# Jesus, Twickster! **URL:** \ **Category:** About This Message Board\ **Created:** [November 1, 2011, 2:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jesus-twickster/601447 "2011-11-01T02:20:00Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Quasimodem](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/e274bd/32.png) [@Quasimodem](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quasimodem)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2011, 2:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jesus-twickster/601447/1 "2011-11-01T02:20:00Z")
I forgot about your hostility, and you apparently forgot about the fact my enthusiasm gets me carried away sometimes. Your asinine reply to my pm “What about it?” And you wrote that back to me in a pm!!! Want me to show it??? This ought to carry with it some kind of censure, because you could have said in private what you said in public just now. You were just waiting to pounce, weren’t you? Give it up. You have no compassion and you have no soul. Just give it up and leave. I am sorry to be so strong in my words, but you were a bitch asking me that, and then taking the whole fucking thing public. Hang your head, because you should be goddamned ashamed of yourself. I’ve tried to be your friend, but you oppose any kind of “reach-out” people try for. Hang your head and just walk out of here, because you are totally useless to any of us. Bill Craig ---
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2011, 2:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jesus-twickster/601447/2 "2011-11-01T02:29:41Z")
Get a grip, **Quasi**. Your post was content-free. All it was was a plug for your blog, which is against the rules of just about any board. In any case, **twicks** made the correct call. You were wrong. ---
**Author:** ![Oakminster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/77aa72/32.png) [@Oakminster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Oakminster)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2011, 2:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jesus-twickster/601447/3 "2011-11-01T02:35:37Z")
**Quasi** –you know I’ve got your back most of the time, but I think you’re overreacting here. \*\*Twicks \*\* enforced a long standing board rule. You got a mod note, not a warning. I do not know what was said in private, but her public post was entirely appropriate under the circumstances. There was no personal animosity there. Maybe step away from the computer, go for a walk, and calm down a bit. ---
**Author:** ![Quasimodem](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/e274bd/32.png) [@Quasimodem](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quasimodem)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2011, 2:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jesus-twickster/601447/4 "2011-11-01T02:36:37Z")
Then perhaps she should have carried the goddam thing to the board instead of asking me in a pm, “What about it?” “What. About. It” How about YOU get a grip? I had no reason to expect that, and then a post in the open! It COULD have been handled in private , as she started it, I would have apologized and that would have been it. I’m VERY GOOD at apologizing, so how about YOU getting a fucking GRIP? ---
**Author:** ![GrandWino](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grandwino/32/67_2.png) [@GrandWino](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrandWino)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2011, 2:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jesus-twickster/601447/5 "2011-11-01T02:39:19Z")
What about it? ---
**Author:** ![Oakminster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/77aa72/32.png) [@Oakminster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Oakminster)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2011, 2:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jesus-twickster/601447/6 "2011-11-01T02:41:59Z")
**Quasi** –come on man. \*\* Silenus\*\* is not your enemy. Neither is **Twicks**. I know things have been tough for you lately, and maybe you need to vent…but this is not the way to do it. Just calm down. You don’t want to do this. Not here. This place is too important to you. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2011, 2:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jesus-twickster/601447/7 "2011-11-01T02:43:01Z")
How did she take it public if she said it in a private message? ---
**Author:** ![Acsenray](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/acsenray/32/4519_2.png) [@Acsenray](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Acsenray)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2011, 2:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jesus-twickster/601447/8 "2011-11-01T02:43:11Z")
> [@Bob Ducca](#): > > What about it? If I may slightly rephrase – What is all this about? ---
**Author:** ![cerberus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/71e660/32.png) [@cerberus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cerberus)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2011, 2:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jesus-twickster/601447/9 "2011-11-01T02:44:30Z")
At times, a moderator might use a personal, discreet pm to clarify an issue. As has been amply demonstrated, this can blow up. On the other hand, a public, instructive, “mod hat on”/ex cathedra post can address the issue in a public, transparent fashion. This approach too can blow up. Being a mod can be the sux0r. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2011, 2:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jesus-twickster/601447/10 "2011-11-01T02:48:32Z")
I have learned that if this message board is making me really angry, it’s time for a break. It has no right to make me feel that way, and I simply won’t let it. Take a break, Quasi. ---
**Author:** ![Quasimodem](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/e274bd/32.png) [@Quasimodem](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quasimodem)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2011, 2:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jesus-twickster/601447/11 "2011-11-01T02:50:06Z")
> [@Oakminster](#): > > **Quasi** –you know I’ve got your back most of the time, but I think you’re overreacting here. \*\*Twicks \*\* enforced a long standing board rule. You got a mod note, not a warning. I do not know what was said in private, but her public post was entirely appropriate under the circumstances. There was no personal animosity there. > > Maybe step away from the computer, go for a walk, and calm down a bit. I WROTE what was said in private! And again, if she’d taken the trouble and said it on the fucking board, she would have gotten a very quick apology, but she needed to taunt me, and this the result. Fuck it. I don’t need this shit from someone so fucking hostile. And you people just keep thinking because I have this dementia, you can just be condescending to me and not let me defend myself? And tell me to go take a walk? So that’s it? She gets away with a scathing comment (no matter how she dresses it up). I get no chance to apologize and I get relegated to taking a fucking WALK? No benefit of the doubt, right, **Oakminster**? Just “You were wrong, Quasi and go take a walk?” No. Not THIS time. ---
