# Just because you can't say no, doesn't mean I have too!! **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [August 18, 2008, 5:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-because-you-cant-say-no-doesnt-mean-i-have-too/460450 "2008-08-18T17:53:03Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![BrknButterfly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/439d5e/32.png) [@BrknButterfly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BrknButterfly)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2008, 11:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-because-you-cant-say-no-doesnt-mean-i-have-too/460450/41 "2008-08-18T23:02:24Z")
[QUOTE=Santo Rugger] We know it’s a woman already, cut out this “they” crap. 😕 [/QUOTE] Haha. Okay. Okay. Her. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2008, 11:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-because-you-cant-say-no-doesnt-mean-i-have-too/460450/42 "2008-08-18T23:31:12Z")
I’ve teased coworkers before (dammit, why does Shirley keep baking these cookies-they’re so addicting!), but mostly we’re just laughing about it when we say it. To go into someone’s drawer and fucking STAPLING them? Da’hell? ---
**Author:** ![Kalhoun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3bc359/32.png) [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2008, 11:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-because-you-cant-say-no-doesnt-mean-i-have-too/460450/43 "2008-08-18T23:41:48Z")
Could she have been trying (and failing) to be funny? Because amongst the right people, that could actually have been rather amusing. It could be she meant to be over-the-top funny and just missed the mark. If you’re getting along with her otherwise, maybe this was just her way of bonding? I find it hard to believe someone would actually DO that in any serious way. Anyway, feel free to hide your chocolate over here in my cube in suburban Chicago. I’ll take care of it for you. I promise. ---
**Author:** ![cerberus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/71e660/32.png) [@cerberus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cerberus)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2008, 11:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-because-you-cant-say-no-doesnt-mean-i-have-too/460450/44 "2008-08-18T23:41:53Z")
So what you need to do now is wall off her cube, then fill it with candy. On a smaller scale, fill her drawers up with candy. On a more serious side, lock your stuff down - all of it. That or tape off your space when you’re out. Some of my colleagues have “cages” instead of cubicles - they’re like cubicles, but have a lockable sliding door. ---
**Author:** ![Fish](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/bc8723/32.png) [@Fish](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fish)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2008, 11:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-because-you-cant-say-no-doesnt-mean-i-have-too/460450/45 "2008-08-18T23:43:37Z")
One of the vendors we use will sometimes bring in treats: box of donut, bag of chocolates, or sometimes a vegetable tray. A co-worker actually insisted he stop bringing in donut for _anybody_ because she couldn’t stop herself from having some. ---
**Author:** ![An\_Gadai](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/d6d6ee/32.png) [@An\_Gadai](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/An_Gadai)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2008, 11:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-because-you-cant-say-no-doesnt-mean-i-have-too/460450/46 "2008-08-18T23:49:44Z")
I propose that we start a SD chocolate/candy drive and all send BrknButterfly some sweets for their desk. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Otto](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Otto](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Otto)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2008, 12:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-because-you-cant-say-no-doesnt-mean-i-have-too/460450/47 "2008-08-19T00:02:47Z")
[QUOTE=Cat Fight] Unless someone’s got a food allergy, that’s freaking rude. [/QUOTE] Even if the cow-orker is allergic to chocolate, she has no business doing what she did. To paraphrase a classic Doper quote, there is no such thing as second-hand chocolate. ---
**Author:** ![BrknButterfly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/439d5e/32.png) [@BrknButterfly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BrknButterfly)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2008, 12:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-because-you-cant-say-no-doesnt-mean-i-have-too/460450/48 "2008-08-19T00:07:58Z")
[QUOTE=An Gadaí] I propose that we start a SD chocolate/candy drive and all send BrknButterfly some sweets for their desk. 🙂 [/QUOTE] I like this idea! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![An\_Gadai](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/d6d6ee/32.png) [@An\_Gadai](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/An_Gadai)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2008, 12:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-because-you-cant-say-no-doesnt-mean-i-have-too/460450/49 "2008-08-19T00:11:05Z")
Well pm your addy and i’ll send some Irish chocolates if you want. ---
**Author:** ![BrknButterfly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/439d5e/32.png) [@BrknButterfly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BrknButterfly)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2008, 12:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-because-you-cant-say-no-doesnt-mean-i-have-too/460450/50 "2008-08-19T00:14:15Z")
[QUOTE=Kalhoun] Could she have been trying (and failing) to be funny? [/QUOTE] It’s possible, but when she saw how peeved I was she blamed the fact that the customer or members could see it. I was like, “I have had M&Ms in that same spot for two weeks. For the last three days it has been Chocolate Nonpareils (or larger snow caps). No one has ever had an issue.” Even my boss has seen it and hasn’t said anything.. and girl that tried to make a joke of it, if that was what she was trying to do.. has been helping her self for the last 3 weeks. She has an issue now? I honestly think she wanted them gone because she kept eating them because she has said time and time again, “don’t let me near these.” or “keep these away from me.” So when I saw that and she saw that I was pissed about it, I think she blamed it on the members. Either way. Im over it unless she makes an issue about it. The boss is back tomorrow so.. and either way.. I am getting a big ass box of those Nonpareils before going in and sitting them right on my desk. I like’em. ---
