# " It is polite fiction that we consider adopted children to be equal to biological children. " **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [March 11, 2020, 5:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-is-polite-fiction-that-we-consider-adopted-children-to-be-equal-to-biological-children/849282 "2020-03-11T17:13:48Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Annie-Xmas](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecc23a/32.png) [@Annie-Xmas](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Annie-Xmas)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2020, 5:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-is-polite-fiction-that-we-consider-adopted-children-to-be-equal-to-biological-children/849282/1 "2020-03-11T17:13:48Z")
A direct quote from **AlTraina** in [this Pit Thread](https://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?p=22183593#post22183593) I put that idea right up there with the rah-rah Christian who told me the children my sister’s wife had and my sister adopted are not my nieces, and their taking in a dying woman and her two daughters and arranging to adopt the children was an act of child abuse. Your thoughts? ---
**Author:** ![AlTraina](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/altraina/32/50_2.png) [@AlTraina](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AlTraina)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2020, 5:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-is-polite-fiction-that-we-consider-adopted-children-to-be-equal-to-biological-children/849282/2 "2020-03-11T17:14:46Z")
I think you should spend more time at Amazing Savings and less time on here. ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2020, 5:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-is-polite-fiction-that-we-consider-adopted-children-to-be-equal-to-biological-children/849282/3 "2020-03-11T17:19:17Z")
Trolls this obvious are no fun to pit. Stop trying so hard **AlTraina** , you look desperate. ---
**Author:** ![Telemark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/telemark/32/372_2.png) [@Telemark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telemark)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2020, 5:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-is-polite-fiction-that-we-consider-adopted-children-to-be-equal-to-biological-children/849282/4 "2020-03-11T17:21:12Z")
> [@Annie-Xmas](#): > > Your thoughts? Obvious troll is trolling. ---
**Author:** ![TroutMan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/troutman/32/6721_2.png) [@TroutMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TroutMan)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2020, 5:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-is-polite-fiction-that-we-consider-adopted-children-to-be-equal-to-biological-children/849282/5 "2020-03-11T17:22:13Z")
Yeah, garden-variety troll with “edgy” statements and boring insults. He’s not worth the outrage. ---
**Author:** ![Moriarty](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/moriarty/32/49_2.png) [@Moriarty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Moriarty)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2020, 5:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-is-polite-fiction-that-we-consider-adopted-children-to-be-equal-to-biological-children/849282/6 "2020-03-11T17:22:50Z")
I propose we jump ahead to guessing what banned poster this sock represents. ---
**Author:** ![Calavera](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/calavera/32/70_2.png) [@Calavera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Calavera)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2020, 5:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-is-polite-fiction-that-we-consider-adopted-children-to-be-equal-to-biological-children/849282/7 "2020-03-11T17:23:09Z")
> [@AlTraina](#): > > I think you should spend more time at Amazing Savings and less time on here. You’re a troll, but you’re not wrong. ---
**Author:** ![Annie-Xmas](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecc23a/32.png) [@Annie-Xmas](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Annie-Xmas)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2020, 5:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-is-polite-fiction-that-we-consider-adopted-children-to-be-equal-to-biological-children/849282/8 "2020-03-11T17:25:29Z")
He’s also not a Mod. But thanks for the plug. ---
**Author:** ![RTFirefly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c77e96/32.png) [@RTFirefly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RTFirefly)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2020, 6:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-is-polite-fiction-that-we-consider-adopted-children-to-be-equal-to-biological-children/849282/9 "2020-03-11T18:27:46Z")
He’s posted nearly 50 times since he signed up yesterday morning. (Might not be ‘nearly’ by the time I hit ‘post.’) I don’t think he’s a banned poster that we’d remember, but rather some random asshole that stumbled across this site. ---
**Author:** ![RTFirefly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c77e96/32.png) [@RTFirefly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RTFirefly)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2020, 6:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-is-polite-fiction-that-we-consider-adopted-children-to-be-equal-to-biological-children/849282/10 "2020-03-11T18:29:35Z")
And yeah, the sentence quoted in the thread title is blatantly false. ---
**Author:** ![Andy\_L](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/c67d28/32.png) [@Andy\_L](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Andy_L)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2020, 6:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-is-polite-fiction-that-we-consider-adopted-children-to-be-equal-to-biological-children/849282/11 "2020-03-11T18:31:04Z")
> [@Annie-Xmas](#): > > A direct quote from **AlTraina** in [this Pit Thread](https://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?p=22183593#post22183593) > > I put that idea right up there with the rah-rah Christian who told me the children my sister’s wife had and my sister adopted are not my nieces, and their taking in a dying woman and her two daughters and arranging to adopt the children was an act of child abuse. > > Your thoughts? I know several families with both adopted and biological children (not casual acquaintances, but families I know quite well), and have never noticed a difference between how the children are treated. ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2020, 6:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-is-polite-fiction-that-we-consider-adopted-children-to-be-equal-to-biological-children/849282/12 "2020-03-11T18:36:06Z")
