# It's illegal in my state, but ... **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [October 22, 2015, 12:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-illegal-in-my-state-but/735449 "2015-10-22T12:46:06Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Inna\_Minnit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/5f8ce5/32.png) [@Inna\_Minnit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inna_Minnit)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2015, 6:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-illegal-in-my-state-but/735449/81 "2015-11-03T06:52:36Z")
So, is this the girl from your church you’ve been pining after for years? ---
**Author:** ![Bullitt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bullitt/32/5725_2.png) [@Bullitt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bullitt)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2015, 9:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-illegal-in-my-state-but/735449/82 "2015-11-03T09:29:08Z")
> [@Inna\_Minnit](#): > > So, is this the girl from your church you’ve been pining after for years? I think I remember that, yes… > [@Mister\_Rik](#): > > … posting about these things is mainly a way of just getting it off my chest. I don’t think that’s your chest that you have in your hand. ---
**Author:** ![Mister\_Rik](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mister_rik/32/491_2.png) [@Mister\_Rik](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mister_Rik)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2015, 9:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-illegal-in-my-state-but/735449/83 "2015-11-03T09:33:35Z")
> [@Inna\_Minnit](#): > > So, is this the girl from your church you’ve been pining after for years? Too late. ---
**Author:** ![Bullitt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bullitt/32/5725_2.png) [@Bullitt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bullitt)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2015, 11:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-illegal-in-my-state-but/735449/84 "2015-11-03T11:00:31Z")
> [@Inna\_Minnit](#): > > So, is this the girl from your church you’ve been pining after for years? This thread? > **[Unrequited Love](https://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=749456)** > > This is going to sound horribly creepy, but I don’t have any other place to say this. But I have to say it. I’ve been here since 2003, so I hope at least some of you sort of know me, and won’t judge me too harshly. – I met her when she was 15 years... ---
**Author:** ![Fenris](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fenris/32/498_2.png) [@Fenris](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fenris)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2015, 1:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-illegal-in-my-state-but/735449/85 "2015-11-03T13:16:05Z")
> [@Mister\_Rik](#): > > … is there really anything morally wrong with me having a crush on my first cousin? Ew. And yes. But mostly…ew. And when you add in the “young enough to be my daughter”, it’s really really Ew. ---
**Author:** ![Muffin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/muffin/32/4341_2.png) [@Muffin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Muffin)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2015, 1:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-illegal-in-my-state-but/735449/86 "2015-11-03T13:39:05Z")
> [@Mister\_Rik](#): > > … is there really anything morally wrong with me having a crush on my first cousin? Depends on how heavy you are. ---
**Author:** ![Inna\_Minnit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/5f8ce5/32.png) [@Inna\_Minnit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inna_Minnit)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2015, 9:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-illegal-in-my-state-but/735449/87 "2015-11-03T21:14:38Z")
> [@Fenris](#): > > Ew. > > And yes. > > But mostly…ew. > > And when you add in the “young enough to be my daughter”, it’s really really Ew. So there are two women he has known since they were children that he wants to bang. Charming. ---
**Author:** ![Wallaby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/dc4da7/32.png) [@Wallaby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wallaby)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2015, 12:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-illegal-in-my-state-but/735449/88 "2015-11-04T00:19:11Z")
Crush on cousin - no problems. Hey, my cousin was an absolute honey. I had more mates than I’d ever had whenever she was visiting. Crush on someone 20+ years younger - ah, well, maybe we need to re-think that one. ---
**Author:** ![MoonMoon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/moonmoon/32/2959_2.png) [@MoonMoon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MoonMoon)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2015, 1:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-illegal-in-my-state-but/735449/89 "2015-11-04T01:42:04Z")
> [@Inna\_Minnit](#): > > So there are two women he has known since they were children that he wants to bang. Charming. And I seem to recall something about a spanking fetish. Interesting. ---
**Author:** ![Green\_Bean](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/green_bean/32/1760_2.png) [@Green\_Bean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Green_Bean)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2015, 1:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-illegal-in-my-state-but/735449/90 "2015-11-04T01:50:41Z")
> [@MoonMoon](#): > > Where do you get the fact that his cousin is consenting, from his post? The post I and others found objectionable was the leering older man talking about a much younger relative like she was a tasty piece of meat. Yes yes yes. > [@Broomstick](#): > > You see, unlike (apparently) some people around here I don’t keep dossiers on other posters, and unlike you I don’t have prior knowledge of the OP’s fantasy history. If it is all just in his head, though, I’m not worried about it. He talked about staring at the teenage waitress. IIRC, she noticed. > [@TBG](#): > > That explains their motto: > **You’ll come for the cheese, but you’ll stay for the necrophilia** Better than Jersey’s. Incest Is Best! Put Yo’ Momma To The Test! ---
