# Is this not the right place? **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [November 8, 2001, 5:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-not-the-right-place/92147 "2001-11-08T05:46:04Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Sweet\_Sota\_Girl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a587f6/32.png) [@Sweet\_Sota\_Girl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sweet_Sota_Girl)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2001, 5:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-not-the-right-place/92147/1 "2001-11-08T05:46:04Z")
Is “the Pit” not the right place to randomly bitch about something that’s bothering me? Say for instance I have a bad day (or just a bad scene in my day) and I just need to get it off my chest. Is this not an ok place for me to voice it? There seems to be a lot of confusion over this tonight. I realize that not everyone else wants to hear about what went wrong in my day, but they aren’t forced to read my threads are they? I see these types of posts in here constantly, but I’m wondering if we’re all out of line? Maybe one of the Mods (and not some frequent poster who’s decided that since they’ve got a trillion posts under their belt, that qualifies them as a make-shift Mod) can clarify just what The BBQ Pit is for? I apologize if this should have been posted in ATMB, but I felt that since I am concerned specifically with what’s to be posted in the Pit (not the boards in general) that this would be the place to post. Thank, I appreciate it. ---
**Author:** ![GaWd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/f08c70/32.png) [@GaWd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GaWd)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2001, 7:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-not-the-right-place/92147/2 "2001-11-08T07:22:31Z")
You shoulda posted in ATMB. I’m not sure why you wouldn’t use this forum to bitch, piss, whine or moan…that’s what it’s here for. You may also use it for it’s stated purpose “to bitch about the Mods” or whatever it says in the description. Don’t make a big deal about it. Need to fucking cuss? Post here. Gotta get some weight off your chest in a manner that would otherwise be seen as improper for MPSIMS? Post it here… Got a controversial topic that may start a flame war? Might as well post that here too… Got a problem with me answering? Well fuck you too…I see the mods haven’t given a second look at your piddling post so live with it. Sam ---
**Author:** ![Sweet\_Sota\_Girl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a587f6/32.png) [@Sweet\_Sota\_Girl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sweet_Sota_Girl)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2001, 12:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-not-the-right-place/92147/3 "2001-11-08T12:44:18Z")
Thanks for your post GaWd. Getting opinions of what other posters think is and is not acceptable in here is exactly what I was looking for, along with any Mod who might give me good factual rules. ---
**Author:** ![TwistofFate](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/cdc98d/32.png) [@TwistofFate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TwistofFate)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2001, 12:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-not-the-right-place/92147/4 "2001-11-08T12:52:56Z")
> [@](#): > > Is “the Pit” not the right place to randomly bitch about something that’s bothering me? You’re right. it is. But dont expect people not to respond to it. You can choose to defend your rant if you want to, but if you don’t, some people _could_ construe that to being a rude thing to do. wait a second, apparently when someone who is part of the “Clique” starts a thread for the above reason, its called “starting a bandwagon”. Can you reconcile these statements? I’m not stalking you or anything, and I really have no problemn with you, but I find your actions slightly hypocritical, seeing as you blasted me for doing that same thing as you just did. ---
**Author:** ![Sweet\_Sota\_Girl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a587f6/32.png) [@Sweet\_Sota\_Girl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sweet_Sota_Girl)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2001, 2:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-not-the-right-place/92147/5 "2001-11-08T14:51:47Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by TwistofFate \* > \*\* > > > [@](#): > > > > Is “the Pit” not the right place to randomly bitch about something that’s bothering me? > > You’re right. it is. But dont expect people not to respond to it. You can choose to defend your rant if you want to, but if you don’t, some people _could_ construe that to being a rude thing to do. > wait a second, apparently when someone who is part of the “Clique” starts a thread for the above reason, its called “starting a bandwagon”. > > Can you reconcile these statements? > > I’m not stalking you or anything, and I really have no problemn with you, but I find your actions slightly hypocritical, seeing as you blasted me for doing that same thing as you just did. \*\* Before I can respond to this, I need to know what I blasted you for and then turned around and did? I’m not being a smart ass here, I just want to make sure I know what action I’m defending. ---
**Author:** ![Lynn\_Bodoni](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e47c2d/32.png) [@Lynn\_Bodoni](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lynn_Bodoni)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2001, 3:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-not-the-right-place/92147/6 "2001-11-08T15:09:58Z")
Generally, you can gripe about whatever you want, with a few exceptions. For instance, if you