# It Sucks to be a Girl !(TMI) **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [May 3, 2002, 1:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-sucks-to-be-a-girl-tmi/107057 "2002-05-03T13:17:38Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 13\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![mack](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b19c9b/32.png) [@mack](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mack)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2002, 5:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-sucks-to-be-a-girl-tmi/107057/21 "2002-05-03T17:42:00Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by hannahw \* > \*\*What I would like to know is from men…I don’t have a boyfriend or husband, but I have many male friends. When I’m in this state…bitchy and moody, crampy and achy and generally feel icky, do you, as men, want to know why? Or isn’t it enough to say “I don’t feel well”? I always feel awkward, like some teevee cliche, saying “it’s a girl thing,” but I don’t know how else to make you shut up about “what’s wrong, what’s wrong what’s wrong” \*\* If a woman I know is unusually reserved (“I’m so ugly”) or snippy I usually just write it off to that time of the month unless there’s something else going on I’m aware of. There’s no explanation needed and frankly it’s really nobody’s business but your own. If you feel compelled to share, that’s fine too. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with ‘I don’t feel well’. Ain’t it the truth? ---
**Author:** ![auntie\_em](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5e9695/32.png) [@auntie\_em](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/auntie_em)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2002, 5:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-sucks-to-be-a-girl-tmi/107057/22 "2002-05-03T17:43:19Z")
**Nocturne** , wow. I don’t know what to say (or maybe I just don’t know where to start), but I can somewhat sympathize… My mother was (and still kind of is) of the mindset that all gynos are really just lecherous old men (in her day, most doctors, in any field, _were_ men) who got medical degrees just to be able to enact their dirty little fantasies on women in stirrups. So I did not get regular paps (didn’t get ANY paps until my senior year in college, when my sister volunteered to pay for it), and she snatched me away from a doctor she once liked and respected because when I turned 17 he started bugging her to get me to a GYN. So I know how these things can be. Is there any possibility that a doctor she trusts could help her see the situation in a different light? Or that you could just get knocked up and say, “Hmmm… shame I never got on The Pill, huh, Ma?” (You know I’m kidding with that last comment, right?) As for telling the boys… I’ve never been one to keep these things a secret, because… well… why should they be? However, I still found myself shocked and mildly disturbed when I was asked by a 14-year-old boy, on a particularly cranky day, if I was having PMS! :eek: I guess I can’t have it both ways… And **irishgirl** … all I can say is Good Luck! ---
**Author:** ![easy\_e](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/eb8c5e/32.png) [@easy\_e](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/easy_e)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2002, 6:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-sucks-to-be-a-girl-tmi/107057/23 "2002-05-03T18:26:11Z")
**auntie em** –I know what you mean about that “other time,” when my brain and my ovaries battle for possession of my body. Although I’m thankful that my brain is leading the series. This time is also when my friends seem to always schedule “girls’ night out.”:eek: Hanging out with my male friends can also be painful. Granted, most of them are dorking engineering students, but thanks to the wonders of **OvuVision** , even the most socially awkward ones are transformed into heavenly hunks of manly flesh. It’s good for me that as a rule, they’re too “nice” to ever take advantage of my momentary weaknesses.🆒 ---
**Author:** ![auntie\_em](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5e9695/32.png) [@auntie\_em](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/auntie_em)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2002, 7:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-sucks-to-be-a-girl-tmi/107057/24 "2002-05-03T19:16:51Z")
**easy e** – Hahahahahahaha! **OvuVision**! I love it! Got any pictures of those Engineering Dorks of which you speak??? 😉 ---
**Author:** ![irishgirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/8edcca/32.png) [@irishgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/irishgirl)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2002, 7:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-sucks-to-be-a-girl-tmi/107057/25 "2002-05-03T19:19:45Z")
thanks for the good thoughts and the advice. like i said. not going to worry til my next appointment in 2 weeks. irishfella coming next week, plus end of year exams in 3 weeks give me other things to think about. ---
