d creep people out in the processes. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-normal-work-related/565429.md?page=1)