> [@AlTraina](#): > > I think you should spend more time at Amazing Savings and less time on here. You know, trolling isn’t the best way to spam. ---
**Author:** ![Sunny\_Daze](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunny_daze/32/438_2.png) [@Sunny\_Daze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunny_Daze)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2020, 6:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-is-polite-fiction-that-we-consider-adopted-children-to-be-equal-to-biological-children/849282/13 "2020-03-11T18:42:11Z")
> [@Moriarty](#): > > I propose we jump ahead to guessing what banned poster this sock represents. I’m trying to think of one that had this brand of offensive stupidity. SamuelA maybe? > [@RTFirefly](#): > > He’s posted nearly 50 times since he signed up yesterday morning. (Might not be ‘nearly’ by the time I hit ‘post.’) I don’t think he’s a banned poster that we’d remember, but rather some random asshole that stumbled across this site. Take a look: > [@AlTraina](#): > > I think you should spend more time at Amazing Savings and less time on here. A newbie wouldn’t go straight to this. ---
**Author:** ![Skywatcher](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/skywatcher/32/254_2.png) [@Skywatcher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skywatcher)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2020, 6:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-is-polite-fiction-that-we-consider-adopted-children-to-be-equal-to-biological-children/849282/14 "2020-03-11T18:52:27Z")
> [@RTFirefly](#): > > I don’t think he’s a banned poster that we’d remember, but rather some random asshole that stumbled across this site. Using a board meme from [2014](https://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=722215)? ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2020, 7:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-is-polite-fiction-that-we-consider-adopted-children-to-be-equal-to-biological-children/849282/15 "2020-03-11T19:09:15Z")
Maybe he’s a prodigy? ---
**Author:** ![Damuri\_Ajashi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/898d66/32.png) [@Damuri\_Ajashi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Damuri_Ajashi)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2020, 7:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-is-polite-fiction-that-we-consider-adopted-children-to-be-equal-to-biological-children/849282/16 "2020-03-11T19:21:00Z")
I don’t know. I think that anyone that would adopt a child is likely to be the sort of person that would love that child. I have a couple of close lifelong friends, each with adopted kids and I know that they would die for their adopted child. But if put in a “sophie’s choice” sort of situation, I don’t know what they would do. Maybe that’s more an indictment of my character than anything else. ---
**Author:** ![aruvqan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aruvqan/32/2891_2.png) [@aruvqan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aruvqan)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2020, 8:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-is-polite-fiction-that-we-consider-adopted-children-to-be-equal-to-biological-children/849282/17 "2020-03-11T20:13:50Z")
I have a friend who has both an adopted kid, and a ‘natural’ kid, and they treat them both exactly the same. Both are girls, and they are almost 1 year apart [one is actually some sort of cousin, the birth mother had health issues and couldn’t keep her] but because of the birth months they are both in the same grade. I think most people wouldn’t think tha tone is adopted, they probably think they are some sort of non-identical twins, they look very similar. I think there is no difference between a natural kid and an adopted one, you are given the same ‘ownership’ requirements for both - the law doesn’t say that you can treat the adopted one like Oliver Twist or Annie or something. ---
**Author:** ![Shodan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9f8e36/32.png) [@Shodan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shodan)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2020, 8:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-is-polite-fiction-that-we-consider-adopted-children-to-be-equal-to-biological-children/849282/18 "2020-03-11T20:14:43Z")
The SDMB is really going downhill - we used to attract a higher class of troll. Nothing about pyramids, no suggestion that the ruling classes of Europe were actually Obama in disguise, not even a link to how Oswald was framed on 9/11. _:sighs nostalgically:_ Those were the days - when men were men, cats were declawed, and everyone knew which rest room to use. (Unless they were Larry Craig). Regards, Shodan ---
**Author:** ![TroutMan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/troutman/32/6721_2.png) [@TroutMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TroutMan)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2020, 8:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-is-polite-fiction-that-we-consider-adopted-children-to-be-equal-to-biological-children/849282/19 "2020-03-11T20:39:11Z")
> [@Shodan](#): > > Those were the days - when men were men… Except for the circumcised ones. ---
**Author:** ![D\_Odds](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/d_odds/32/2882_2.png) [@D\_Odds](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/D_Odds)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2020, 11:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-is-polite-fiction-that-we-consider-adopted-children-to-be-equal-to-biological-children/849282/20 "2020-03-11T23:06:48Z")
> [@TroutMan](#): > > Except for the circumcised ones. TRIGGER WARNING, please. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-is-polite-fiction-that-we-consider-adopted-children-to-be-equal-to-biological-children/849282.md?page=2)