# It's been a year...as of yesterday. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [March 23, 2013, 3:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-been-a-year-as-of-yesterday/653709 "2013-03-23T03:51:22Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Stendhal\_Syndrome](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/77aa72/32.png) [@Stendhal\_Syndrome](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stendhal_Syndrome)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2013, 3:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-been-a-year-as-of-yesterday/653709/1 "2013-03-23T03:51:22Z")
It’s been a year since my husband Jesse’s (gurujulp) death. Wow. And I made it. We made it. I survived. 🙂 Yesterday was the actual anniversary and it really wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be. I took three days off work. We went to the zoo yesterday and had a great time. It has been an emotional year, but I know we’ll make it just fine. It has also been a year that showed me how much we are loved and supported by family and friends, and even strangers sometimes. The girls are doing well. Our older daughter will be 11 years old soon and our younger daughter is 15 months old. I am also in the process of moving out of the house that we once shared together and we will be in a new house on April 1st. Moving out will be good for all of us, I think. I am looking forward to starting afresh, in a new space, with new energy. And I will always carry him with me wherever I go. I remember all the support and kindness I received when I announced his death here. And I have stayed in contact with some of you on an ongoing basis after that. So this is me…sharing some happy, positive, moving on news. ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2013, 4:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-been-a-year-as-of-yesterday/653709/2 "2013-03-23T04:04:37Z")
I’m so glad for you. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Marley23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Marley23](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Marley23)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2013, 4:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-been-a-year-as-of-yesterday/653709/3 "2013-03-23T04:10:49Z")
I’m glad to hear you’re doing so well, **Stendhal Syndrome**. Congratulations on your strength and good luck with your move. ---
**Author:** ![PandaBear77](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/edb3f5/32.png) [@PandaBear77](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PandaBear77)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2013, 4:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-been-a-year-as-of-yesterday/653709/4 "2013-03-23T04:43:27Z")
You’re gonna be just fine, hon. I knew you would be 🙂 The second year is easier. ---
**Author:** ![pravnik](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/8edcca/32.png) [@pravnik](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pravnik)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2013, 4:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-been-a-year-as-of-yesterday/653709/5 "2013-03-23T04:44:49Z")
I’m glad that you and your family have healed, and hope that you continue to do so. ---
**Author:** ![Asimovian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asimovian/32/172_2.png) [@Asimovian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Asimovian)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2013, 5:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-been-a-year-as-of-yesterday/653709/6 "2013-03-23T05:18:31Z")
🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Poysyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f4b2a3/32.png) [@Poysyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Poysyn)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2013, 5:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-been-a-year-as-of-yesterday/653709/7 "2013-03-23T05:26:02Z")
I’ve thought about you and your family from time to time, thank you for posting. ---
**Author:** ![Cartooniverse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cartooniverse/32/3084_2.png) [@Cartooniverse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cartooniverse)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2013, 5:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-been-a-year-as-of-yesterday/653709/8 "2013-03-23T05:41:23Z")
Thank you for sharing this. He will always be with you, no matter what life brings. ---
**Author:** ![Northern\_Piper](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/northern_piper/32/5304_2.png) [@Northern\_Piper](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Northern_Piper)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2013, 6:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-been-a-year-as-of-yesterday/653709/9 "2013-03-23T06:38:33Z")
I’m glad things are going so well for you. It’s a very difficult time, but sounds like you’re moving on. Doesn’t mean you’re forgetting him and the good times, just moving on. ---
**Author:** ![kambuckta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/53a042/32.png) [@kambuckta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kambuckta)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2013, 7:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-been-a-year-as-of-yesterday/653709/10 "2013-03-23T07:15:54Z")
I know it sounds trite, but a big t **hankyou** for sharing. Those weeks and months (and sometimes years) after the death of a spouse can be really fucking awful, but you made it. kam 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Becky2844](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@Becky2844](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Becky2844)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2013, 7:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-been-a-year-as-of-yesterday/653709/11 "2013-03-23T07:38:07Z")
I remember your posts. They were very loving, through the tears. I’m glad that the good you all shared continues on in your life. ---
**Author:** ![Sticks\_and\_Scones](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sticks_and_scones/32/16951_2.png) [@Sticks\_and\_Scones](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sticks_and_Scones)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2013, 10:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-been-a-year-as-of-yesterday/653709/12 "2013-03-23T10:17:01Z")
Good for you. Glad you can move forward. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2013, 1:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-been-a-year-as-of-yesterday/653709/13 "2013-03-23T13:42:01Z")
Thanks for letting us know – I do think about you and your girls from time to time and wonder how that’s going. ---
**Author:** ![snowthx](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/snowthx/32/10660_2.png) [@snowthx](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/snowthx)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2013, 1:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-been-a-year-as-of-yesterday/653709/14 "2013-03-23T13:50:46Z")
I was touched by your thread last year. I am glad you and your kids are doing alright. Thanks for the update. ---
**Author:** ![Dangerosa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/22d042/32.png) [@Dangerosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dangerosa)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2013, 1:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-been-a-year-as-of-yesterday/653709/15 "2013-03-23T13:56:59Z")
You have remained in my thoughts. ---
**Author:** ![not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/not_what_you_d_expect/32/3246_2.png) [@not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/not_what_you_d_expect)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2013, 2:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-been-a-year-as-of-yesterday/653709/16 "2013-03-23T14:19:26Z")
Thank you for sharing. May your life continue to brighten. ---
**Author:** ![Happy\_Lendervedder](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/happy_lendervedder/32/8488_2.png) [@Happy\_Lendervedder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Happy_Lendervedder)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2013, 3:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-been-a-year-as-of-yesterday/653709/17 "2013-03-23T15:34:12Z")
Your story has stuck with me during the past year, and I, like others here, have thought of you and your kids from time to time. Glad to hear things are brighter for you these days! ---
**Author:** ![freckafree](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/freckafree/32/3050_2.png) [@freckafree](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/freckafree)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2013, 5:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-been-a-year-as-of-yesterday/653709/18 "2013-03-23T17:32:05Z")
Lovely news, and thank for letting us know. Hugs to you and your girls! ---
**Author:** ![CateAyo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/50afbb/32.png) [@CateAyo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CateAyo)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2013, 5:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-been-a-year-as-of-yesterday/653709/19 "2013-03-23T17:54:07Z")
Well done, Stendhal. He would expect no less of you I am sure. ---
**Author:** ![Stendhal\_Syndrome](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/77aa72/32.png) [@Stendhal\_Syndrome](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stendhal_Syndrome)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2013, 7:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-been-a-year-as-of-yesterday/653709/20 "2013-03-23T19:17:11Z")
Thank you all. There are people in the house right now…future tenants…doing a walk through. And all of a sudden I just got a bit emotional walking through the house with them and into all the rooms, especially the bedroom. It is strange how things/situations that I don’t expect to stir emotions in me, eventually just end up having me all teary eyed. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-been-a-year-as-of-yesterday/653709.md?page=2)