# It MAY be time to rant a bit... (Minirants)

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**Category:** The BBQ Pit\
**Created:** [May 1, 2015, 1:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-may-be-time-to-rant-a-bit-minirants/718983 "2015-05-01T13:02:13Z")\
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**Author:** ![Kimballkid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/b5a626/32.png) [@Kimballkid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kimballkid)\
**Post date:** [May 4, 2015, 4:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-may-be-time-to-rant-a-bit-minirants/718983/61 "2015-05-04T16:54:24Z")

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> [@Nikki\_Tikki\_Tavi](#):
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> BITE MY TOENAILS AND STARE AT THE WALL,

How you doin’?

😉

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**Author:** ![DrDeth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b487fb/32.png) [@DrDeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrDeth)\
**Post date:** [May 4, 2015, 6:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-may-be-time-to-rant-a-bit-minirants/718983/62 "2015-05-04T18:48:42Z")

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> [@Rick\_Kitchen](#):
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> My own rant: No, you may not have your husband stand in line in front of me at the supermarket checkout and then show up with a full cart. You may go back to the end of the line. And no, I will not be quiet about it. You can act the bitch all you want, but I WILL NOT let you cut in front of me. Live with it.

Yep, the “rule” is “one more thing”. So yeah, if you forget the milk and you can send someone to get it before the cashier is done- OK. But not a whole fucking cart.

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**Author:** ![Calatin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/439d5e/32.png) [@Calatin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Calatin)\
**Post date:** [May 4, 2015, 8:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-may-be-time-to-rant-a-bit-minirants/718983/63 "2015-05-04T20:34:36Z")

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My (ex?) boyfriend doesn’t realize that my job sometimes requires me to go above and beyond what he might consider the reasonable amount of time / effort. I’m the only one who can perform certain functions.

There’s been an 8-figure deal that’s been in the pipeline for months, and has been somewhat challenging, due to inherent complexities, the number of parties involved, etc. Meanwhile, we have had to push back the deadline multiple occasions, to the point where my boss just wants the deal finalized ASAP.

I received an e-mail on 8:30 Sunday morning, asking me to generate and produce certain paperwork. I instantly respond, stating that I needed other parties to send me information before I could go forward. Knowing that one of the parties wanted to sign that day, I knew I would need to have access to a computer as soon as I got the information I needed.

I told him that I was not sure if I would be able to do anything that day, as this deal was to be my top priority. He states that he doesn’t know why I have to work on a Sunday, that I don’t make time for him, etc. I have repeatedly told him that there is little (if any) redundancy in my job, so if I’m not available to work on something, 99% of the time, things just won’t get done. (My boss _can_ do some of what I do, but he is on a series of business trips for the next three weeks, and he’s overworked as it is)

The boyfriend has a job where the hours are very rigid and set. I don’t have that luxury. Also, working with people in different timezones, sometimes I don’t get “busy” until the end of the day.

He says he wants to be with someone who makes him a priority (which he is entitled to), but I feel like his expectations of what I should and shouldn’t do professionally, are unrealistic.

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**Author:** ![saje](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/saje/32/3631_2.png) [@saje](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/saje)\
**Post date:** [May 4, 2015, 11:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-may-be-time-to-rant-a-bit-minirants/718983/64 "2015-05-04T23:07:56Z")

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I really hope that the discussion in the Veterinarian thread dies off soon and the thread drops off the board. It makes my stomach turn over every time I read that title…

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**Author:** ![Nikki\_Tikki\_Tavi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/3da27b/32.png) [@Nikki\_Tikki\_Tavi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nikki_Tikki_Tavi)\
**Post date:** [May 5, 2015, 3:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-may-be-time-to-rant-a-bit-minirants/718983/65 "2015-05-05T03:30:09Z")

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> [@Kimballkid](#):
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> How you doin’?
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> 😉

That’s all the nudge I needed to include this talent in my Tinder profile.

And while I’m here.

