# It's it sad to plan your own Birtday events? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [March 26, 2013, 4:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-it-sad-to-plan-your-own-birtday-events/654016 "2013-03-26T16:28:12Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2013, 1:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-it-sad-to-plan-your-own-birtday-events/654016/41 "2013-03-29T01:01:52Z")
I don’t think it’s sad. I do wish birthdays weren’t such a big thing amongst the people I am around because, frankly, I am incredibly uninterested in birthday parties. I just don’t get it and I don’t feel obligated to go. So my husband, who is into them, goes. I tend not to. So, not sad, just not my style. ---
**Author:** ![Magiver](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/4491bb/32.png) [@Magiver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Magiver)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2013, 2:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-it-sad-to-plan-your-own-birtday-events/654016/42 "2013-03-29T02:48:14Z")
> [@Dogzilla](#): > > Nonsense. As an adult, this is actually the first time in my life that the choice of getting a pony is A) entirely in my control and B) feasible. Finally. I can get that pony. And feed it birthday cake. If I want. Great, now I can’t get the Seinfeld pony episode out of my head. “My sister had pony, my cousin had pony… he was a beautiful pony and I loved him.” Here’s hoping SleuFeets gets the pony without a lot of planning. I don’t want to deny anyone at least one good day a year. ---
**Author:** ![carlotta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/898d66/32.png) [@carlotta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carlotta)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2013, 4:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-it-sad-to-plan-your-own-birtday-events/654016/43 "2013-03-29T16:21:20Z")
Not sad to plan your own birthday events. I expect to have fun on my birthday, but I don’t expect the other people in my life to commit the date to memory (except my husband) or to spend a lot of their time figuring out how to give me a good time. I hate big parties. Usually for my birthday I will plan a nice lunch and a nice dinner at restaurants. I usually invite one friend for the lunch and my family (husband, kids, parents, sister in law) for the dinner. If you get to be the one friend I invited for lunch that doesn’t mean you’re my favorite friend, it usually means you’re the one likely to be free or like the restaurant I feel like going to. I really hate going to other people’s birthday parties because I never even get to spend time with the birthday person. Usually it’s making small talk with people I don’t know. Bleah. ---
**Author:** ![Dogzilla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e480ec/32.png) [@Dogzilla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dogzilla)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2013, 8:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-it-sad-to-plan-your-own-birtday-events/654016/44 "2013-03-29T20:17:45Z")
> [@Magiver](#): > > Great, now I can’t get the Seinfeld pony episode out of my head. “My sister had pony, my cousin had pony… he was a beautiful pony and I loved him.” > > Here’s hoping SleuFeets gets the pony without a lot of planning. I don’t want to deny anyone at least one good day a year. Cheers! :: clinks glass :: ---
**Author:** ![Maggie\_the\_Ocelot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/df705f/32.png) [@Maggie\_the\_Ocelot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maggie_the_Ocelot)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2013, 8:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-it-sad-to-plan-your-own-birtday-events/654016/45 "2013-03-29T20:58:17Z")
Honestly, it never occurred to me that it would be abnormal to throw one’s own birthday party. Unless it’s a surprise party, in which case if you’re throwing it, you’ve got your own problems! My way of inviting: “Hey, I’m gonna be going to X for my birthday (where X is a restaurant, amusement park, lazer tag facility, etc). You wanna come with?” Nobody yet has assumed that I’m paying for their entry/meal; however, if I know the friend is broke, I’ll either offer to pay their way or just not mention it so as to not make them feel bad. If I’m throwing an actual party at my house, I’ll usually request no presents, but a few people will usually bring them anyway. _shrug_ It’s all good, and everyone has a good time. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/its-it-sad-to-plan-your-own-birtday-events/654016.md?page=2)