# Just another person losing it...

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-another-person-losing-it/559243>\
**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\
**Created:** [November 2, 2010, 7:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-another-person-losing-it/559243 "2010-11-02T19:08:00Z")\
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**Author:** ![sandra\_nz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/eada6e/32.png) [@sandra\_nz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sandra_nz)\
**Post date:** [November 4, 2010, 3:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-another-person-losing-it/559243/41 "2010-11-04T15:04:56Z")

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Yeah, I understand that. 🙂 It’s a journey you go on, you can’t simply decide one day that you’re going to stop. But try and check yourself each time you’re feeling down about stuff going on in your life - ask youself, ‘By who’s values and opinions am I judging myself? My own or someone else’s?’

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**Author:** ![xanthous](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/x/53a042/32.png) [@xanthous](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/xanthous)\
**Post date:** [November 4, 2010, 3:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-another-person-losing-it/559243/42 "2010-11-04T15:29:49Z")

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> [@Hello\_Again](#):
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> Oh, I hear that, I really do. I used to have to screen my calls because my father liked to call me to tell me that I was ruining my life and would “come crawling home.” (Tip to parents: not an effective persuasive technique).
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> Who are you living your life for? You, or them? So, you will do what you have to do, and maybe they will act horribly. There is nothing you can do to pacify people who want to act horribly – really there isn’t. If they want to treat you cruelly, it’s not a reflection on you, it just displays their utter lack of character.
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> So the next time they start in on you for being a sad, pathetic failure who would have a husband and a Yukon right now if only she hadn’t ruined her life with art school – just say to yourself "How sad they are. What small people they must be inside, to feel the need to break me down like this. Luckily, I am an adult. I do not have to justify myself to them. "
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> When you can scrape together the money for maybe 4-5 sessions of therapy – seriously do it. Probably the best money I ever spent in my life.

I have the number still of one of the best people I’ve ever encountered- a therapist I used to see. Sometimes I think if I spent my last few hundred on that guy, it might be better than paying those last few bills before I hit zero. But right now I’m avoiding it. If I can just get a job and stay in the black (is that the right term?) then maybe I’ll spend my rainy day money on him!

I had a heart-to-heart w/ my roommate (aka landlord)- she’s going to let me pay half rent this month and no rent next month. I didn’t ask, she offered. Why is it so hard to ask? I can’t ever make those words come out of my mouth. This is good, though.

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