# Is visiting your deceased mother's gravesite on Mother's Day a thing?

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-visiting-your-deceased-mothers-gravesite-on-mothers-day-a-thing/719350>\
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [May 6, 2015, 12:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-visiting-your-deceased-mothers-gravesite-on-mothers-day-a-thing/719350 "2015-05-06T00:04:47Z")\
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**Author:** ![Baker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bb73d2/32.png) [@Baker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Baker)\
**Post date:** [May 10, 2015, 6:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-visiting-your-deceased-mothers-gravesite-on-mothers-day-a-thing/719350/41 "2015-05-10T18:53:20Z")

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My mom is still alive, but today I went to the cemetery and put a rose on my father’s grave. It’s been eight months.

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**Author:** ![Rhiannon8404](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rhiannon8404/32/17929_2.png) [@Rhiannon8404](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rhiannon8404)\
**Post date:** [May 11, 2015, 12:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-visiting-your-deceased-mothers-gravesite-on-mothers-day-a-thing/719350/42 "2015-05-11T00:04:43Z")

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We are not a “visiting gravesites” type of family. Heck, most of our recently deceased don’t even have gravesites. It would not have occurred to me to do it.

I do understand why some people do it.

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**Author:** ![Hershele\_Ostropoler](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e47c2d/32.png) [@Hershele\_Ostropoler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hershele_Ostropoler)\
**Post date:** [May 11, 2015, 3:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-visiting-your-deceased-mothers-gravesite-on-mothers-day-a-thing/719350/43 "2015-05-11T03:57:54Z")

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Here’s [the paper of record](http://www.theonion.com/article/total-weirdo-spends-mothers-day-cemetery-50381) on the subject.

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**Author:** ![Hilarity\_N.Suze](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hilarity_n.suze/32/6223_2.png) [@Hilarity\_N.Suze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hilarity_N.Suze)\
**Post date:** [May 11, 2015, 5:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-visiting-your-deceased-mothers-gravesite-on-mothers-day-a-thing/719350/44 "2015-05-11T05:49:31Z")

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I can see it being a thing, or not. For me, I visited my mother’s grave and put flowers on it once, when I happened to be in the area, and I didn’t feel any particular way about it. I had been there before a couple of times, as my father’s grave is in the same place. I do miss them, but it has nothing to do with putting flowers on their grave and that doesn’t help.

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