# keeping a girlfriend when asked tough questions **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [July 3, 2009, 1:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/keeping-a-girlfriend-when-asked-tough-questions/501774 "2009-07-03T01:59:33Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![sailor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a587f6/32.png) [@sailor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sailor)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2009, 3:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/keeping-a-girlfriend-when-asked-tough-questions/501774/21 "2009-07-03T03:41:20Z")
> [@JohnClay](#): > > What if I got on the show and someone asked me if they’re prettier than my girlfriend? Should I agree or say something else? The correct answer is “I need to see and feel your tits before I can answer that question”. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Fight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/90ced4/32.png) [@Cat\_Fight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Fight)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2009, 4:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/keeping-a-girlfriend-when-asked-tough-questions/501774/22 "2009-07-03T04:04:42Z")
Having a girlfriend may not disqualify you from being a contestant, but it will likely lessen your chances. The show isn’t the worst of the worst (especially since that bar keeps getting lowered), but rest assured – if you get on, there is an extremely good chance that you will come off looking like an ass, be ‘encouraged’ to say some things you wouldn’t otherwise, and see clips of yourself saying and doing things that have been taken completely out of context. And if you love your girlfriend, which doesn’t really seem to be the case (yeah, not everyone marries the hottest person in the world, but you come across as passionate as lukewarm soup), there is a great chance your relationship will not last through taping or, at the very least, the show’s airing. ---
**Author:** ![Kayeby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9de0a6/32.png) [@Kayeby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kayeby)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2009, 5:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/keeping-a-girlfriend-when-asked-tough-questions/501774/23 "2009-07-03T05:20:27Z")
I haven’t seen the show, but is it likely that one of the Beauties will ask if they’re prettier than your girlfriend? It strikes me as a pretty immature question to ask - the sort of thing you might hear a catty high school girl say. I can’t imagine that it would even come up. But in the unlikely event that you made the show and also unlikely event that some woman was idiotic enough to ask a question that made her seem really desperate and insecure (umm, you’re a gorgeous model and he’s a geek who didn’t start dating until 29 … what do _you_ think?) just say something like “well my girlfriend isn’t a model or anything, but she’s beautiful to me. She has a really great smile, etc”. ---
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2009, 5:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/keeping-a-girlfriend-when-asked-tough-questions/501774/24 "2009-07-03T05:25:02Z")
> [@Cat\_Fight](#): > > …you come across as passionate as lukewarm soup… That’s how I feel but despite that she showers me with compliments and affection fairly often. ---
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2009, 5:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/keeping-a-girlfriend-when-asked-tough-questions/501774/25 "2009-07-03T05:28:11Z")
> [@Kayeby](#): > > …just say something like “well my girlfriend isn’t a model or anything, but she’s beautiful to me. She has a really great smile, etc”. Thanks for the advice though I’d have to redefine what I mean by beautiful for her to fit it. She’s pretty beautiful though. Yesterday we were talking about her teeth… she said people say that her teeth are tiny and look like kid’s teeth. I agreed. If her mouth is closed she has a great smile though. ---
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2009, 5:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/keeping-a-girlfriend-when-asked-tough-questions/501774/26 "2009-07-03T05:28:17Z")
> [@Kayeby](#): > > I haven’t seen the show, but is it likely that one of the Beauties will ask if they’re prettier than your girlfriend? It strikes me as a pretty immature question to ask - the sort of thing you might hear a catty high school girl say. I can’t imagine that it would even come up. > > But in the unlikely event that you made the show and also unlikely event that some woman was idiotic enough to ask a question that made her seem really desperate and insecure (umm, you’re a gorgeous model and he’s a geek who didn’t start dating until 29 .. what do _you_ think?) just say something like “well my girlfriend isn’t a model or anything, but she’s beautiful to me. She has a really great smile, etc”. I have seen the show. It would come up. The girls are quite lovely, but tact and intelligence is not something they look for in contestants. ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2009, 5:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/keeping-a-girlfriend-when-asked-tough-questions/501774/27 "2009-07-03T05:49:50Z")
> [@JohnClay](#): > > Thanks for the advice though I’d have to redefine what I mean by beautiful for her to fit it. She’s pretty beautiful though. Yesterday we were talking about her teeth… she said people say that her teeth are tiny and look like kid’s teeth. I agreed. If her mouth is closed she has a great smile though. “if her mouth is closed” she has a great smile… while having the kind of teeth poets used to write about? I’m not your girlfriend, but please do her a favor and dump her so she can find someone who doesn’t look at her like I look at my seat’s cushions. ---
**Author:** ![sandra\_nz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/eada6e/32.png) [@sandra\_nz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sandra_nz)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2009, 5:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/keeping-a-girlfriend-when-asked-tough-questions/501774/28 "2009-07-03T05:52:51Z")
Why do you want to go on the show? ---
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2009, 6:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/keeping-a-girlfriend-when-asked-tough-questions/501774/29 "2009-07-03T06:03:59Z")
> [@sandra\_nz](#): > > Why do you want to go on the show? On the application form I might write something like “Personal growth, 15 minutes of fame, some extra cash” (they pay you an allowance for being on the show and I’ve never had a proper job - I get a pension though for my mental illness - though I’m doing a full-time university course) ---
