# It's been over a month since my wife died. Too soon to start dating?

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**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [July 14, 2017, 11:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-been-over-a-month-since-my-wife-died-too-soon-to-start-dating/791289 "2017-07-14T23:04:13Z")\
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**Post date:** [July 14, 2017, 11:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-been-over-a-month-since-my-wife-died-too-soon-to-start-dating/791289/1 "2017-07-14T23:04:13Z")

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I’m a prig of a prescriptivist, so of course it is. But when will it stop being tacky?

I’m 63, with some health issues I’m working on. Co-worker is 45ish and a 2x cancer survivor. In recent months I’ve lost a lot of weight and this week, after mourning, detox, and a hospitalization following a DT-based seizure, I’ve begun to take better care of myself. Wednesday she said, “Hey, you’re looking really good!”

“You do realize that, after an appropriate period of time and I get some of my stuff back together, I will be asking you out.”

“And I will be waiting.”

“I wasn’t joking.”

“Neither was I.”

A brother could do a lot worse, and I don’t care what my family or that of my late wife think, but sometimes I think I should. Advice?

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