Boyfriend, I like you. You’re great! I appreciate being invited to your family functions and I am happy to doll up, download my Polite Manners Program, and play +1 for weddings, birthday parties, and such. But please, don’t guilt trip me when I decline to spend every Sunday with your parents. They’re nice, they really are. Your dad is kind of hilarious, actually. It’s just that it’s my ONLY day off, and some weeks it’s only a half-day off. I need to catch up on laundry and bills and spend some time with my dogs. And sometimes I just want to sit and stare at the walls (with my toes in cheek) and decompress. I think it’s rad that you have a good relationship with your folks, but you get TWO days off at minimum and you can spare one to watch golf and shoot the shit with them without feeling like you’re being robbed of your free time.

It’s nothing personal, but if you keep it up I AM going to reactivate that Tinder profile and find someone who doesn’t lay the guilt on.

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**Author:** ![Alice\_The\_Goon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Alice\_The\_Goon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alice_The_Goon)\
**Post date:** [May 5, 2015, 3:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-may-be-time-to-rant-a-bit-minirants/718983/66 "2015-05-05T03:59:59Z")

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My cat has a cold. In addition to laryngitis (silent meows are somehow hilarious) and constant sneezing, he also has goopy eyes. And, like many males I know, when he’s sick he becomes extremely needy and clingy- he’s been spending all night every night literally trying to sleep in my arms or at least as close to me as possible. This morning I woke up with his goopy eye pressed right up against my eye. UUUGGGGHHH!!! That’s disgusting but I’m hoping not contagious.

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**Author:** ![SeaDragonTattoo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/df705f/32.png) [@SeaDragonTattoo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SeaDragonTattoo)\
**Post date:** [May 5, 2015, 4:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-may-be-time-to-rant-a-bit-minirants/718983/67 "2015-05-05T04:56:50Z")

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> [@saje](#):
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> I really hope that the discussion in the Veterinarian thread dies off soon and the thread drops off the board. It makes my stomach turn over every time I read that title…

I ended up unsubscribing once it turned into the Bricker Show.

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**Author:** ![curlcoat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ea5d25/32.png) [@curlcoat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/curlcoat)\
**Post date:** [May 5, 2015, 5:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-may-be-time-to-rant-a-bit-minirants/718983/68 "2015-05-05T05:35:05Z")

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> [@saje](#):
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> I really hope that the discussion in the Veterinarian thread dies off soon and the thread drops off the board. It makes my stomach turn over every time I read that title…

Same here. Every time I see it I have to go find Kitty and hug her.

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**Author:** ![Orville\_mogul](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/aeb1de/32.png) [@Orville\_mogul](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Orville_mogul)\
**Post date:** [May 5, 2015, 10:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-may-be-time-to-rant-a-bit-minirants/718983/69 "2015-05-05T10:54:02Z")

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> [@russian\_heel](#):
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> I can only go by the information the poster was giving. That said, I am hard pressed to think of any situation where uttering this was justified.

No, not justified. But we don’t have enough info to know whether the teacher really meant it, or if it was just a moment of stupidity that she immediately regretted. If this was the only offense, I think she deserved a warning and another chance. People make mistakes.

And on the subject of recognising the rights of minorities, I am generally very supportive, but at my workplace the overriding atmosphere of PC when it comes to gender equality really makes me wonder. On Valentine’s Day every year there is a big lunch (party) that only the female staff are allowed to attend, during which there is lots of female comraderie and male-bashing. I can guarantee that if I tried to organise a male-only event I would have received a one-way invitation to HR…

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**Author:** ![RandMcnally](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/b782af/32.png) [@RandMcnally](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RandMcnally)\
**Post date:** [May 5, 2015, 12:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-may-be-time-to-rant-a-bit-minirants/718983/70 "2015-05-05T12:23:32Z")

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> [@Orville\_mogul](#):
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> No, not justified. But we don’t have enough info to know whether the teacher really meant it, or if it was just a moment of stupidity that she immediately regretted. If this was the only offense, I think she deserved a warning and another chance. People make mistakes.

My problem with this teacher (based on what we know), is they’re dealing with already marginalized groups. Maybe they’re completely impartial with dealing with the class and treats everyone equally. Or maybe they let their biases get in the way of classroom management. The fact that they’re stupid enough to say what they did at work shows they don’t have the best judgment.

