# Is this weird or am I? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [January 2, 2009, 3:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-weird-or-am-i/479548 "2009-01-02T03:22:23Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2009, 3:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-weird-or-am-i/479548/1 "2009-01-02T03:22:23Z")
Just got an email from my cousin. > [@cousin de twicks](#): > > I was supposed to send this last night but was in the sack with J\*\*\*, my girlfriend. > Happy Birthday, Happy New Year. > How is the job scene up there? > Love, > M\*\*\* His girlfriend and I have the same slightly-uncommon-but-not-terribly-unusual first name. Although I’ve never met her [they live 500 miles away], they’ve been dating over a year, maybe more, and I know her name. I find that opening line so incredibly creepy I don’t even want to respond to this. Am I overreacting? ---
**Author:** ![Boyo\_Jim](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/87869e/32.png) [@Boyo\_Jim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Boyo_Jim)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2009, 3:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-weird-or-am-i/479548/2 "2009-01-02T03:33:16Z")
It’s tacky, but not creepy. ---
**Author:** ![ShelliBean](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f9ae1b/32.png) [@ShelliBean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ShelliBean)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2009, 3:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-weird-or-am-i/479548/3 "2009-01-02T03:34:23Z")
I was going to respond five minutes ago but I was fucking Bob here so I’m a little late. Yes, it’s creepy. Not in the _OMG sexual innuendo hurts my baby ears_ kind of way, but in a _why did you throw that into something so completely unrelated_ way. It comes off as immature. ETA - OK, tacky is a much better word for it. Creepy isn’t quite right. And I don’t think your name figures into it. Her name could be Sue and it would be just as tacky. ---
**Author:** ![Cisco](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ccd318/32.png) [@Cisco](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cisco)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2009, 3:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-weird-or-am-i/479548/4 "2009-01-02T03:37:50Z")
Eh, I called a professor of mine a few months ago and asked what he was doing and he said “just got done bangin’ the wife.” ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2009, 3:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-weird-or-am-i/479548/5 "2009-01-02T03:38:53Z")
Okay, tacky, that I can live with. I think what was weirding me out was the name mention – “I was effing J\*\*\* – not you, my GF” like I needed that explained, or was involved in some weird incest fantasy of his or something. ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2009, 3:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-weird-or-am-i/479548/6 "2009-01-02T03:40:12Z")
> [@Cisco](#): > > Eh, I called a professor of mine a few months ago and asked what he was doing and he said “just got done bangin’ the wife.” And did you have a whole new respect for his studliness after that? :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![lel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8797f3/32.png) [@lel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lel)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2009, 3:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-weird-or-am-i/479548/7 "2009-01-02T03:42:31Z")
Eh, how old is the cousin? ---
**Author:** ![Cisco](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ccd318/32.png) [@Cisco](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cisco)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2009, 3:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-weird-or-am-i/479548/8 "2009-01-02T03:48:59Z")
> [@twickster](#): > > And did you have a whole new respect for his studliness after that? :rolleyes: No, I just laughed and said “I didn’t need to know that.” He’s not particularly macho or egotistical, he just has no filter between his brain and his mouth. ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2009, 3:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-weird-or-am-i/479548/9 "2009-01-02T03:59:06Z")
> [@lel](#): > > Eh, how old is the cousin? 1. ---
**Author:** ![MoodIndigo1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e8c25b/32.png) [@MoodIndigo1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MoodIndigo1)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2009, 4:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-weird-or-am-i/479548/10 "2009-01-02T04:01:02Z")
> [@twickster](#): > > 1. Holy fuck, I guess he has something to prove. It’s just uncool. ---
**Author:** ![Boyo\_Jim](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/87869e/32.png) [@Boyo\_Jim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Boyo_Jim)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2009, 4:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-weird-or-am-i/479548/11 "2009-01-02T04:04:17Z")
> [@twickster](#): > > 1. Er, that kind of moves it back across the tacky/creepy line to creepy. ---
