# Jodie Foster kinda sorta comes out **URL:** \ **Category:** Cafe Society\ **Created:** [December 21, 2007, 6:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jodie-foster-kinda-sorta-comes-out/430852 "2007-12-21T18:54:36Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Justin\_Bailey](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/justin_bailey/32/8792_2.png) [@Justin\_Bailey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Justin_Bailey)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2007, 6:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jodie-foster-kinda-sorta-comes-out/430852/1 "2007-12-21T18:54:36Z")
Found this on IMDB: > [@](#): > > Rupert Everett has dismissed Jodie Foster’s “coming out” as insignificant - insisting she is too old for it to have an impact on Hollywood. Foster appeared to confirm rumors about her sexuality earlier this month when she thanked producer Cydney Bernard during her acceptance speech at an awards ceremony in Los Angeles. She said, “(Thank you to) my beautiful Cydney who sticks with me through all the rotten and the bliss.” But openly out star Everett insists Foster has done little to encourage secretly gay stars to be more open. He says, “She is 45 and just couldn’t be bothered anymore. After a certain age you can be gay in Hollywood. Before that, it’s not only not good, it’s impossible.” Does anyone else find it bizarre that Rupert Everett seems to enjoy talking about other entertainers who aren’t “gay enough” for him? ---
**Author:** ![Windwalker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/5e9695/32.png) [@Windwalker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Windwalker)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2007, 7:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jodie-foster-kinda-sorta-comes-out/430852/2 "2007-12-21T19:03:28Z")
Even though I’m sure it’s still hard, Hollywood seems to be about the most welcoming sort of environment you can come out in. I’ll be impressed when a major sports star on the level of Kobe Bryant or Alex Rodriguez comes out, BEFORE retirement. ---
**Author:** ![Little\_Nemo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/little_nemo/32/3120_2.png) [@Little\_Nemo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Little_Nemo)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2007, 7:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jodie-foster-kinda-sorta-comes-out/430852/3 "2007-12-21T19:07:16Z")
Standard celebrity behavior. Whatever story there is, they try to put themselves in the middle of it. Jodie Foster says something and Rupert Everett says something about it in an effort to get people talking about him rather than her. ---
**Author:** ![Bryan\_Ekers](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bryan_ekers/32/183_2.png) [@Bryan\_Ekers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bryan_Ekers)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2007, 7:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jodie-foster-kinda-sorta-comes-out/430852/4 "2007-12-21T19:11:02Z")
[QUOTE=Justin\_Bailey] Does anyone else find it bizarre that Rupert Everett seems to enjoy talking about other entertainers who aren’t “gay enough” for him? [/QUOTE] That’s now how it seems to me. Rather, he’s downplaying the significance of it, suggesting it’s not a particularly newsworthy event. I’m inclined to agree. That may change if Foster uncharacteristically starts becoming very vocally pro-gay but as long as she stays subtle about it, there’s nothing to see, here. ---
**Author:** ![Evil\_Captor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/f17d59/32.png) [@Evil\_Captor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Evil_Captor)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2007, 7:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jodie-foster-kinda-sorta-comes-out/430852/5 "2007-12-21T19:21:43Z")
I thought Foster was in a long-term relationship with a guy named Oscar. ---
**Author:** ![Bridget\_Burke](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7cd45c/32.png) [@Bridget\_Burke](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bridget_Burke)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2007, 7:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jodie-foster-kinda-sorta-comes-out/430852/6 "2007-12-21T19:26:36Z")
Most of the gossip sites just quote those three sentences from Rupert Everett–without context. “She is 45 and just couldn’t be bothered anymore. After a certain age you can be gay in Hollywood. Before that, it’s not only not good, it’s impossible.” Not exactly stinging criticism. And not exactly false, unfortunately. Even out here in the boonies, I doubt anybody is surprised. And she’s hardly milking it for publicity–her career is doing just fine. [One explanation](http://www.news.com.au/dailytelegraph/story/0,22049,22958298-5006007,00.html) for the disclosure: > [@](#): > > The two-time Oscar winner is said to have promised director Randy Stone, her long-time best friend and the rumoured test tube father of her two sons, that she would come out as he lay on his deathbed in February, London’s Daily Mail reported. > > Jodie who lives in relative obscurity with her partner Cydney Bernard and their two children, Charlie, 9, and Kit Bernard Foster, 6 decided the time had come to acknowledge Cydney, sources said, after she appeared at a gala for the Trevor Project, a charity founded by Stone for suicidal gay teenagers - for which Jodie had long been a secret six-figure donor. ---
**Author:** ![Wee\_Bairn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/90db22/32.png) [@Wee\_Bairn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wee_Bairn)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2007, 7:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jodie-foster-kinda-sorta-comes-out/430852/7 "2007-12-21T19:27:38Z")
I’d be turned off of men too if I was being pimped out by a guy named Sport at age 12… ---
**Author:** ![Bridget\_Burke](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7cd45c/32.png) [@Bridget\_Burke](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bridget_Burke)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2007, 7:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jodie-foster-kinda-sorta-comes-out/430852/8 "2007-12-21T19:28:47Z")
[QUOTE=Little Nemo] Standard celebrity behavior. Whatever story there is, they try to put themselves in the middle of it. Jodie Foster says something and Rupert Everett says something about it in an effort to get people talking about him rather than her. [/QUOTE] Probably some “journalist” shoved a mike in Rupert Everett’s face. Then edited his response to make an snarky comment. I doubt Everett issued a press release. ---
