# Just So's We're Clear.... **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [February 8, 2006, 5:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-sos-were-clear/343509 "2006-02-08T05:21:01Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/left_hand_of_dorkness/32/7156_2.png) [@Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Left_Hand_of_Dorkness)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2006, 3:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-sos-were-clear/343509/41 "2006-02-08T15:56:19Z")
> [@UncleBeer](#): > > What I wanna know is when did “therapizing” become a word? That’s glory for you. I shoulda used quotes around it when I repeated it, but you wouldn’t believe what they’re charging for them these days. **Scumpup** seems to have mistaken me for someone who gives a fuck about his spastic colon. I know I never did anything to give him that impression, but he’s sure to spaz on me some more. Shrug. Daniel ---
**Author:** ![Maeglin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8baadc/32.png) [@Maeglin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maeglin)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2006, 3:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-sos-were-clear/343509/42 "2006-02-08T15:57:10Z")
> [@DrLoveGun](#): > > I will say this slowly for you > > Then. Don’t. Open. Them. > > Amazing isn’t it. You can still smell a turd on the sidewalk even if you don’t step in it. ---
**Author:** ![Dangerosa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/22d042/32.png) [@Dangerosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dangerosa)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2006, 3:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-sos-were-clear/343509/43 "2006-02-08T15:58:12Z")
> [@Maus Magill](#): > > What is so difficult about not bringing your real-life shit into the Pit? > > Do you see **Aries28** pitting **Sauron** for spreading his darkness throughout Middle-earth and allowing Gollum to track dirt onto the carpet? > > No! > > Do you see **Dangerosa** pitting **Brainiac4** for shrinking cities and leaving them all over the family room? > > No! > > Why? Because they know that they’re not supposed to bring their real life shit into the Pit! My dope life has changed since Brainiac4 became an active poster. I don’t say too much in TMI threads, I don’t pit his relations to vent. Its kind of a shame actually, because my real life friends know his relations, so I can’t vent there either, and my family takes it wrong. There are things we both could say about is thankfully-ex-sister in law… ---
**Author:** ![Ferret\_Herder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/e47774/32.png) [@Ferret\_Herder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ferret_Herder)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2006, 4:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-sos-were-clear/343509/44 "2006-02-08T16:01:03Z")
> [@DrLoveGun](#): > > I will say this slowly for you > > Then. Don’t. Open. Them. Dude, off-board complaints/gripes/etc. between two board members aren’t allowed to be dragged onto this board, whether they’re married or strangers or whatever. It just adds an extra level of ick when it’s a married couple. > [@Stonebow](#): > > Hey, you forgot the part where she also felt it necessary to tell us about a past sexual relationship with another Doper. A real gem, this broad is, I tell ya. I can’t find that particular trainwreck anywhere, mind posting a link? Her husband apparently thinks that being called out also for depleting their savings account twice, losing multiple jobs, etc. is [“somewhat humorous”](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=357801), after all, so another link can’t hurt. ---
**Author:** ![TVeblen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/4bbf92/32.png) [@TVeblen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TVeblen)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2006, 4:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-sos-were-clear/343509/45 "2006-02-08T16:05:34Z")
> [@DrLoveGun](#): > > I will say this slowly for you > > Then. Don’t. Open. Them. Wrong. The onus doesn’t rest on other posters to avoid your marital spats. Responsibility lies with you two to hash out your problems between yourselves. Get LJs and communicate that way if you want. E-mail each other. Pass notes across the room. Just don’t use the SDMB to settle your spats. **Don’t. Post. Them.** This isn’t negotiable, **DLG** and **Inkleberry**. If you can’t or won’t comply, we’ll have no choice but to examine your posting privileges. ---
**Author:** ![Greathouse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/greathouse/32/2992_2.png) [@Greathouse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Greathouse)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2006, 4:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-sos-were-clear/343509/46 "2006-02-08T16:11:14Z")
> [@DrLoveGun](#): > > I will say this slowly for you > > Then. Don’t. Open. Them. > > Amazing isn’t it. So it doesn’t bother you that your wife paints you as some sort of useless puddle of cock snot in a public forum? Sounds healthy to me. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2006, 4:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-sos-were-clear/343509/47 "2006-02-08T16:14:51Z")
Guys, I like both of you, but this just makes the rest of us feel awkward. It’s one thing to post a humorous little “Oh, that spouse of mine!” type posts in MPSIMS. But here in the Pit, it’s almost like we’re witnessing a marital spat between the two of you at a party, and even if we don’t open it, it’s very embarassing. ---