had a problem in #straightdope chat, keep it in chat. Likewise, if you have a problem on the Fathom board, or on any of the newsgroups that are unaffiliated followers of the Straight Dope (alt.fan.cecil-adams and misc.facts.straightdope, I believe), keep it over there. Don’t post a link to another message board and say that they’re all stupid, and encourage other TMs to go over and troll on that board. If you are having problems with another family member or friend who also posts on this board, for crying out loud, do NOT start anything on this board. It will just be too painful. And remember: **Anything you post on this or any other message board is PUBLIC. Even if your boss, spouse, parent, etc. isn’t reading the board NOW, there’s no guarantee that s/he won’t find this board in the future! Discretion is advised. Don’t post anything that you don’t want announced over a loudspeaker at your home, club, place of employment, whatever.** We get a lot of people saying “Ooops, I shouldn’t have posted all those details, please delete them.” While we can and will delete a thread or post or two, we won’t go and ferret out every post someone made on Subject X. So use caution when posting. Lynn For the Straight Dope ---
**Author:** ![mouthbreather](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a698b9/32.png) [@mouthbreather](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mouthbreather)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2001, 3:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-not-the-right-place/92147/7 "2001-11-08T15:46:22Z")
Did I ever mention I like to wear womens underwear and that I have a thing for small rodents and Crisco? Oh, dammit. There’s that outloud voice again. Lynn, can you delete this post? 😉 ---
**Author:** ![TwistofFate](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/cdc98d/32.png) [@TwistofFate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TwistofFate)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2001, 5:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-not-the-right-place/92147/8 "2001-11-08T17:42:45Z")
In your OP. > [@](#): > > Is “the Pit” not the right place to randomly bitch about something that’s bothering me? Your response to my question. > [@](#): > > Before I can respond to this, I need to know what I blasted you for and then turned around and did? … **\** … I just want to make sure I know what action I’m defending. from the Bossk thread: > [@](#): > > I read this thread to see just which posters would jump on the bandwagon with Twist You ask if this is the place to rant and bitch. But when I rant and bitch, its called starting a bandwagon for the clique. Am I wrong to question that? ---
**Author:** ![gobear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/8dc957/32.png) [@gobear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gobear)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2001, 5:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-not-the-right-place/92147/9 "2001-11-08T17:52:58Z")
> [@](#): > > You ask if this is the place to rant and bitch. > But when I rant and bitch, its called starting a bandwagon for the clique What is this clique? Can I join? How much are the dues? Is there a secret handshake? ---
**Author:** ![Slip\_Mahoney](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e47774/32.png) [@Slip\_Mahoney](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slip_Mahoney)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2001, 6:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-not-the-right-place/92147/10 "2001-11-08T18:25:47Z")
**gobear** , you can only join the clique if you’re already in the clique. Best catch there is. It keeps out the riff-raff. ---
**Author:** ![GingerOfTheNorth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/cdc98d/32.png) [@GingerOfTheNorth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GingerOfTheNorth)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2001, 6:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-not-the-right-place/92147/11 "2001-11-08T18:31:46Z")
Yeah, **bear**. We’re all snobs. ---
**Author:** ![Sweet\_Sota\_Girl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a587f6/32.png) [@Sweet\_Sota\_Girl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sweet_Sota_Girl)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2001, 6:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-not-the-right-place/92147/12 "2001-11-08T18:31:55Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by TwistofFate \* > \*\*In your OP. > > > [@](#): > > > > Is “the Pit” not the right place to randomly bitch about something that’s bothering me? > > Your response to my question. > > > [@](#): > > > > Before I can respond to this, I need to know what I blasted you for and then turned around and did? … **\** … I just want to make sure I know what action I’m defending. > > from the Bossk thread: > > > [@](#): > > > > I read this thread to see just which posters would jump on the bandwagon with Twist > > You ask if this is the place to rant and bitch. > But when I rant and bitch, its called starting a bandwagon for the clique. > Am I wrong to question that? \*\* No, not wrong at all. But you’re misunderstanding my OP. I asked if this was the correct place to rant and bitch. I did not mean about other posters by starting a persecution thread such as the one you started about **Bossk**. You’re as hypocritial as anyone as anyone, because you yell at him for his personal attacks on you and other posters, but then start a whole new thread to attack him. And you’ll probably state that you were giving him the opportunity to state his “malfunction”, but you knew damn well when you started the thread that it would turn into a bashing. Yes, I personally attacked others in that thread, which one could