# Is your current SO the best lay you've had? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 17, 2008, 1:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310 "2008-10-17T01:53:29Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Yeticus\_Rex](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/a698b9/32.png) [@Yeticus\_Rex](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yeticus_Rex)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2008, 6:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310/41 "2008-10-17T18:50:30Z")
She’s the best and she’s the worst. She’s the only. ---
**Author:** ![Shodan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9f8e36/32.png) [@Shodan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shodan)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2008, 6:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310/42 "2008-10-17T18:51:48Z")
> [@Hal\_Briston](#): > > Yes, and _hell_ yes. After 12 years together, she gets sexier every day, and she’s dynamite in bed. No question about it… Especially after shearing, right? 😃 And yes, the Lovely and Talented Mrs. **Shodan** is the best I’ve ever had. Of course, I have nothing to compare her to, and she resists the idea of increasing the sample size for some reason. Regards, Shodan ---
**Author:** ![Hogwash](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/a88e57/32.png) [@Hogwash](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hogwash)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2008, 6:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310/43 "2008-10-17T18:51:56Z")
What current SO? _sob_ ---
**Author:** ![Man\_With\_a\_Cat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/cab0a1/32.png) [@Man\_With\_a\_Cat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Man_With_a_Cat)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2008, 7:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310/44 "2008-10-17T19:01:12Z")
Hell, she’s not even the best this week. NO, I’m kidding. The best in the sense that we’re intuitive with each other, and she’s still gorgeous, even if she doesn’t think so. She knows I had a fairly randy past life before her, and never asks how anyone of them were. To be honest, some of them were amazing - and some of them I was in love with. The amazing ones I mean. So, not the “best lay”, but I’d give her “favorite lover”. I think she’d like better too anyway. ---
**Author:** ![Projammer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/projammer/32/559_2.png) [@Projammer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Projammer)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2008, 7:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310/45 "2008-10-17T19:22:44Z")
There are some questions I don’t ask. And some that I don’t answer, regardless of what the answer might be. “Am I the best?” falls into both categories. \>---------\< The ultimate rejection. Your hand falls alseep. ---
**Author:** ![Inigo\_Montoya](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inigo_montoya/32/124_2.png) [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2008, 7:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310/46 "2008-10-17T19:33:25Z")
Yes, by far. 2nd best was a 6-month friend with benefits affair 20 years ago that was fraught with dysfunction. 3rd best was the former Mrs. Montoya (not being bitter, just honest). Anyone else doesn’t even register. I wish I was younger so I could enjoy her more. The years have put a lot of mileage on me and my soul. She’s turning out to be one hell of a mechanic though. ---
**Author:** ![vandal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/858c86/32.png) [@vandal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vandal)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2008, 8:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310/47 "2008-10-17T20:03:17Z")
No, she’s actually one of the worst. ---
**Author:** ![El\_DeLuxo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/el_deluxo/32/9043_2.png) [@El\_DeLuxo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/El_DeLuxo)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2008, 8:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310/48 "2008-10-17T20:05:02Z")
Yes, indubitably. He is, in fact, the wildest piece of ass in California. ---
**Author:** ![mudkicker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d6d6ee/32.png) [@mudkicker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mudkicker)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2008, 8:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310/49 "2008-10-17T20:07:27Z")
> [@Gus\_Gusterson](#): > > I have made my peace with it. We have two children, she is my best friend, and my life is great except for this one thing. It’s a big thing, but I value my family more than I value anything else. Fair enough. Different if there’s marriage and kids, of course. Hope my question wasn’t too prying. As for the OP, it gets better with each one. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Soapbox\_Monkey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ed655f/32.png) [@Soapbox\_Monkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Soapbox_Monkey)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2008, 10:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310/50 "2008-10-17T22:32:24Z")
> [@Baldwin](#): > > Make that the human ego. I keep hearing “male ego” crap, and it’s sexist nonsense. Well, when it comes to great sex (for everyone involved), the onus is arguably on the guy. 98% of men are going to get off simply by having sex, and could just as easily get off by sticking their dick in a hole in the mattress. If the guy can’t get the girl off, he’s failed. More pressure on the guy. _Most._ [QUOTE=mudkicker] As for the OP, it gets better with each one. [/QUOTE] Perhaps if the two of you are on the same level experience-wise. But an experienced girl getting with a guy who’s a virgin? ---
**Author:** ![FallenAngel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@FallenAngel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FallenAngel)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2008, 10:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310/51 "2008-10-17T22:33:26Z")
I’ve been with a fairly high number of women, and my wife is absolutely the best. She’s enthusiastic, up for pretty much anything, skillful and considerate, all while being wildly passionate. There are some things I wish she _enjoyed_ more, but even those she does with enthusiasm because I enjoy them. Add to the fact that she’s stunningly beautiful and visually sexy, and I know exactly how damn lucky I am. ---