**Author:** ![Caricci](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/85f322/32.png) [@Caricci](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Caricci)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2006, 4:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-sos-were-clear/343509/48 "2006-02-08T16:18:49Z")
> [@Greathouse](#): > > So it doesn’t bother you that your wife paints you as some sort of useless puddle of cock snot in a public forum? Sounds healthy to me. Seriously, man! Shit like _inkleberry_ posted yesterday, I would be ashamed to say to my best friend, much less a bunch of strangers. And if I did and my husband found out, I wouldn’t be shocked if he had a very hard time forgiving me. ---
**Author:** ![UncleBeer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/977dab/32.png) [@UncleBeer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UncleBeer)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2006, 4:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-sos-were-clear/343509/49 "2006-02-08T16:25:25Z")
May I make a suggestion for the two of you? [Divorce](http://www.johnydmorningcrew.com/). Mebbe you wanna try this lovely Valentine’s Day contest being sponsored by Toledo, OH radio station: > [@](#): > > Valentine’s Day Divorce > Need a divorce and can’t afford one? Want the Crew to foot the bill? E-Mail Jeremy and tell us your story and we might divorce you on Valetine’s Day. ---
**Author:** ![DrLoveGun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecb155/32.png) [@DrLoveGun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrLoveGun)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2006, 4:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-sos-were-clear/343509/50 "2006-02-08T16:26:37Z")
> [@Maeglin](#): > > You can still smell a turd on the sidewalk even if you don’t step in it. Dr. Phil? Is it you? He too is a useless mammal. And this isn’t a marital spat. Its a moldy towel that she got pissed about. We wouldn’t invite you over for a marital spat, don’t flatter yourselves. To respond to all of the above. Have a changed jobs 3 times in the past 1.5 years? Yeppers. And now I am a stay at home dad. Always changed for the better. Did I spend more money than I made? Yep…no denying that one. Life is expensive, so I/we dipped into our savings. Been there done that. Did I screw up in other ways? Of course, but I learn from them. See I’m human, I make mistakes, but I learns. My self esteem, for those of you who pointed that out, is actually pretty good. I’m comfortable enough with myself to poke fun at my own short comings. Most of my stage act, when I was writing it, was self depricating. A very healthy sign. If you can’t laugh at yourself, you can’t laugh at the rest of life. So laugh people, laugh. And thanks for bringing **Inkleberry** and I closer together. You’re too funny. A thousand page views, makes us smile. ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2006, 4:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-sos-were-clear/343509/51 "2006-02-08T16:30:45Z")
Well, All I know is if \*_inkleberry_ wants to involve me in her agruements with her husband; I think it’s only fair that I be included in the “Make up” sex as well. ---
**Author:** ![treis](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/bc79bd/32.png) [@treis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/treis)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2006, 4:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-sos-were-clear/343509/52 "2006-02-08T16:32:19Z")
> [@DrLoveGun](#): > > So laugh people, laugh. And thanks for bringing **Inkleberry** and I closer together. You’re too funny. A thousand page views, makes us smile. So you do thrive on this kind of attention. That is pretty pathetic. ---
**Author:** ![Caricci](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/85f322/32.png) [@Caricci](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Caricci)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2006, 4:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-sos-were-clear/343509/53 "2006-02-08T16:36:27Z")
> [@DrLoveGun](#): > > A thousand page views, makes us smile. Ew. ---
**Author:** ![Greathouse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/greathouse/32/2992_2.png) [@Greathouse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Greathouse)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2006, 4:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-sos-were-clear/343509/54 "2006-02-08T16:36:31Z")
> [@DrLoveGun](#): > > Dr. Phil? Is it you? He too is a useless mammal. > > And this isn’t a marital spat. Its a moldy towel that she got pissed about. We wouldn’t invite you over for a marital spat, don’t flatter yourselves. > > To respond to all of the above. Have a changed jobs 3 times in the past 1.5 years? Yeppers. And now I am a stay at home dad. Always changed for the better. > > Did I spend more money than I made? Yep…no denying that one. Life is expensive, so I/we dipped into our savings. Been there done that. > > Did I screw up in other ways? Of course, but I learn from them. See I’m human, I make mistakes, but I learns. > > My self esteem, for those of you who pointed that out, is actually pretty good. I’m comfortable enough with myself to poke fun at my own short comings. Most of my stage act, when I was writing it, was self depricating. A very healthy sign. If you can’t laugh at yourself, you can’t laugh at the rest of life. > > So laugh people, laugh. And thanks for bringing **Inkleberry** and I closer together. You’re too funny. A thousand page views, makes us smile. Whatever helps you get to sleep at night. If nothing else you could smile because the mods squashed her ability to tell us all what a fuck up are ever again. I can’t recall though…did they say she couldn’t talk about other dopers that have been insider of her before you? I could see that causing problems, but most likely not…since you are a fuck up, afterall. ---
