# Just got dumped - what do you do to cheer youself up? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [March 14, 2005, 6:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-got-dumped-what-do-you-do-to-cheer-youself-up/294429 "2005-03-14T06:34:03Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 9\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![wasson](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/4da419/32.png) [@wasson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wasson)\ **Post date:** [March 14, 2005, 8:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-got-dumped-what-do-you-do-to-cheer-youself-up/294429/21 "2005-03-14T20:36:41Z")
My girlfriend and I broke up about 8 months after she moved in with me. She moved away and promptly got into another serious relationship. I kept myself cheery by hanging out with my friends whom she hated and by making messes and painting rooms in my house colors I knew she’d hate. Also, it helped thinking about what an awful person she was, lingering on all the bad times we had and completely ignoring the good. A healthy amount of beer and buffalo wings also help mend the wounds. Try to enjoy being single. It’s a sad but true fact that more people will be interested in you if you’re not looking for anyone. ---
**Author:** ![Dan\_Turk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/439d5e/32.png) [@Dan\_Turk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dan_Turk)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2005, 8:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-got-dumped-what-do-you-do-to-cheer-youself-up/294429/22 "2005-03-25T08:00:53Z")
Villainize her. God, it feels so good. Make an effigy of her, just to burn it. Tell yourself all the horrible things she did… when you start to long for her, your appropriate response is “remember that time she did X? forget that bitch” Dogpile on Turk for using the word bitch in 5… 4… 3… 2… ---
**Author:** ![devilsknew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/4da419/32.png) [@devilsknew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/devilsknew)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2005, 8:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-got-dumped-what-do-you-do-to-cheer-youself-up/294429/23 "2005-03-25T08:25:23Z")
Listen to Sparklehorse’s _Apple Bed_ on a continuous loop… fall into the double helical, downward spiral and mine its singularity–pass into its black bile and purify yourself. Get it out of your system and be generous to yourself. Hold onto what is useful, but forgive. ---
**Author:** ![Enginerd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/bcef8e/32.png) [@Enginerd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Enginerd)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2005, 8:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-got-dumped-what-do-you-do-to-cheer-youself-up/294429/24 "2005-03-25T08:45:56Z")
I once quit my job, sold my house, and lived in my truck/friends houses/South American hostels for six months. It wasn’t necessarily _all_ a response to getting dumped, but I wouldn’t have done it if she’d stayed with me. Thanks Kathleen, if you ever read this - I wouldn’t trade that time for anything in the world. ---
**Author:** ![Sage\_Rat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sage_rat/32/399_2.png) [@Sage\_Rat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sage_Rat)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2005, 11:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-got-dumped-what-do-you-do-to-cheer-youself-up/294429/25 "2005-03-25T11:32:42Z")
Wait a year. ---
**Author:** ![scr4](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/59ef9b/32.png) [@scr4](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scr4)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2005, 3:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-got-dumped-what-do-you-do-to-cheer-youself-up/294429/26 "2005-03-25T15:03:20Z")
> [@Enginerd](#): > > I once quit my job, sold my house, and lived in my truck/friends houses/South American hostels for six months. …Thanks Kathleen :dubious: Kind of a shock to see my ex-GF’s name there, though it’s hardly an uncommon name… (Is she by any chance from a mid-western state and gone to an Ivy League college and a grad school in UK?) And sorry to hear what happened, **Vagus**. I know how you feel. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2005, 3:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-got-dumped-what-do-you-do-to-cheer-youself-up/294429/27 "2005-03-25T15:07:54Z")
> [@Harimad-sol](#): > > music the ex hates Not just music but anything (s)he hated…anything you put a kibosh on while you were together. Essentially reminding yourself of the good side of being single. ---
**Author:** ![Ethilrist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ethilrist/32/4604_2.png) [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2005, 3:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-got-dumped-what-do-you-do-to-cheer-youself-up/294429/28 "2005-03-25T15:13:24Z")
Xander Harris: I just wanna lie down and listen to country music: the music of pain. ---
**Author:** ![B.Serum](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/b.serum/32/14266_2.png) [@B.Serum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/B.Serum)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2005, 3:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-got-dumped-what-do-you-do-to-cheer-youself-up/294429/29 "2005-03-25T15:36:47Z")
The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-got-dumped-what-do-you-do-to-cheer-youself-up/294429.md?page=1)