**Author:** ![Inigo\_Montoya](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inigo_montoya/32/124_2.png) [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2008, 10:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310/52 "2008-10-17T22:46:32Z")
> [@Soapbox\_Monkey](#): > > Well, when it comes to great sex (for everyone involved), the onus is arguably on the guy. 98% of men are going to get off simply by having sex, and could just as easily get off by sticking their dick in a hole in the mattress. If the guy can’t get the girl off, he’s failed. More pressure on the guy. _Most._ Oh come on, dude. Surely your experiences haven’t all been so sorry that ejaculation was as good as it got? And I don’t know any wimmin who don’t take a large chunk of ownership in everybody’s orgasm–if dude doesn’t shoot then it’s her fault, and if she doesn’t climax then it’s because she couldn’t get her mind in the game, etc. If you’re poking wimmins who are not any better than a mattress, and who hold you accountable for giving them (or not) an O, then you need to know that there are significantly better ones out there. ---
**Author:** ![freekalette](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/50afbb/32.png) [@freekalette](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/freekalette)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2008, 10:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310/53 "2008-10-17T22:57:53Z")
Definitely! I can’t even remember what my other lovers were like, with the exception of losing my virginity. (And that’s only because it was completely horrible.) My husband was practically a virgin when I met him, but he was a natural, and it just got better from there. I actually told him lately that he needs to get LESS good, or risk me having a stroke! 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Soapbox\_Monkey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ed655f/32.png) [@Soapbox\_Monkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Soapbox_Monkey)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2008, 11:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310/54 "2008-10-17T23:00:43Z")
> [@Inigo\_Montoya](#): > > Oh come on, dude. Surely your experiences haven’t all been so sorry that ejaculation was as good as it got? I’ll let you know after I have my first experience. ---
**Author:** ![Pixilated](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/aeb1de/32.png) [@Pixilated](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pixilated)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2008, 11:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310/55 "2008-10-17T23:20:55Z")
the best at what? he is the best at many things. ---
**Author:** ![Autolycus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2008, 12:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310/56 "2008-10-18T00:29:31Z")
> [@Soapbox\_Monkey](#): > > I’ll let you know after I have my first experience. There’s orgasms and then there’s _orgasms_. Report back after making initial contact with the opposing forces soldier. ---
**Author:** ![SuntanTigerTamer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e5b9ba/32.png) [@SuntanTigerTamer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SuntanTigerTamer)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2008, 1:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310/57 "2008-10-18T01:06:55Z")
Easily, a million times yes. Which makes it even worse that we can’t get along in any other capacity. If we hang out for longer than an hour without any sexual contact, we invariably fight like cats and dogs. I’m not interested in what she is, and she couldn’t care less about what I’m into, unless its her. I have only had 9 partners (I’m 28), and she has had about 34 (shes 33, I give her shit that one every year since birth is a nice streak :D). We both agree that our sex is mind blowingly good. Like, whatever she wants, I will gladly take care of, and she’s the same way. Outfits, toys, positions, whatever. I even test drove a new sex style i’ve been working on in the garage(I call it the Jackie Chan. It is dangerous, takes concentration and a high dexterity throw, and the outtakes can be horrific). We hang out, watch a movie, talk about shit we both couldn’t care less about, and then $#^@ like its the end of the world. Then I go home to my bed, and she flips her mattress over and sleeps at her place. I wish more than anything that I could enjoy her on a more meaningful level. Shes beautiful, intelligent, and is the absolute ideal lover for me, but after months of being with her it doesnt seem possible. And now I’m terrified that when I actually meet someone that I could make a life with, the sex wont compare and I’ll always remember that. Talk about a rock and hard place… \*Btw, she agrees with all of the above, so it’s not like I’m using her, any more than she is using me. It’s kind of sick that neither of us mind… ---
**Author:** ![Debon\_Err](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/7ea924/32.png) [@Debon\_Err](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Debon_Err)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2008, 2:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310/58 "2008-10-18T02:09:04Z")
No doubt about it! He is amazing in so many ways. I’ve never before felt the way he makes me feel. Thanks for asking. ---
**Author:** ![tygre](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/c4cdca/32.png) [@tygre](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tygre)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2008, 3:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310/59 "2008-10-18T03:03:32Z")
100% best I’ve had. I came into our relationship with um…a decent amount of experience, but he’s far and away the best lover I’ve had. AND he’s a Doper, so… 😃 ---
**Author:** ![HeyHomie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/heyhomie/32/207_2.png) [@HeyHomie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HeyHomie)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2008, 6:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310/60 "2008-10-18T18:28:25Z")
Nope, not by a long shot. My first was also the best. She was WAY more experienced than me, and she was _gggooooooodddddd_ 🆒. Very tight and knew how to work those vag muscles. Is it warm in here? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-your-current-so-the-best-lay-youve-had/468310.md?page=4)