# Is your current SO the best lay you've had? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 17, 2008, 1:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310 "2008-10-17T01:53:29Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Soapbox\_Monkey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ed655f/32.png) [@Soapbox\_Monkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Soapbox_Monkey)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2008, 1:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310/1 "2008-10-17T01:53:29Z")
If not, have you ever told them? Or at least, without directly telling them they _aren’t_ the best, have you ever shared with them a story of one of your better experiences? It’s just that quite a few people here are pretty open about some of your experiences. I’m wondering if that carries over into your actual relationships. ---
**Author:** ![Ephemera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/8baadc/32.png) [@Ephemera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ephemera)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2008, 1:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310/2 "2008-10-17T01:58:51Z")
I’ve only had just one girlfriend, though I’ve had half a dozen partners. The other five were all better. ---
**Author:** ![ladyfoxfyre](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ad7895/32.png) [@ladyfoxfyre](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ladyfoxfyre)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2008, 2:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310/3 "2008-10-17T02:06:33Z")
Yes, he’s the best. He didn’t have much experience before me but he is a quick learner. ---
**Author:** ![pbbth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f9ae1b/32.png) [@pbbth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pbbth)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2008, 2:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310/4 "2008-10-17T02:13:10Z")
The best fuck, yes. I’ve been with other men who were better at a few other things but as far as the actual fucking goes he is the best so far. ---
**Author:** ![BellRungBookShut-CandleSnuffed](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bcef8e/32.png) [@BellRungBookShut-CandleSnuffed](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BellRungBookShut-CandleSnuffed)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2008, 2:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310/5 "2008-10-17T02:31:05Z")
Not in a relationship now, but I remember when I was. But y’know, I’ve had great sexual experiences with all of my partners, but unless something incredibly sexy happened during a particular session, I don’t really remember it enough to be able to compare. They were all good in some ways. Maybe I just haven’t had really bad sex (or at least not consistently bad), so there’s not that much to compare it to. But man, those hot hot sessions, the particulars stand out in my mind years and years later. Now BJ, on the other hand, that’s a comparison I can make. One girl was absolutely amazing with them. Unfortunately she was the first, so I wasn’t really savvy enough to figure out WTF she was doing to be able to really give tips at this point. Zannen. ---
**Author:** ![Maui\_Lion](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ea666f/32.png) [@Maui\_Lion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maui_Lion)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2008, 2:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310/6 "2008-10-17T02:37:55Z")
Well he’s also the only lay I’ve ever had, so by default and everything…yeah, I guess he is. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Hockey\_Monkey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/a183cd/32.png) [@Hockey\_Monkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hockey_Monkey)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2008, 2:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310/7 "2008-10-17T02:42:54Z")
No, no and no. But he’s the best in so many other ways that it doesn’t matter at all. I’d never dream of telling him straight out that he doesn’t live up to a bar set by someone else. ---
**Author:** ![monica](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a183cd/32.png) [@monica](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/monica)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2008, 2:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310/8 "2008-10-17T02:53:23Z")
Yep, he is. ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2008, 2:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310/9 "2008-10-17T02:58:12Z")
Just a minute. Yup. ---
**Author:** ![Heffalump\_and\_Roo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/heffalump_and_roo/32/7691_2.png) [@Heffalump\_and\_Roo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Heffalump_and_Roo)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2008, 3:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310/10 "2008-10-17T03:02:35Z")
> [@Czarcasm](#): > > Just a minute. Were you checking to see if she was standing over your shoulder or did it just take a minute to find out? ---
**Author:** ![Soapbox\_Monkey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ed655f/32.png) [@Soapbox\_Monkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Soapbox_Monkey)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2008, 3:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310/11 "2008-10-17T03:06:33Z")
> [@Hockey\_Monkey](#): > > No, no and no. But he’s the best in so many other ways that it doesn’t matter at all. I’d never dream of telling him straight out that he doesn’t live up to a bar set by someone else. Do you find yourself still thinking of those past experiences? Do you ever wish he possessed their skill while in the throes of passion with him? And how upset would he be if he came to this board and figured out your identity? ---
**Author:** ![Risha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/5fc32e/32.png) [@Risha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Risha)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2008, 3:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310/12 "2008-10-17T03:15:52Z")
He’s the only one I ever went past second base with, so yes by default. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Hockey\_Monkey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/a183cd/32.png) [@Hockey\_Monkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hockey_Monkey)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2008, 3:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310/13 "2008-10-17T03:32:32Z")
> [@Soapbox\_Monkey](#): > > Do you find yourself still thinking of those past experiences? Do you ever wish he possessed their skill while in the throes of passion with him? > > And how upset would he be if he came to this board and figured out your identity? Sometimes I do think about them, but that’s mainly between me and my rubber ducky. I can’t recall a time that I thought about it whilst in the throes. He knows who I am on this board, and if he ever comes in here and sees this, I hope he will see the part where I said it doesn’t matter to me at all because he’s better in so many other ways. ---
**Author:** ![dalej42](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/67e7ee/32.png) [@dalej42](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dalej42)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2008, 3:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310/14 "2008-10-17T03:33:50Z")
Honestly, no. I’m one of those in the thousands though. ---
**Author:** ![Soapbox\_Monkey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ed655f/32.png) [@Soapbox\_Monkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Soapbox_Monkey)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2008, 3:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310/15 "2008-10-17T03:34:49Z")
> [@Hockey\_Monkey](#): > > Sometimes I do think about them, but that’s mainly between me and my rubber ducky. I can’t recall a time that I thought about it whilst in the throes. He knows who I am on this board, and if he ever comes in here and sees this, I hope he will see the part where I said it doesn’t matter to me at all because he’s better in so many other ways. The male ego can be a fragile thing, and sex is a huge part of that ego. ---
**Author:** ![Lakai](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/9de0a6/32.png) [@Lakai](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lakai)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2008, 4:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310/16 "2008-10-17T04:18:23Z")
> [@Hockey\_Monkey](#): > > Sometimes I do think about them, but that’s mainly between me and my rubber ducky. I can’t recall a time that I thought about it whilst in the throes. He knows who I am on this board, and if he ever comes in here and sees this, I hope he will see the part where I said it doesn’t matter to me at all because he’s better in so many other ways. “I’m I good in bed?” is the male version of “Does this make me look fat?” There is only one correct answer. ---
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2008, 4:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310/17 "2008-10-17T04:21:04Z")
By far. Light-years better. And she isn’t looking over my shoulder, either. ---
**Author:** ![Isamu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/7c8e57/32.png) [@Isamu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Isamu)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2008, 4:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310/18 "2008-10-17T04:27:15Z")
No, but not the worst either. On a graded testing scale, she would get a B+. I’m happy with that. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2008, 4:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310/19 "2008-10-17T04:37:18Z")
He’s the best, both in and out of bed. After we’d been together about a year, I told him about a guy I was once with, and the oral sex he gave me that lasted several hours. My partner then picked me up, carried me to the bed, and proceeded to outdo the other guy. He hates being second-best. ---
**Author:** ![SanVito](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sanvito/32/2805_2.png) [@SanVito](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SanVito)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2008, 10:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310/20 "2008-10-17T10:19:44Z")
Yes, by a country mile. In fact, our relationship started as a sexually explosive office affair, so in a way it’s been the basis for our relationship (although our relationship has progressed way beyond the purely physical, before you start thinking we’re doomed!). She feels the same way about my abilities, and we often joke that it’s because we’re both nearing our sexual peak (we’re both women in our late 30s). Having said that, if she wasn’t, I’d be tempted to lie about it. Who wants to think they’re a crap shag?! [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310.md?page=2)