And like I said, I’ve never known anyone to ask that (non-ironically) and not say stupid stuff later, like “Why is there a Black Entertainment channel and not a white entertainment?” or “Why can Black people say the ‘N’ word? If anything, that’s the racist thing.”

Either way, I’d pull my kid out of that class if I heard about it.

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**Author:** ![DummyGladHands](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/49beb7/32.png) [@DummyGladHands](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DummyGladHands)\
**Post date:** [May 5, 2015, 2:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-may-be-time-to-rant-a-bit-minirants/718983/71 "2015-05-05T14:11:11Z")

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> [@curlcoat](#):
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> Same here. Every time I see it I have to go find Kitty and hug her.

Hear you. And my big boy looks just like the cat the bitch killed-hate that photo!!!

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> Boyfriend, I like you. You’re great! I appreciate being invited to your family functions and I am happy to doll up, download my Polite Manners Program, and play +1 for weddings, birthday parties, and such. But please, don’t guilt trip me when I decline to spend every Sunday with your parents. They’re nice, they really are. Your dad is kind of hilarious, actually. It’s just that it’s my ONLY day off, and some weeks it’s only a half-day off. I need to catch up on laundry and bills and spend some time with my dogs. And sometimes I just want to sit and stare at the walls (with my toes in cheek) and decompress. I think it’s rad that you have a good relationship with your folks, but you get TWO days off at minimum and you can spare one to watch golf and shoot the shit with them without feeling like you’re being robbed of your free time.

Yes, please, will someone tell the world and all my relatives that for a working woman, the weekends are not dinner parties, sleeping in, lunch dates and eating bon bons whilst having a massage? Hello laundry, cleaning, bills, paperwork, yard work, shopping, errands etc. That shit don’t do itself people.

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**Author:** ![Thudlow\_Boink](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thudlow_boink/32/320_2.png) [@Thudlow\_Boink](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Thudlow_Boink)\
**Post date:** [May 5, 2015, 3:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-may-be-time-to-rant-a-bit-minirants/718983/72 "2015-05-05T15:30:03Z")

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> [@RandMcnally](#):
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> And like I said, I’ve never known anyone to ask that (non-ironically) and not say stupid stuff later

As I’ve thought about it more, what makes me uneasy is that what the teacher actually said was not, technically, racist, even if it was the kind of thing that probably only a racist would say. If I heard someone say something like that, I, too, would think it likely that that there were racist, or at least problematic, attitudes behind it. But to fire someone for saying something that is not even racist _per se_, if that’s the only offense, is too much like prosecuting thought crimes.

But it’s likely that that wasn’t the only offense. What may have happened is that she was asked by a supervisor to explain what she “meant by that,” and that the explanation she gave was what sealed her fate. When it looks to an outsider like a person was “fired for doing X,” there may actually be more to the story.

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**Author:** ![Saintly\_Loser](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/saintly_loser/32/4045_2.png) [@Saintly\_Loser](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Saintly_Loser)\
**Post date:** [May 5, 2015, 4:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-may-be-time-to-rant-a-bit-minirants/718983/73 "2015-05-05T16:36:12Z")

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> [@curlcoat](#):
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> I’m a little confused about the hostility towards the teacher and the assumption that she must be racist. Isn’t black history month racist? And wouldn’t asking when we can have an (anything else) month just be push back against the racism?

No, it’s not racist. And anyone who would ask is the same kind of not-so-closeted (white) racist who asks “hey, black people get to call each other niggers, so why can’t I call them niggers without being called a racist?”

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**Author:** ![overlyverbose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/9dc877/32.png) [@overlyverbose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/overlyverbose)\
**Post date:** [May 5, 2015, 5:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-may-be-time-to-rant-a-bit-minirants/718983/74 "2015-05-05T17:55:01Z")

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My son has some dread virus today that gave him a very high fever and has him coughing up snot like a 9-year old loogie machine. I took him to the doc and she prescribed pretty much what I’m doing: lots of fluids, ibuprofen and cold stuff to soothe his throat. What sucks is that I’m annoyed and I feel guilty because I’m annoyed.

I was supposed to be on a really important call today with the government to tell them why one of their new pieces of legislation sucked. Then I was supposed to spend the remainder of the day in an audit, also with the U.S. government. Granted, someone from my workplace was able to do both for me, but still…it wasn’t me.

