The ban disturbs me, and I had to think for a long time to figure out why. I finally figured its an emotional thing…
I remember fondly my mother packing my lunch (I’m sure my mother remembers it less fondly, she had to get up darn early to pack it). A brown paperbag, with my name outside in Mom’s handwriting and, when I was little, a little stick person, or a puppy dog, drawn for me by mom. The contents were always a sandwich, a piece of fruit, and some cookies and often the sandwich was peanut butter (with strawberry jam, homemade by my Grandma). (My mother was also partial to bologna with a Kraft single). There is something disturbing about not being able to continue this tradition with my kids (they could have the bologna, but peanut butter is such a kid staple, it just isn’t the same). The cookies were usually chocolate chip (homemade by mom), but for variety, peanut butter cookies or something else would appear (also homemade by mom).
Not that my nostalgia justifies someone else’s six year old needing a visit to the emergency room. And I think that this ban is appropriate in elementary schools, and maybe even middle schools, where kids often share food and kids with allergies may not completely understand the risks and can’t be expected to take responsibility.
However, by high school you need to start taking responsibility for yourself. You can be expected to know why you can’t trade cookies. In those cases, it seems to me, that peanut free zones of the lunchroom are better than an outright ban, and they only need to be used for the severely allergic (and my understanding is that emergency room trips from smelling peanuts or touching trace amounts of peanut oil are pretty rare).
And of course, by college, you should know better than to order the Pad Thai.
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This also makes me think about how our schools (at least mine) were very set up for normal (white) kids. My son is Korean, and their is a significant chance (+80%) that he will be lactose intolerant by age 9. A shame, because he loves cheese and milk - I’m hoping he doesn’t, or if he is, it is controllable enough via Lactaid and lactose free and reduced products. Only Northern Europeans and their decendents are not lactose intolerant as a majority state after early childhood, but our cafeterias when I was growing up were set to provide one beverage, milk (make that two, mine served chocolate milk as well).