**Author:** ![BrknButterfly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/439d5e/32.png) [@BrknButterfly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BrknButterfly)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2008, 12:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-because-you-cant-say-no-doesnt-mean-i-have-too/460450/51 "2008-08-19T00:15:17Z")
[QUOTE=An Gadaí] Well pm your addy and i’ll send some Irish chocolates if you want. [/QUOTE] I love you. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![MidnightRadio](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ecd19e/32.png) [@MidnightRadio](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MidnightRadio)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2008, 12:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-because-you-cant-say-no-doesnt-mean-i-have-too/460450/52 "2008-08-19T00:53:37Z")
[QUOTE=Monty] You mean like one of [these](http://www.target.com/CandleTini-10-oz-Scented-Candle-Chocolate/dp/B000BR3TR8)? [/QUOTE] [Even better!](http://www.demeterfragrance.com/Product.aspx?ProductID=835) ---
**Author:** ![BaneSidhe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/c5a1d2/32.png) [@BaneSidhe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BaneSidhe)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2008, 2:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-because-you-cant-say-no-doesnt-mean-i-have-too/460450/53 "2008-08-19T02:20:08Z")
We had someone pull that shit @ my office. There’s a group of about 10 of us who take turns bringing in donuts on Fridays. Overly Health Concious Asshole Supervisor pitched a fit, claiming it “disrupted office productivity” when we all knew it was BS. The ban on donuts only lasted 4 months, and was started back up by another supervisor who said “You don’t like it? Get over it. It’s not like the donuts are in your office.” ---
**Author:** ![MsRobyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/90ced4/32.png) [@MsRobyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MsRobyn)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2008, 2:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-because-you-cant-say-no-doesnt-mean-i-have-too/460450/54 "2008-08-19T02:34:11Z")
I had to deal with that during Lent one year. Some twerp complained to the boss that I wasn’t being respectful because I was eating sweets in the office. The boss asked me to be a little more mindful of the people around me. I just looked at him and asked if the others in the office were going to be asked to refrain from eating leavened foods during Passover because I couldn’t eat bread then. He didn’t have an answer for that, but I never heard about it again. Self-denial involves self-discipline. It’s not my place to force you to observe your own self-imposed dietary restrictions, be they religious or otherwise. Tell your co-worker to shit in their hat. Robin ---
**Author:** ![Frank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Frank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frank)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2008, 2:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-because-you-cant-say-no-doesnt-mean-i-have-too/460450/55 "2008-08-19T02:35:37Z")
[QUOTE=BrknButterfly] In the past I often use to bring in breakfast for everyone. Most people liked it, but because a couple couldn’t say no I was asked not to bring them in for everyone anymore. [/QUOTE] Now this is bullshit. I (at my last job in Denver) made a breakfast burrito run about twice a month or so. The people that didn’t want one said so, and saved me $1.79 next time. ---
**Author:** ![LurkMeister](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/3da27b/32.png) [@LurkMeister](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LurkMeister)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2008, 3:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-because-you-cant-say-no-doesnt-mean-i-have-too/460450/56 "2008-08-19T03:01:04Z")
I occasionally had the opposite problem. Every so often someone would bring in some sort of treat and leave it by the manager’s office for everyone to help themselves. Invariably someone would make a point of stopping by my cubicle to make sure that I knew it was there, since she hadn’t seen me take anything. I would thank her (it was almost always one of the women) and explain, for the umpteenth time, that I was trying to lose weight and didn’t want any donuts, or cookies, or whatever. ---
**Author:** ![pbbth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f9ae1b/32.png) [@pbbth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pbbth)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2008, 3:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-because-you-cant-say-no-doesnt-mean-i-have-too/460450/57 "2008-08-19T03:09:22Z")
> [@](#): > > Originally Posted by **An Gadaí** > > Well pm your addy and i’ll send some Irish chocolates if you want. Um, I ALSO have a problem with a coworker complaining of my delicious chocolate. _puppy dog eyes_ ---
**Author:** ![danceswithcats](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/9e8a1a/32.png) [@danceswithcats](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/danceswithcats)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2008, 3:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-because-you-cant-say-no-doesnt-mean-i-have-too/460450/58 "2008-08-19T03:47:06Z")
[QUOTE=MsRobyn] Tell your co-worker to shit in their hat. [/QUOTE] But they’re a member of a religion which strictly prohibits hat shitting, except on the highest holy days. ---
**Author:** ![Odesio](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/odesio/32/20003_2.png) [@Odesio](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Odesio)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2008, 5:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-because-you-cant-say-no-doesnt-mean-i-have-too/460450/59 "2008-08-19T05:00:12Z")
I must have nice coworkers. If there’s a treat somewhere they just say “Hey, there’s some treats over there if you want some” and leave me to my own devices. Marc ---
**Author:** ![Clothahump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/51bf81/32.png) [@Clothahump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Clothahump)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2008, 5:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-because-you-cant-say-no-doesnt-mean-i-have-too/460450/60 "2008-08-19T05:16:47Z")
[QUOTE=Monty] You mean like one of [these](http://www.target.com/CandleTini-10-oz-Scented-Candle-Chocolate/dp/B000BR3TR8)? [/QUOTE] I’d rather spend the 20 clams on chocolate. 😃 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-because-you-cant-say-no-doesnt-mean-i-have-too/460450.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-because-you-cant-say-no-doesnt-mean-i-have-too/460450.md?page=4)