# Just in case you meet the person of your dreams... **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 14, 2005, 4:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-in-case-you-meet-the-person-of-your-dreams/335539 "2005-12-14T04:40:54Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Strinka](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/strinka/32/512_2.png) [@Strinka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Strinka)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2005, 1:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-in-case-you-meet-the-person-of-your-dreams/335539/21 "2005-12-15T01:35:05Z")
So, it that why I’ve never had a girlfriend? Hmm… ---
**Author:** ![Angel\_of\_the\_Lord](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/angel_of_the_lord/32/2949_2.png) [@Angel\_of\_the\_Lord](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Angel_of_the_Lord)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2005, 5:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-in-case-you-meet-the-person-of-your-dreams/335539/22 "2005-12-15T05:23:21Z")
When I met my husband, I was wearing a pair of old jeans (though they weren’t all that ratty), a pair of _definitely_ ratty sandals, and a lacy fashion top. The lacy top would’ve been dressed up. . .except for the fact that I’d managed to put it on backwards without noticing. I figure with that kind of start, I had nowhere to go but up. ---
**Author:** ![devilsknew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/4da419/32.png) [@devilsknew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/devilsknew)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2005, 7:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-in-case-you-meet-the-person-of-your-dreams/335539/23 "2005-12-15T07:15:54Z")
Really **Harimad** , what you should cultivate is a style that you are comfortable and personal with. That’s your true attraction- comfortable and confident. Beauty like this is irresistable. Not to imply from my earlier post that I am not sometimes attracted to a women that are “dressed up”, my tastes are just more naturalistic. I remember the vision that changed my world. She was dressed up to her persona, a simple black bohemian sheath dress, just some lipstick and understated eyeshadow. So simple and natural, it reflected her inner beauty. Ravishing. I’ll never forget. ---
**Author:** ![Edward\_The\_Head](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ce73a5/32.png) [@Edward\_The\_Head](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Edward_The_Head)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2005, 1:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-in-case-you-meet-the-person-of-your-dreams/335539/24 "2005-12-15T13:06:09Z")
Hell I meet Iris in a pool. I was wearing a pair of Speedos and a swim cap. Though she did smile at me when we first walked in I didn’t talk to her until we were swimming. You can’t get any more undressed then Speedos. ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2005, 1:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-in-case-you-meet-the-person-of-your-dreams/335539/25 "2005-12-15T13:39:17Z")
When I met my girlfreind I was wearing 1/2 of a circa 1990s SNL Hans & Franz costume consisting of an old grey sweatshirt stuffed with my ice hockey shoulderpads. So go figure. ---
**Author:** ![ShibbOleth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/848f3c/32.png) [@ShibbOleth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ShibbOleth)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2005, 1:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-in-case-you-meet-the-person-of-your-dreams/335539/26 "2005-12-15T13:44:09Z")
> [@Harimad-sol](#): > > My stance is that it’s better to look my version of my best, than to doll myself up in a way that I won’t keep up. I’m old enough now that I generally just ignore their pronouncements, but I have been wondering if there isn’t really something to what they’re saying. > > How do the Dopers feel about this, and as a bonus, if you’d like, were you grubby, reasonably presentable, or incredibly well-dressed when you met your SO? I’ve gotta go with “truth in advertising”. You gotta be you. My wife noticed me when we were in class together because there was a hole in my pants leg. She thought, “How terrible, poor guy can’t even afford new pants.” In reality, I’d just bought them and immediately ripped them on a desk corner. I was too stubborn to throw away an otherwise perfectly good pair of pants. And too lazy to fix them. ---
**Author:** ![Wallenstein](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/b5a626/32.png) [@Wallenstein](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wallenstein)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2005, 1:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-in-case-you-meet-the-person-of-your-dreams/335539/27 "2005-12-15T13:46:30Z")
First time I saw my fiancee she was in a dressing gown and slippers - worked for me! ---
**Author:** ![Kalhoun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3bc359/32.png) [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2005, 2:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-in-case-you-meet-the-person-of-your-dreams/335539/28 "2005-12-15T14:00:41Z")
I always wear makeup and always do my hair before I go out anywhere. I think the whole key is to dress appropriately for the occasion. My clothes aren’t “dressy” but I don’t wear painting clothes when I go to a club or restaurant. I see people at the restaurant on Sunday morning that look like they threw on sweats and hit the door straight from their blankets. No way will I do that. But I’m also not going to wear a formal to the pancake house. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-in-case-you-meet-the-person-of-your-dreams/335539.md?page=1)