**Author:** ![jools](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/b3f665/32.png) [@jools](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jools)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2002, 7:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-sucks-to-be-a-girl-tmi/107057/26 "2002-05-03T19:20:47Z")
**auntie em, easy e** i’m so glad i’m not alone like that… most girlfriends i spoke to said that ovulation went by without them notice… ohhhhhhhhh the relief of knowing there are others out there like me… great word… OvuVision 😃 ---
**Author:** ![lezlers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/258eb7/32.png) [@lezlers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lezlers)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2002, 7:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-sucks-to-be-a-girl-tmi/107057/27 "2002-05-03T19:48:06Z")
OvuVision, I love it. Jools, you are most definatly not alone, my boyfriend thinks he is the luckiest man alive around that time. Unfortuantly last month he was on medication around that time that um, made him not so much “in the mood”. I almost got to the point of threatening him with his life unless he GOT IN THE MOOD. I was practically climbing the walls. Tomcat, I agree with you about the weed thing. It really does help. The only downside is I turn into the human garbage disposal around that time anyway, couple that with the weed and it takes iron chains on the fridge to keep me from eating it’s entire contents. Then I feel like ass. A fat one at that. ---
**Author:** ![Rysdad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/7cd45c/32.png) [@Rysdad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rysdad)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2002, 1:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-sucks-to-be-a-girl-tmi/107057/28 "2002-05-04T01:02:47Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by hannahw \* > \*\*When I’m in this state…bitchy and moody, crampy and achy and generally feel icky, do you, as men, want to know why? \*\* Speaking for myself as a guy who’s been married twice, all I can do is paraphrase the Dell computer dood: “Oh, we know.” I don’t think most men are as obtuse as others have said. It would be nice to have the ladies confirm our suspicions, though. That way, we’ll know that _this, too, shall pass._ Our worst fear is that it’s _not_ PMS–because that means it might be something worse, or permanent. ---
**Author:** ![Punoqllads](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/d2c977/32.png) [@Punoqllads](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Punoqllads)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2002, 1:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-sucks-to-be-a-girl-tmi/107057/29 "2002-05-04T01:18:23Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by auntie em \* > > And let’s not forget the flipside of PMS/Squirting like a slaughtered hog… OVULATION (otherwise known as The Perpetual State of “Come to Mama, Big Fella!”). > > I am ovulating right now. > > And I’m single. > > Men may never know the hell. Are you kidding? This is what a guy feels like **all the time**. Our bodies are constantly producing sperm, and God forbid we should let one go to waste or anything. Although it’s more like The Perpetual State of “Come to Papa, Li’l Darlin”. ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2002, 1:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-sucks-to-be-a-girl-tmi/107057/30 "2002-05-04T01:40:08Z")
Hmm. I don’t get horny when I ovulate. But then, I never get horny at all, thanks to the wonders of SSRI antidepressants. Right now here is what I’m going through: Ovulation WITH bleeding and clots. WTF?? ---
**Author:** ![monstro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ba9def/32.png) [@monstro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/monstro)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2002, 2:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-sucks-to-be-a-girl-tmi/107057/31 "2002-05-04T02:13:05Z")
Every time I engage in period threads, I start my period. The pheromones must go through the telephone lines. ---
**Author:** ![Wikkit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c0e974/32.png) [@Wikkit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wikkit)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2002, 5:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-sucks-to-be-a-girl-tmi/107057/32 "2002-05-04T05:46:07Z")
> [@](#): > > **auntie em** : > I am ovulating right now. > > And I’m single. > > Men may never know the hell. I agree with **Punoqllads** , you are one of the (apparently few) females who understand what it’s like to be male. I wish I was joking. > [@](#): > > **hannahw** : > When I’m in this state…bitchy and moody, crampy and achy and generally feel icky, do you, as men, want to know why I think there’s a fundamental right for everyone, male or female, to be bitchy from time to time. I’ve never correlated mood and physiology, or made ‘that time of month’ comments. However, if I was told, it would make some difference in how I reacted to said mood. It’d also be a demonstration of trust. If one of your male friends was acting grumpy and moving around differently, how would your perception and actions change if he did or didn’t inform you that he had twisted testicles or prostate problems or some other male-only unpleasantness? Is anyone else mad that they changed the search engine so that it is no longer possible to search for “TMI”? Some of the greatest threads can only be grouped using that text… Ben ---
**Author:** ![airdisc](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e19adc/32.png) [@airdisc](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/airdisc)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2002, 4:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-sucks-to-be-a-girl-tmi/107057/33 "2002-05-04T16:37:45Z")
All I have to say is: Ahhh, to be male. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/it-sucks-to-be-a-girl-tmi/107057.md?page=1)