**Author:** ![Mahna\_Mahna](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e47c2d/32.png) [@Mahna\_Mahna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mahna_Mahna)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2009, 4:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-weird-or-am-i/479548/12 "2009-01-02T04:33:23Z")
I vote for creepy. I mean, it’s cool to brag that you’re getting laid when you’re 19 and half your friends are still desperately trying to lose their virginity… but you’d think the shine would have worn off by the time you’re 59, no? \* The part about needing to point out he’s talking about his GF (as opposed to you), though, is probably more related to that whole look-at-me-I-had-sex thing rather than any Freudian desires. - I assume that bragging rights become available again once you’re 79, when half your friends can’t even get it up anymore without assistance from a little blue pill. ---
**Author:** ![BiblioCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ed8c4c/32.png) [@BiblioCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BiblioCat)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2009, 4:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-weird-or-am-i/479548/13 "2009-01-02T04:34:23Z")
I wouldn’t think it was weird that he mentioned her name (and that it’s the same as yours), but the fact that he had to mention exactly what he was doing, rather than sending you the email. It’s not like he’s 18 and you’re one of his frat buddies. No one needs to know! Oh, and Happy Birthday, **twickster!** 🆒 ---
**Author:** ![astro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9dc877/32.png) [@astro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astro)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2009, 5:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-weird-or-am-i/479548/14 "2009-01-02T05:00:23Z")
That’s not the way adults communicate. He sounds like he’s 18 and determined to prove he’s still a stud master. Honestly I’m not so gracious about his use of your first name assigning to simple cluelessness. He should know better and he sounds like the kind of person that likes to get a rise out of people. Tacky & kind of gross. ---
**Author:** ![lavenderviolet](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/cdc98d/32.png) [@lavenderviolet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lavenderviolet)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2009, 5:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-weird-or-am-i/479548/15 "2009-01-02T05:15:16Z")
I don’t think any of us can really say how he meant it without knowing the guy. Does he make a habit of acting creepy? ---
**Author:** ![lel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8797f3/32.png) [@lel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lel)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2009, 5:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-weird-or-am-i/479548/16 "2009-01-02T05:19:38Z")
> [@twickster](#): > > 1. > [@MoodIndigo1](#): > > Holy fuck, I guess he has something to prove. It’s just uncool. > [@Boyo\_Jim](#): > > Er, that kind of moves it back across the tacky/creepy line to creepy. Yeah, I was thinking he was probably 19 or 20 and just being tacky. At 59 it’s creepy. ---
**Author:** ![astro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9dc877/32.png) [@astro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astro)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2009, 5:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-weird-or-am-i/479548/17 "2009-01-02T05:21:20Z")
Congrats on your birthday. Here’s a birthday card for you - [hands] Twickster’s Birthday Song springs springing hands whirling your days flutter past on ragged moth wings the whirring, bustling days the hush of quiet, sunny afternoons dust motes climbing a shaft of light your first lunchbox your last kiss surfing the arc of time you are here and now cherished by your friends immortal in the moment love your life you are forever ---
**Author:** ![Maastricht](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a88e57/32.png) [@Maastricht](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maastricht)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2009, 5:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-weird-or-am-i/479548/18 "2009-01-02T05:27:29Z")
Another vote for tacky to the point of creepy. As for how to react, I guess this is how Miss Manners would handle it.Don’t mention it. If Cousin should ever mention it, _“You know, **Twick** s, my girlfriend, J! From, that sms I sent you?”_ , then you can mention in passing that you thought that sms was some immature prank played by a friend of Cousin to make him look ridiculous and creepy. If Cousin then says " Haha, that was me" you can look at him non-smiling and say “Oh”. That ought to do it. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Harmonious\_Discord](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/74df32/32.png) [@Harmonious\_Discord](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Harmonious_Discord)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2009, 6:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-weird-or-am-i/479548/19 "2009-01-02T06:16:17Z")
Dear cousin Took that long? Hugs and kisses twickster ---
**Author:** ![Sage\_Rat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sage_rat/32/399_2.png) [@Sage\_Rat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sage_Rat)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2009, 6:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-weird-or-am-i/479548/20 "2009-01-02T06:24:13Z")
Send him back a link to “I’m f’ing Ben Affleck” on YouTube and tell him that if he’s going to share, you want it in song. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-this-weird-or-am-i/479548.md?page=2)