argue as hypocritical of me. And I’ll admit it, I was acting like a hypocrite… _in that thread_. As I stated “over there” I’m not going to keep going on it. I stated my case and I’m leaving it at that. I’m not going to take this thread and turn into another rendition of that one. For the most part, other than the Bossk thread, my posts have not attacked anyone on the boards. I intend to keep it that way. I’m a peaceful person, but I’m also opinionated. And when I’ve heard/taken all I can, I speak up. ---
**Author:** ![TwistofFate](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/cdc98d/32.png) [@TwistofFate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TwistofFate)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2001, 6:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-not-the-right-place/92147/13 "2001-11-08T18:34:44Z")
You may think that bullies can be ignored, which some bullies can. I’m of the school that sometimes bullies need to be stood up to, and that is what my thread was for. ---
**Author:** ![Nymysys](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/f6c823/32.png) [@Nymysys](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nymysys)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2001, 6:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-not-the-right-place/92147/14 "2001-11-08T18:36:59Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by GingerOfTheNorth \* > \*\*Yeah, **bear**. We’re all snobs. \*\* Yeah, but at least we’re _pretty_ snobs. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Odieman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/a87d85/32.png) [@Odieman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Odieman)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2001, 8:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-not-the-right-place/92147/15 "2001-11-08T20:57:28Z")
Yet another ego shattering reason I will never be in the clique…not pretty enough 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Silver\_Fire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a88e4f/32.png) [@Silver\_Fire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Silver_Fire)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2001, 12:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-not-the-right-place/92147/16 "2001-11-09T00:01:35Z")
You’re pretty, **Odie**! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Kamandi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/5daacb/32.png) [@Kamandi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kamandi)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2001, 12:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-not-the-right-place/92147/17 "2001-11-09T00:59:38Z")
Jesus, **Devil May Care** , if you’ve got a beef with **Twisty** , just fucking spit it out. All this beating around the bush is making my head hurt. ---
**Author:** ![Fenris](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fenris/32/498_2.png) [@Fenris](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fenris)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2001, 1:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-not-the-right-place/92147/18 "2001-11-09T01:13:17Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by gobear \* > \*\* > What is this clique? Can I join? How much are the dues? Is there a secret handshake? \*\* If they won’t let you in either, you can join me here in the outcast’s spectator section. I have popcorn! Fenris ---
**Author:** ![Crunchy\_Frog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ebca7d/32.png) [@Crunchy\_Frog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Crunchy_Frog)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2001, 1:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-not-the-right-place/92147/19 "2001-11-09T01:14:20Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Devil May Care \* > \*\*I asked if this was the correct place to rant and bitch. I did not mean about other posters by starting a persecution thread such as the one you started about **Bossk**. > > You’re as hypocritial as anyone as anyone, because you yell at him for his personal attacks on you and other posters, but then start a whole new thread to attack him. \*\* In that thread, **Bossk’s** posts were attacked, the way he presents himself here on the boards was attacked. **Bossk** isn’t content with staying on the boards, but attacks on a more personal level. Making cracks about people not being able to get laid, making fun of someone’s poetry _not posted here_, making fun of someone’s personal appearance, etc. You see what I’m getting at? There’s a difference between jumping someone for the way they behave on the boards and jumping someone on a strictly personal level, bringing in things from off the board just to land a cheap shot. ---
**Author:** ![Dijon\_Warlock](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a9a28c/32.png) [@Dijon\_Warlock](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dijon_Warlock)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2001, 1:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-not-the-right-place/92147/20 "2001-11-09T01:38:36Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Fenris \* > \*\* > > > [@](#): > > > > \*Originally posted by gobear \* > > \*\* > > What is this clique? Can I join? How much are the dues? Is there a secret handshake? \*\* > > If they won’t let you in either, you can join me here in the outcast’s spectator section. I have popcorn! > > Fenris \*\* Popcorn, schmopcorn! I want some of that [Truffle Fritatta](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?postid=1756554#post1756554). Have mercy on us non-foodies for once. Harumph! Popcorn… [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-not-the-right-place/92147.md?page=2)