**Author:** ![Argent\_Towers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e8c25b/32.png) [@Argent\_Towers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Argent_Towers)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2009, 6:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/keeping-a-girlfriend-when-asked-tough-questions/501774/30 "2009-07-03T06:07:41Z")
> [@magellan01](#): > > Good luck. You’ll need it. You’re a rookie zooming straight to the big game in the majors. Big game? Majors? He’s a rookie zooming straight towards the sun, in a spaceship made of straw. ---
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2009, 6:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/keeping-a-girlfriend-when-asked-tough-questions/501774/31 "2009-07-03T06:08:07Z")
> [@Nava](#): > > I’m not your girlfriend, but please do her a favor and dump her so she can find someone who doesn’t look at her like I look at my seat’s cushions. Well yesterday she was asking if I just wanted to be friends and also she was wondering if I believed in marriage… I said I’d thought about marriage… and kids. BTW since I’m anonymous here (for the time being) I might also mention that since I’ve had my mental illness (schizo-affective disorder) I get no physical pleasure out of sex. And it could be from my brain rather than the medication… apparently about 85% of men and women with that illness have the same problem. I enjoy sex though… Argent Towers: LOL ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2009, 6:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/keeping-a-girlfriend-when-asked-tough-questions/501774/32 "2009-07-03T06:14:33Z")
> [@Nava](#): > > “if her mouth is closed” she has a great smile… while having the kind of teeth poets used to write about? > > I’m not your girlfriend, but please do her a favor and dump her so she can find someone who doesn’t look at her like I look at my seat’s cushions. I’m less curious about why he wants to go on the show and more curious about why he wants to keep the girlfriend. Is she a fall black plan in case he doesn’t manage to make it with a gorgeous supermodel type? ---
**Author:** ![Argent\_Towers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e8c25b/32.png) [@Argent\_Towers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Argent_Towers)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2009, 6:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/keeping-a-girlfriend-when-asked-tough-questions/501774/33 "2009-07-03T06:15:49Z")
Look, my friend, it seems as though you have some fairly serious issues in life. I don’t think going on this TV show is a viable solution to these problems. I don’t mean any disrespect. What are you trying to get out of this, anyway? Assuming that you are telling the truth and not someone looking to get a rise out of us, I doubt you are going to be selected for that show if you are currently being treated for schizoaffective disorder. ---
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2009, 6:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/keeping-a-girlfriend-when-asked-tough-questions/501774/34 "2009-07-03T06:16:40Z")
Freudian Slit: Bingo. BTW, she sometimes says she wants to be a size 10 (rather than a size 16) and she says she’ll try when I start going to the gym (I signed up for a year for $900 but haven’t been for months). Today I did 5 pushups in a row though. (which is a lot for me at the moment) ---
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2009, 6:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/keeping-a-girlfriend-when-asked-tough-questions/501774/35 "2009-07-03T06:18:51Z")
Argent Towers: I haven’t had an episode for about 2.5 years. And for the show I’ll call it “bipolar disorder” (which my case manager says is accurate enough). I want to audition at least. > [@](#): > > I don’t think going on this TV show is a viable solution to these problems It might make things worse but I like a little drama. It would be a good experience I think - well something I can get enthusiastic about at least. ---
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2009, 10:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/keeping-a-girlfriend-when-asked-tough-questions/501774/36 "2009-07-03T10:28:46Z")
My girlfriend sent me the following message (with the names removed) “i do not like the fact u r going on the show because u have a girl friend i have to tell u how i feel” I got teary and replied: “Ok i wont audition. I dont want 2 upset u” But I didn’t say I wouldn’t visit the auditions… bwahahaha! I’ll just refuse to audition and use my girlfriend as the excuse. ---
**Author:** ![sandra\_nz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/eada6e/32.png) [@sandra\_nz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sandra_nz)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2009, 11:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/keeping-a-girlfriend-when-asked-tough-questions/501774/37 "2009-07-03T11:49:27Z")
Wow, you sound like a classy guy. Your girlfriend is so lucky to have you. ---
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2009, 12:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/keeping-a-girlfriend-when-asked-tough-questions/501774/38 "2009-07-03T12:13:47Z")
finally someone is on my side… 😉 ---
**Author:** ![CrazyCatLady](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/dfb087/32.png) [@CrazyCatLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CrazyCatLady)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2009, 12:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/keeping-a-girlfriend-when-asked-tough-questions/501774/39 "2009-07-03T12:49:35Z")
You don’t want to _upset_ her? Puh-leeeeze. What color is the sky on your planet that you honestly thought wanting to go date other girls on national tv and thereby humiliate her in front of everyone she knows wasn’t going to upset her? This situation smells remarkably like an attempt to drive the Drama Llama out of its cozy little stable. ---
**Author:** ![ColdPhoenix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/6bbea6/32.png) [@ColdPhoenix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ColdPhoenix)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2009, 1:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/keeping-a-girlfriend-when-asked-tough-questions/501774/40 "2009-07-03T13:13:39Z")
You want to be a “geek” on Beauty and the Geek? This was my favourite episode: [http://www.tvgrapevine.com/smf/index.php?topic=9971.0;wap2](http://www.tvgrapevine.com/smf/index.php?topic=9971.0;wap2) [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/keeping-a-girlfriend-when-asked-tough-questions/501774.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/keeping-a-girlfriend-when-asked-tough-questions/501774.md?page=3)