I’m not mad at him obviously, but both my kids seem to have this unique sense for Important Meeting at Work and/or Business Trip = Perfect Time to Get Incredibly Sick. My husband would be helping with backup but his car was rear ended last week and he has to take it in to get estimates for damages. Stupid virus. You couldn’t have waited a week? Damned messy life - shit happens. I hate that. Grrr.

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**Author:** ![Thudlow\_Boink](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thudlow_boink/32/320_2.png) [@Thudlow\_Boink](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Thudlow_Boink)\
**Post date:** [May 5, 2015, 5:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-may-be-time-to-rant-a-bit-minirants/718983/75 "2015-05-05T17:58:26Z")

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You obviously need to install a better virus protector. 🙂

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**Author:** ![DCnDC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dcndc/32/2842_2.png) [@DCnDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DCnDC)\
**Post date:** [May 5, 2015, 6:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-may-be-time-to-rant-a-bit-minirants/718983/76 "2015-05-05T18:09:38Z")

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Completely empty parking lot. I intentionally park a good distance back from the building entrance. When I come back out, there’s one other car parked in the lot. _Right next to me_. Seriously? What the fuck?!

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**Author:** ![overlyverbose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/9dc877/32.png) [@overlyverbose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/overlyverbose)\
**Post date:** [May 5, 2015, 6:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-may-be-time-to-rant-a-bit-minirants/718983/77 "2015-05-05T18:45:48Z")

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> [@Thudlow\_Boink](#):
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> You obviously need to install a better virus protector. 🙂

Why didn’t I think about that sooner?? 😃

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**Author:** ![FuriousGeorge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ecae2f/32.png) [@FuriousGeorge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FuriousGeorge)\
**Post date:** [May 5, 2015, 7:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-may-be-time-to-rant-a-bit-minirants/718983/78 "2015-05-05T19:03:02Z")

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> [@Saintly\_Loser](#):
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> No, it’s not racist. And anyone who would ask is the same kind of not-so-closeted (white) racist who asks “hey, black people get to call each other niggers, so why can’t I call them niggers without being called a racist?”

Yeah, you know, _ **THOSE** _ kind of people.

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**Author:** ![curlcoat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ea5d25/32.png) [@curlcoat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/curlcoat)\
**Post date:** [May 5, 2015, 10:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-may-be-time-to-rant-a-bit-minirants/718983/79 "2015-05-05T22:59:35Z")

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> [@Saintly\_Loser](#):
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> No, it’s not racist. And anyone who would ask is the same kind of not-so-closeted (white) racist who asks “hey, black people get to call each other niggers, so why can’t I call them niggers without being called a racist?”

Given that this is supposed to be a board dedicated to the fight against ignorance, the amount shown here is at times unbelievable. Why in the world would the one question indicate not so closeted racism? Why would the one question have to lead to the other? Jesus Christ people, all you have to do is explain why it’s racist in your opinion, instead of making stupid assumptions.

" noun 1.a belief or doctrine that inherent differences among the various human racial groups determine cultural or individual achievement, usually involving the idea that one’s own race is superior and has the right to dominate others or that a particular racial group is inferior to the others."

Where in there does it specify why we have a Black History Month and that’s it? If it is because of the gross injustices done in the past, why don’t we have a Japanese History Month? Or a Chinese History Month? Or hell, a gay/lesbian/trans/etc month?

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**Author:** ![apollonia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/2bfe46/32.png) [@apollonia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/apollonia)\
**Post date:** [May 6, 2015, 1:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-may-be-time-to-rant-a-bit-minirants/718983/80 "2015-05-06T01:30:03Z")

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> [@curlcoat](#):
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> Where in there does it specify why we have a Black History Month and that’s it? If it is because of the gross injustices done in the past, why don’t we have a Japanese History Month? Or a Chinese History Month? Or hell, a gay/lesbian/trans/etc month?

Oh, unknowable universe. [Asian Pacific American Heritage Month](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asian_Pacific_American_Heritage_Month)

[LGBT History Month](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/LGBT_History_Month)

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