Apos, the Okinawa rape is completely different - it was commited by a US service man! Gasp shock horror. Most Japanese (men and women) would be shocked if they were told that rape was 20 times more common in Japan than the US (I don’t know about putting a specific number to it, but I definitely believe rape is way more common in Japan than the US). Remember, it’s not just women who wouldn’t define date rape as ‘rape’ - most guys wouldn’t either.
My knowledge is based on slightly more than hentai p0rn (which, btw, is probably not a cause, but a result of, Japanese men being immature pedophiles). I’ve lived in Japan on and off for 20 years - half my life - spent five years at a public high school and national university, spent 15 years in corporate Japan, had a Japanese wife for 7 years, of course have many, many Japanese friends, and I read and write Japanese about as well as I do English.
The basic thing you hear is ‘well, I didn’t really feel like having sex, but he kept insisting, and he had paid for dinner, so…’. Interesting point, of course - if the girl doesn’t think it was rape, is it rape? Another issue - sex in Japan almost never comes with the ‘dirty/wrong/religiously bad’ baggage it comes with in the West. Since many Japanese women see nothing wrong in casual sex with their boyfriends and/or dates, and see no reason why they should feel ‘bad’ about it, part of me can see, to an extent, how the line could get blurred a bit.
Anyway, I personally don’t believe that this view of date rape has anything to do with a cultural bias towards not wanting to talk about the comfort women, or war-time atrocities, etc. When it comes to a process of apology, Japan has its cookie cutters prepared: let’s suppose a company is found to have engaged in some accounting irregularities. I can tell you - probably within the day - exactly what will happen.
Management will spend days one and two saying they did nothing wrong. On day three, they will launch an ‘extensive internal investigation to discover the full truth’. On days five or so they will ‘regrettably find some irregularities by some rouge employees’; the head of the department/company will insist that he’s staying on to ‘help rebuild consumer confidence in the company’. On day seven (usually about the time that it’s discovered that the incident was, in fact, part of a massive company-wide coverup) the company will announce various penalties - pay cuts, some managers demoted, etc - while the company issues a ‘sincere apology’ while ‘vowing to take steps to ensure that such acts never happen again’. The newspapers will howl that these amount to slaps on the wrist. A couple days later the company will announce even stricter penalties. Finally, the head of the company will be ‘demoted’ from President/CEO to ‘senior advisor’. And, for all intents and purposes, will end the scandal. Once the head has been replaced even though he remains in a position of power the company’s deemed to have ‘done enough’.
The problem with the comfort issue etc. is that Japan has no means for going through the above charade in full: it started out ok; denying everything, having their ‘internal investigations’, etc. But it’s not like they could convince some PM to ‘step aside’. So, from the government’s (and most citizens’) point of view, they’ve done everything they could. There isn’t anything more that should be expected of them.
Now, understand that I’m writing this (mostly) tongue-in-cheek: but I do believe that Japan can’t figure out what more they’re supposed to do.