# Just a little lighthearted venting...

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-a-little-lighthearted-venting/648789>\
**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\
**Created:** [January 30, 2013, 6:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-a-little-lighthearted-venting/648789 "2013-01-30T06:30:01Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 3\
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**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\
**Post date:** [February 8, 2013, 6:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-a-little-lighthearted-venting/648789/21 "2013-02-08T18:49:33Z")

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> [@Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](#):
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> Not sure why you can’t just say “no thanks, I got it” and forgot about the douchebag.

Why can’t Jamie just let something go? Ha! What message board have you been on for the last 12 months?

No, no, I’m messing with you, J. We cool.

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**Author:** ![Nzinga\_Seated](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/b5ac83/32.png) [@Nzinga\_Seated](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nzinga_Seated)\
**Post date:** [February 8, 2013, 7:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-a-little-lighthearted-venting/648789/22 "2013-02-08T19:02:50Z")

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> [@Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](#):
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> Not sure why you can’t just say “no thanks, I got it” and forgot about the douchebag.

Because sometimes, being condescended to can just finally piss you off.

[QUOTE=Ambivalid]  
I didn’t finish this thought; see, if I were to ask this guy something like this, I would bet he would hem and haw about how he was really just asking me if I needed a hand with my bags. See, people like this don’t really want to help me, they just want to make themselves feel as though they’ve done something “laudable”, but at the same time, something which doesn’t inconvenience them too much. But those things which don’t inconvenience them are things which I don’t need their assistance with; it’s the things like going to the back of the store and lugging the big-ass package of water that would be helpful.  
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I remember one time, when I was a kid walking home from school, I saw a little old lady walking and struggling with grocery bags. I offered her a hand with her bags, thinking I can rack up some quick and easy good Samaritan points. Turns out, she was going about a 35 minute walk in the wrong direction for me. Felt like the longest walk ever, and she never gave me any indication that she recognized this as a big favor in any way. She simply offered a simple polite ‘thanks, honey.’ and went on in the house. Ha.

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**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\
**Post date:** [February 8, 2013, 7:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-a-little-lighthearted-venting/648789/23 "2013-02-08T19:05:12Z")

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> [@Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](#):
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> Not sure why you can’t just say “no thanks, I got it” and forgot about the douchebag.

It’s the cumulative effect here. I don’t expect you to understand.

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