**Author:** ![Walloon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/fbc32d/32.png) [@Walloon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Walloon)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2007, 7:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jodie-foster-kinda-sorta-comes-out/430852/9 "2007-12-21T19:28:53Z")
From the IMDb: “Has been in a serious relationship with [Cydney Bernard](http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0076184/) since they met in 1993 on the set of the movie Sommersby.” ---
**Author:** ![Scumpup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ce73a5/32.png) [@Scumpup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scumpup)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2007, 7:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jodie-foster-kinda-sorta-comes-out/430852/10 "2007-12-21T19:31:13Z")
Does that mean I’m gay if I rub one out while thinking of Jodie Foster? ---
**Author:** ![Chefguy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chefguy/32/138_2.png) [@Chefguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chefguy)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2007, 7:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jodie-foster-kinda-sorta-comes-out/430852/11 "2007-12-21T19:33:07Z")
Jodie Foster gay? I am stunned - stunned, I tell you. :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![pravnik](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/8edcca/32.png) [@pravnik](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pravnik)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2007, 7:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jodie-foster-kinda-sorta-comes-out/430852/12 "2007-12-21T19:40:22Z")
I bet John Hinckley, Jr. is just mortified. It’s always embarassing when you start turning on the charm and buy someone a drink or make an assassination attempt, and then you find out and it’s all like “oh _gosh_, I’m sorry, I didn’t know! Boy, is my face red!” ---
**Author:** ![Duke\_of\_Rat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ad7895/32.png) [@Duke\_of\_Rat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Duke_of_Rat)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2007, 8:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jodie-foster-kinda-sorta-comes-out/430852/13 "2007-12-21T20:03:55Z")
[QUOTE=pravnik] I bet John Hinckley, Jr. is just mortified. It’s always embarassing when you start turning on the charm and buy someone a drink or make an assassination attempt, and then you find out and it’s all like “oh _gosh_, I’m sorry, I didn’t know! Boy, is my face red!” [/QUOTE] Chasing Jodie? ---
**Author:** ![Annie-Xmas](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecc23a/32.png) [@Annie-Xmas](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Annie-Xmas)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2007, 8:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jodie-foster-kinda-sorta-comes-out/430852/14 "2007-12-21T20:23:10Z")
Not Jodie Foster For that would cost her Her movie stardom for good. Before I lose my mind You’ve got to help me find Who’s Gay In Hollywood? ---
**Author:** ![Malodorous](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e47774/32.png) [@Malodorous](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malodorous)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2007, 8:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jodie-foster-kinda-sorta-comes-out/430852/15 "2007-12-21T20:28:36Z")
Saying someone is beautiful and thanking them for sticking with you is coming out now? I need to watch what I say, apparently. ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2007, 8:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jodie-foster-kinda-sorta-comes-out/430852/16 "2007-12-21T20:35:13Z")
Everett has a point. Itr’s not particularly significant. It wasn’t much of a secret and Foster has been kind of a chickenshit about it for most of her career. It’s low risk for her to come out now that she’s becoming kind of a has been. ---
**Author:** ![Bryan\_Ekers](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bryan_ekers/32/183_2.png) [@Bryan\_Ekers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bryan_Ekers)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2007, 10:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jodie-foster-kinda-sorta-comes-out/430852/17 "2007-12-21T22:54:00Z")
Now, if Foster had thanked Bernard for giving her “the big one, the last 14 years”, _that_ would be newsworthy. ---
**Author:** ![Malodorous](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e47774/32.png) [@Malodorous](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malodorous)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2007, 11:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jodie-foster-kinda-sorta-comes-out/430852/18 "2007-12-21T23:15:45Z")
[QUOTE=Diogenes the Cynic] It’s low risk for her to come out now that she’s becoming kind of a has been. [/QUOTE] According to Wikipedia, she has six movies coming out (heh) in the next two years. Granted no one has tried to kill a president over her lately, but she seems to be making more films lately then in previous years, so hardly a has-been. Not sure that there’s much risk now-a-days for actors to come out even at the height of their careers though, unless its someone like George Clooney or Brad Pitt who relies on his appeal as a sex symbol to draw woman to the theater. ---
**Author:** ![Poysyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f4b2a3/32.png) [@Poysyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Poysyn)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2007, 11:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jodie-foster-kinda-sorta-comes-out/430852/19 "2007-12-21T23:29:53Z")
I always just thought it wasn’t somthing she needed to announce - it was just known? ---
**Author:** ![Equipoise](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/equipoise/32/151_2.png) [@Equipoise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Equipoise)\ **Post date:** [December 22, 2007, 9:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jodie-foster-kinda-sorta-comes-out/430852/20 "2007-12-22T09:01:49Z")
[QUOTE=Poysyn] I always just thought it wasn’t somthing she needed to announce - it was just known? [/QUOTE] She didn’t “announce” it. She thanked a dear person in her life the way thousands of other people have thanked people in their life while accepting an award or honor. It’s the press and bloggers and message board people who are making it into an “announcement” by Jodie Foster. And fucking hell, Jodie Foster has never been and never will be, a “has been.” There aren’t enough eye-roll smileys in the universe. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/jodie-foster-kinda-sorta-comes-out/430852.md?page=2)