# It's Been Awhile **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [July 25, 2007, 7:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-been-awhile/413137 "2007-07-25T19:41:23Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 10\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Least\_Original\_User\_Name\_Ever](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e480ec/32.png) [@Least\_Original\_User\_Name\_Ever](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Least_Original_User_Name_Ever)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2007, 1:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-been-awhile/413137/21 "2007-07-27T01:36:25Z")
By the way, I didn’t know what everyone else was referencing, so I did a little search. Water under the bridge, as far as I’m concerned. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2007, 1:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-been-awhile/413137/22 "2007-07-27T01:37:09Z")
[QUOTE=Guinastasia] Shouldn’t that be the other way around? :dubious: [/QUOTE] I would think both sides need to be patient and earnest in this situation. She has to be patient in knowing things will not be repaired in an instant, there is no magic wand, and she must be earnest in her beliefs. Why not? Even now it can’t be a one-sided thing. ---
**Author:** ![RandMcnally](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/b782af/32.png) [@RandMcnally](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RandMcnally)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2007, 4:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-been-awhile/413137/23 "2007-07-27T04:05:47Z")
[QUOTE=Anaamika] I would think both sides need to be patient and earnest in this situation. She has to be patient in knowing things will not be repaired in an instant, there is no magic wand, and she must be earnest in her beliefs. Why not? Even now it can’t be a one-sided thing. [/QUOTE] Wait, so is she still blowing this dude behind her husband’s back? ---
**Author:** ![Inner\_Stickler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inner_stickler/32/318_2.png) [@Inner\_Stickler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inner_Stickler)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2007, 5:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-been-awhile/413137/24 "2007-07-27T05:31:04Z")
There’s no need to be crass. If as she says, her husband is working with her then that would imply no, she is not cheating on him. And, if she is cheating, well, hopefully she’s learned not to post about it. ---
**Author:** ![boggle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/848f3c/32.png) [@boggle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/boggle)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2007, 7:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-been-awhile/413137/25 "2007-07-27T07:00:35Z")
Who is this person? Is she a piano? ---
**Author:** ![Sierra\_Indigo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f0a364/32.png) [@Sierra\_Indigo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sierra_Indigo)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2007, 9:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-been-awhile/413137/26 "2007-07-27T09:15:14Z")
I’m also glad you’re sorting things out and I hope you and your whole family can repair that trust and get back to a better place. Welcome back. ---
**Author:** ![DiosaBellissima](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a8b319/32.png) [@DiosaBellissima](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DiosaBellissima)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2007, 4:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-been-awhile/413137/27 "2007-07-27T16:38:41Z")
[QUOTE=Inner Stickler] There’s no need to be crass. If as she says, her husband is working with her then that would imply no, she is not cheating on him. And, if she is cheating, well, hopefully she’s learned not to post about it. [/QUOTE] If anyone invited any level of crassness, it was her, since she proudly posted the torrid details of her infidelity on an internet message board. And let’s be frank, in that situation you aren’t making love, you’re fucking. Plus, she’s the one who boasted about blowing the dude while her husband was away, so it’s not like **RandMcNally** pulled that point out of his bum. That said, I do hope you’ve completely cut yourself off from the person you were cheating on your husband with, as I assume that’s what you mean when you say you and your husband are working on it. Whoever said he is a saint is right and I hope you recognize that and the chance you’ve got to make things right. Welcome back as (hopefully) a new woman, **MizGrand**. ---
**Author:** ![Inner\_Stickler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inner_stickler/32/318_2.png) [@Inner\_Stickler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inner_Stickler)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2007, 6:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-been-awhile/413137/28 "2007-07-27T18:10:39Z")
[QUOTE=DiosaBellissima] If anyone invited any level of crassness, it was her, since she proudly posted the torrid details of her infidelity on an internet message board. And let’s be frank, in that situation you aren’t making love, you’re fucking. Plus, she’s the one who boasted about blowing the dude while her husband was away, so it’s not like **RandMcNally** pulled that point out of his bum. [/QUOTE] Her behavior months ago is not justification for the crassness in this thread. I do not know if her hiatus was voluntary or not, but based on her posts in this thread, she appears to have come to terms with her problems and is working on fixing them. I am willing to give her the benefit of the doubt and let bygones be bygones. ---
**Author:** ![Least\_Original\_User\_Name\_Ever](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e480ec/32.png) [@Least\_Original\_User\_Name\_Ever](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Least_Original_User_Name_Ever)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2007, 6:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-been-awhile/413137/29 "2007-07-27T18:56:51Z")
Agreed. ---
**Author:** ![cochrane](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cochrane/32/10441_2.png) [@cochrane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cochrane)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2007, 10:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-been-awhile/413137/30 "2007-07-27T22:59:21Z")
I’m in agreement with **Inner Stickler** and **LOUNE**. Welcome back, **MizGrand**. It’s water under the bridge as far as I’m concerned, I don’t see why it’s necessary to throw your problems back into your face. The crassness is on the part of those who want to make it a case of recreational outrage. I’m glad to hear you and your husband are trying to make a fresh start and I hope things continue to go well for you. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-been-awhile/413137.md?page=1)