**Author:** ![Oakminster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/77aa72/32.png) [@Oakminster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Oakminster)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2011, 2:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jesus-twickster/601447/12 "2011-11-01T02:57:11Z")
**Quasi** , I’m telling you…there was no hostile intent in that PM. My best guess is that **Twicks** thought of her mod note as a routine, non-event. It’s the same sort of thing that happens all the time. No harm, no foul. There is nothing to get so upset over. She’s probably bewildered as to why you are so angry over a non-event. I sent you a PM. Please read it. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2011, 2:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jesus-twickster/601447/13 "2011-11-01T02:59:24Z")
> [@Acsenray](#): > > If I may slightly rephrase – What is all this about? This seems to be [the thread](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=629801) in question. ---
**Author:** ![choie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/choie/32/7829_2.png) [@choie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/choie)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2011, 3:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jesus-twickster/601447/14 "2011-11-01T03:07:17Z")
> [@](#): > > And you people just keep thinking because I have this dementia, you can just be condescending to me and not let me defend myself? To the contrary. They’re _not_ being condescending – they’re telling you exactly what anyone else would be told in this situation. Condescending would be “oh, give the poor dementia patient a pass, mean ol’ **Twickster** should bend and break the rules just for him!” You broke a rule. She gave you a note. I have no idea what you wrote in your PM to her, but her question ‘What about it?’ seems unbelievably neutral and _un_hostile to me. Your posts here are very hostile and belligerant and _way_ over the top for a simple reprimand that was received, not to mention your reactions to people trying to discuss the situation. In fact if the mods take you at your word–that you don’t want to be treated differently from anyone else–then you should batten down the hatches, because you may well be getting a suspension or banning soon. I hope that doesn’t happen, but most people who treat the mods and their fellow posters this way would indeed be dealt with fairly switfly. **twickster** was justified in her shutting the thread. In fact she was kind enough to let your link stand rather than deleting the thread completely. I think you’ll regret how you’re behaving right now. ---
**Author:** ![Jimmy\_Chitwood](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f475e1/32.png) [@Jimmy\_Chitwood](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jimmy_Chitwood)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2011, 3:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jesus-twickster/601447/15 "2011-11-01T03:10:34Z")
> [@Quasimodem](#): > > And you people just keep thinking because I have this dementia, you can just be condescending to me and not let me defend myself? > > And tell me to go take a walk? > > So that’s it? She gets away with a scathing comment (no matter how she dresses it up). I get no chance to apologize and I get relegated to taking a fucking WALK? > > No benefit of the doubt, right, **Oakminster**? Just “You were wrong, Quasi and go take a walk?” > > No. Not THIS time. Shoot, man, if dementia was the reason for every time somebody needed to hear the advice “take a breather,” we’d be a-having a lot of people with dementia around here, you know? When people stop giving you good advice just because they don’t want to upset you, that will be condescending. Right now all that’s happening is some people are worried you’re going to get yourself in trouble with the federales, same as anybody else. ---
**Author:** ![Johnny\_L.A](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnny_l.a/32/1084_2.png) [@Johnny\_L.A](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_L.A)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2011, 3:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jesus-twickster/601447/16 "2011-11-01T03:15:06Z")
I’m not at liberty to discuss certain things. Let me just ask for forbearance on **Quasi** ’s behalf. ---
**Author:** ![TubaDiva](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tubadiva/32/507_2.png) [@TubaDiva](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TubaDiva)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2011, 3:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jesus-twickster/601447/17 "2011-11-01T03:18:21Z")
Quasi, let me join in the chorus here. People are telling you straight – including Twix. It’s not hostile and it’s not personal. We all adore you but we do have rules for reasons, good reasons. It’s understood that you’re going through a particularly bad patch here and we’re all trying to cut you some slack. But you are mistaken here, really and truly. And I hope that you will come to see that and calm down. ---
**Author:** ![Marley23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Marley23](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Marley23)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2011, 3:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jesus-twickster/601447/18 "2011-11-01T03:29:58Z")
> [@Jimmy\_Chitwood](#): > > Shoot, man, if dementia was the reason for every time somebody needed to hear the advice “take a breather,” we’d be a-having a lot of people with dementia around here, you know? That’s an interesting theory that deserves further study. **Quasimodem** , I don’t know what was said between you and **twickster** , but I doubt she was trying to offend you or be rude to you. If she was, I don’t think there would be any doubt about it. 😉 The thread closure was fair. Please consider the possibility that this is just an honest misunderstanding. I’m sorry things have been so difficult for you lately and I hope better times are ahead for you and Dondra. We’re here as a distraction. ---
**Author:** ![grantham](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/9d8465/32.png) [@grantham](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/grantham)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2011, 5:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jesus-twickster/601447/19 "2011-11-01T05:36:51Z")
Münchausen by internet ---
**Author:** ![TubaDiva](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tubadiva/32/507_2.png) [@TubaDiva](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TubaDiva)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2011, 5:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jesus-twickster/601447/20 "2011-11-01T05:49:36Z")
grantham, don’t do that, please. I’m going to close this thread now – Quasi, come talk to us if you need.