**Author:** ![Mister\_Rik](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mister_rik/32/491_2.png) [@Mister\_Rik](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mister_Rik)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2015, 7:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-illegal-in-my-state-but/735449/91 "2015-11-04T07:32:56Z")
> [@Muffin](#): > > Depends on how heavy you are. _weighs self_ Whoa, I’ve lost 65 pounds in the last year! Back down to what I weighed in high school! > [@MoonMoon](#): > > And I seem to recall something about a spanking fetish. Interesting. Yes, so very very yes. Except that, in real life, I’ve “switched”, and instead of finding a woman to spank, I now actually have an older woman spanking _me_ (and that has been … enlightening. But that’s for another thread. Wow, y’all are making me feel like I actually have a presence here, and that you _know_ me. I mean, you must know me, the way some of y’all have dragged every single other “questionable” thread I’ve ever started into this one! (Okay, there are at least two that you’ve missed, but I’ll leave the research up to you.) That makes all of my 11,000+ posts and the 200+ threads I’ve started over the last 12+ years worth it. I’ve always kinda felt, still, after all these years, like an outsider. Like none of y’all actually saw my name on my posts and recognized me as a longstanding member of this community. But now I see that you do, and I thank you. _wipes away a tear_ Holy crap, is it against the SDMB rules to call _myself_ a troll? Because that is how I’m starting to feel. Except that I must be a far-thinking troll, and must have planned all of this back in 2003. I mean, seriously, people. I started this thread, and the previous one, for exactly the reason I stated: Telling somebody about my stupid “problem” helps to eliminate the problem. I have these stupid thoughts, I talk about them instead of bottling them up and keeping them to myself, and that helps to rid myself of the problem. And ya know what? It has **worked**. Hello? I know that there are some professional psychologists here. For me, just saying it out loud fixed the problem for me. And here are all y’all, still going on and on and on … and that makes me feel like the most genius, advanced-thinking troll ever. Good grief, I didn’t troll you. You’re trolling yourselves. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2015, 7:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-illegal-in-my-state-but/735449/92 "2015-11-04T07:48:50Z")
Just because it helps _you_ doesn’t make it a good idea to spew all your dirty laundry here. Not everyone wants to be privy to all your personal issues. ---
**Author:** ![Mister\_Rik](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mister_rik/32/491_2.png) [@Mister\_Rik](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mister_Rik)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2015, 9:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-illegal-in-my-state-but/735449/93 "2015-11-04T09:15:19Z")
Guin, really? I thought better of you. You’re just dogpiling now. ---
**Author:** ![Broomstick](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/broomstick/32/246_2.png) [@Broomstick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Broomstick)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2015, 12:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-illegal-in-my-state-but/735449/94 "2015-11-04T12:15:23Z")
Hmm… seems to me that if you don’t want to hear what’s being discussed in a post you can simply stop reading once you realize what the topic is. Of course, moderators do have the problem they have to monitor threads, but the rest of us? If it hurts when you do “this”, stop doing that! ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2015, 1:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-illegal-in-my-state-but/735449/95 "2015-11-04T13:02:19Z")
> [@Broomstick](#): > > Hmm… seems to me that if you don’t want to hear what’s being discussed in a post you can simply stop reading once you realize what the topic is. Sometimes all you need to see is the username to know they’re going to put up a poor show. ---
**Author:** ![Slash1972](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/slash1972/32/6461_2.png) [@Slash1972](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slash1972)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2015, 7:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-illegal-in-my-state-but/735449/96 "2015-11-04T19:49:46Z")
> [@Wallaby](#): > > Crush on cousin - no problems. Hey, my cousin was an absolute honey. I had more mates than I’d ever had whenever she was visiting. > > Crush on someone 20+ years younger - ah, well, maybe we need to re-think that one. Why would we need to re-think about having a crush on someone 20+ years younger? What’s wrong with it? ---
**Author:** ![Drunky\_Smurf](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drunky_smurf/32/449_2.png) [@Drunky\_Smurf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drunky_Smurf)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2015, 8:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-illegal-in-my-state-but/735449/97 "2015-11-04T20:08:30Z")
> [@Procrustus](#): > > No. No it isn’t. Yes. Yes it is. > [@](#): > > Although there is considerable overlap between morality and the law, it’s not a perfect correlation. Smoking marijuana, as one example. There are others. Hmmm, I don’t remember mentioning morality. Oh, because I didn’t. There might have been a reason for that. > [@Inna\_Minnit](#): > > So there are two women he has known since they were children that he wants to bang. Charming. It’s not pedophilia if you wait long enough. 🆒 ---
**Author:** ![Penfeather](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/penfeather/32/384_2.png) [@Penfeather](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Penfeather)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2015, 8:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-illegal-in-my-state-but/735449/98 "2015-11-04T20:58:13Z")
> [@Mister\_Rik](#): > > Yes, so very very yes. Except that, in real life, I’ve “switched”, and instead of finding a woman to spank, I now actually have an older woman spanking _me_ (and that has been … enlightening. But that’s for another thread. There’s really no need. ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2015, 10:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-illegal-in-my-state-but/735449/99 "2015-11-04T22:15:08Z")
Unless it’s on a different board, in which case, go for it. ---
**Author:** ![gigi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a587f6/32.png) [@gigi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gigi)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2015, 10:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-illegal-in-my-state-but/735449/100 "2015-11-04T22:43:20Z")
> [@Slash1972](#): > > If someone responded to a “I saw two gay men kissing at the bus stop” thread with “I feel like I need a shower after this post. Yuck.” or “it’s just fucking creepy.” then they would be called gay-hating bigots or some other such names. Depends - are the two gay guys cousins? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-illegal-in-my-state-but/735449.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-illegal-in-my-state-but/735449.md?page=6)