**Author:** ![jlzania](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/67e7ee/32.png) [@jlzania](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jlzania)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2006, 4:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-sos-were-clear/343509/55 "2006-02-08T16:41:23Z")
> [@DrLoveGun](#): > > And this isn’t a marital spat. Its a moldy towel that she got pissed about. We wouldn’t invite you over for a marital spat, don’t flatter yourselves… > So laugh people, laugh. And thanks for bringing **Inkleberry** and I closer together. You’re too funny. A thousand page views, makes us smile. If she’d had just being complaining about a towel-it might have been mildly humorous but she used it as an excuse to catalogue a laundry list of your failures. I get annoyed by my SO leaving his socks in the living room but I don’t use that as an excuse to bring up everything I think he’s done wrong for the past five years. It’s fairly obvious, I think, that you and **Inkleberry** have a very different concept of what should remain private in a relationship than many of the other posters here. I respect my husband and his flaws and foibles are not for public consumption or entertainment for a group of people I don’t really know. I think that’s what bothers me about your posts-I sense a real lack of mutual respect but, of course, that’s just speculation on my part. ---
**Author:** ![DrLoveGun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecb155/32.png) [@DrLoveGun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrLoveGun)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2006, 4:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-sos-were-clear/343509/56 "2006-02-08T16:48:49Z")
> [@Greathouse](#): > > Whatever helps you get to sleep at night. > > If nothing else you could smile because the mods squashed her ability to tell us all what a fuck up are ever again. I can’t recall though…did they say she couldn’t talk about other dopers that have been insider of her before you? I could see that causing problems, but most likely not…since you are a fuck up, afterall. Are you seriously suggesting I, or anyone for that matter, would be so insecure as to get upset about my wife referring to an ex-boyfriend? Yeah, she dated him for quite a while. They broke up 4 or 5 years ago. Should I lock her up and refuse to let her speak to her exes, or of them for that matter? I guess that means we probably shouldn’t be hanging out with him either. What kind of insecure fucktard gets upset at the mere mention of an exboyfriend? If that’s the sort of thing that causes problems in your relationships, I would strongly urge you to grow the fuck up. ---
**Author:** ![eleanorigby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee7513/32.png) [@eleanorigby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eleanorigby)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2006, 4:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-sos-were-clear/343509/57 "2006-02-08T16:49:13Z")
With that last post of **Dr Love Gun’s** , I think we have dropped down into the social chasm that is attention whoredom. Then again, there is nothing like a common enemy to unite fractious er, factions. So glad to be a marital aide. Do we get to counsel the children as well? ---
**Author:** ![Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/left_hand_of_dorkness/32/7156_2.png) [@Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Left_Hand_of_Dorkness)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2006, 4:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-sos-were-clear/343509/58 "2006-02-08T16:53:22Z")
> [@eleanorigby](#): > > With that last post of **Dr Love Gun’s** , I think we have dropped down into the social chasm that is attention whoredom. yep–I think it’s time we throw in the towel. Daniel ---
**Author:** ![Mtgman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b5a626/32.png) [@Mtgman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mtgman)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2006, 4:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-sos-were-clear/343509/59 "2006-02-08T16:55:13Z")
Here’s how I’ve always understood the rule of board usage for grievances between posters who know each other IRL. “If it started here, it can stay here. If it didn’t, get your own damn bandwidth.” Any mods still reading think this is a fair rendition? Enjoy, Steven ---
**Author:** ![jlzania](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/67e7ee/32.png) [@jlzania](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jlzania)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2006, 5:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-sos-were-clear/343509/60 "2006-02-08T17:05:31Z")
I’ve finally managed to put my finger in what really bothers me about both yours, and \*\* Inkleberry’s\*\* posts about your arguments. It’s the feeling that your forcing us to be voyeurs. It’s almost as if you need an audience to get your marital rocks off. Which is all good and well if said audience is a voluntary participant but we’re not. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-sos-were-clear/343509.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/just-sos-were-clear/343509.md?page=4)