# Just read an e-mail from my mother

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-read-an-e-mail-from-my-mother/586031>\
**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\
**Created:** [June 19, 2011, 2:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-read-an-e-mail-from-my-mother/586031 "2011-06-19T14:40:23Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 4\
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**Author:** ![Pixiesnix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/898d66/32.png) [@Pixiesnix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pixiesnix)\
**Post date:** [June 21, 2011, 5:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-read-an-e-mail-from-my-mother/586031/21 "2011-06-21T05:41:07Z")

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> [@elbows](#):
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> Sorry you’re not open to the very advice you seemed to be asking for,

But I didn’t ask for advice. I was showing **etv78** that he or she wasn’t alone. And you seem to be stuck on the idea of not being able to “feel” anything, when I already said that “express” was the correct term. I am working on getting past it, but I’m not there yet. I’m in therapy but this thing doesn’t magically go away overnight. I’m still angry about it and I have the right to be. Again, I wasn’t asking for advice, I was just sharing my own experience with **etv78**.

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> Good luck pushing on that rope.

Thanks, Mom.

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**Author:** ![Pixiesnix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/898d66/32.png) [@Pixiesnix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pixiesnix)\
**Post date:** [June 21, 2011, 6:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-read-an-e-mail-from-my-mother/586031/22 "2011-06-21T06:26:22Z")

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> [@Hello\_Again](#):
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> You don’t deserve less, but you’re not going to get this thing you want from your mother. Think about it, accept it, move on. My father, seriously loves me but doesn’t really care _specifically_ about me except how it reflects on him. He’s had a lot of trauma in his life, and I work on feeling compassion for that. It just is what it is, and it’s not important to me anymore to get something he cannot give. Yay! Therapy!

I’m in therapy now, working on dealing with this problem (and many others relating to her and my older brother). I hope to get there someday, but it still hurts quite a bit. She was abused by her mother, and I am compassionate about it and understand how that is at the root of her behavior towards me. I love her very much and it’s hard for the emotional part of me to understand. But I hope to get there, it will just take a while.

Bowing out of the thread now.

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**Author:** ![etv78](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/d78d45/32.png) [@etv78](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/etv78)\
**Post date:** [June 21, 2011, 6:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-read-an-e-mail-from-my-mother/586031/23 "2011-06-21T06:45:59Z")

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**Pixiesnix** -I’m a he. 😃

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**Author:** ![Pixiesnix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/898d66/32.png) [@Pixiesnix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pixiesnix)\
**Post date:** [June 21, 2011, 6:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-read-an-e-mail-from-my-mother/586031/24 "2011-06-21T06:50:04Z")

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Sorry, sir.

Okay, going _now_…

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