I waited til I had time to reply here because I knew it’s take a while.
I met the future bus wife on a cruise. (everyone say awww…) It was her third cruise with her friend, who I’ll just refer to as **The Whore ** for simplicity’s sake. FBW was pretty wild in the “let’s get drunk and dance” sense, but not in the “let’s get drunk and screw” sense. Whereas her BFF, **The Whore ** took time to fall in love and screw her way through each cruise. THAT is a longer story than you all have time for and not relevant, so we skip on…
Trouble with **The Whore ** started as soon as it was obvious that FBW and I were hitting it off. Her role was to be the friend standing by for **The Whore’s ** emotional breakdowns and such, and here she was with her own man??? The gall. So, right off, there was attitude.
FBW lived in the city (Chicago), in fact, only blocks from my grandfather as it turned out, and I in a suburb about 20 minutes out. So, romance was possible, and likely even after the cruise ended.
Landing at the dock in Miami, I suggested to FBW that instead of going back to HER place, she come in the limo my friend’s and I had to my house, meet my folks and I’d run her home later. Yeah, it was that serious that fast. Hey, when it’s right, it’s right, right?
OOOH, but that pissed off **The Whore ** who was counting on FBW to come home with her, hold her hand and console her that the ship’s magician she left behind would truly love her forever as she would him. Tough beans you Whore.
The next several months were repeated variations on the same theme. “you’re never available to listen to my Whorish stories and be my closest buddy because you had to go fall in love and think of yourself before me, how could you…”
Fast forward through the engagement process, which I fucked up by not consulting with **The Whore ** when selecting a ring. Silly ass me, didn’t know it was her job.
Then, we failed to consult her about invitations, where to hold the thing, I mean holy shit we were so rude not letting her make all these decisions for us.
FBW sat with the bridesmaids and basically said, hey so long as it’s Cub Blue (I failed to screen for appropriate baseball fan-ness, her only shortcoming…), I care less what you wear, keep in mind it’ll be outdoors, and likely pretty hot, so maybe keep them short-ish. (I’ll screw this up, is it called tea-length?) Despite all the other bridesmaids at some point contemplating an alley trip for The Whore, they eventually decided on a style. Us fellas were going to be stylish in white, with that stupid blue trim.
Comes the big weekend, and my best man, who hailed from Minnesota was apparently supposed to be the chauffer to Whores, because I was chastised for not having him pick her up at 6 am to scoot her Whorish ass around while she got dressed and decorated.
So, finally there’s a ceremony. Indeed outside, and it’s 99 in the shade, had there been any shade. Reception immediately followed at the forest preserve. My guys, once all the official stuff was done, were given OK to lose the 20 lbs of polyester tux, and they all changed into some reasonable shorts, shirts. The women, who intentionally selected something they could wear in the heat, did not.
Except The Whore. Mere minutes after the ceremony, she was dressed in a fire engine red tube top and skin tight matching shorts, and Do Me Pumps.
I found out years later that at some point she rubbed cake on her thighs and had some of my guys lick it off. Eww.
Once it got to sundown, and evacuating the forest preserve time, and we still had 2 full kegs of Heineken left, my folks made the call to adjourn to their place. Most everyone did, but The Whore, who made no secert of the fact that she was not about to waste any more of her time today at this wedding.
For the sake of keeping this reasonably short ::too late goofball:: I’ll skip past the lawsuit when we didn’t pay her back some money we borrowed from her fast enough to suit her, and the late night phone calls from her brother threatening me, and the yapping about how “it’ll never last between them” (we’ll celebrate 20 this Labor day, while she sits very bitterly divorced).
Not a lot of people that I would revel in their misfortune, but that’s one.
About ten years ago, bus wife had a reunion at the roller rink she used to hang at. I dropped her and went to hang with a friend, arranging to meet later. She called from the bar they were all at, and told me to come RIGHT NOW, because The Whore was there.
In her heyday, **The Whore ** was never ‘pretty", but she was thin, had a decent enough body, knew how to show it off and cleaned up ok. The one I saw that night had added 25 pounds to her 5’0’, had baggy eyes, and generally looked like crap. While bus wife was prettier than the first day I met her.
I waited til I knew **The Whore ** was looking, and gave the wife the biggest hug and kiss I could.
“Never last” my ass.