# Kindergarten Sex **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [November 24, 2002, 4:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kindergarten-sex/138498 "2002-11-24T16:44:53Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Eidolon909](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ce7236/32.png) [@Eidolon909](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eidolon909)\ **Post date:** [November 24, 2002, 4:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kindergarten-sex/138498/1 "2002-11-24T16:44:53Z")
> [@](#): > > Harrisburg School District and county authorities are investigating allegations that a 5-year-old kindergarten girl performed oral sex on a male classmate in school last week. [http://www.pennlive.com/news/patriotnews/index.ssf?/xml/story.ssf/html\_standard.xsl?/base/news/1038047453286540.xml](http://www.pennlive.com/news/patriotnews/index.ssf?/xml/story.ssf/html_standard.xsl?/base/news/1038047453286540.xml) So where exactly does a 5 year old learn to do that? Sick. Either the boy or the girl has been seriously abused. ---
**Author:** ![Anahita](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a9a28c/32.png) [@Anahita](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anahita)\ **Post date:** [November 24, 2002, 4:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kindergarten-sex/138498/2 "2002-11-24T16:53:58Z")
Yikes. I can’t believe they are not calling the teacher in for questioning, even if she is on leave. Sounds fishy to me, personally. ---
**Author:** ![jujuju](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/7993a0/32.png) [@jujuju](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jujuju)\ **Post date:** [November 24, 2002, 4:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kindergarten-sex/138498/3 "2002-11-24T16:57:32Z")
some little boy asked me in pre-school to put his thingy in my mouth. i must have been four. it was nap time. i said “ewww, you’ll pee in my mouth”, he insisted he wouldn’t, and that his big brother said it would feel good. i have no idea how old his big brother was. i wouldn’t do it at the time. i really thought he was gonna pee. ---
**Author:** ![robertliguori](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/46a35a/32.png) [@robertliguori](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/robertliguori)\ **Post date:** [November 24, 2002, 5:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kindergarten-sex/138498/4 "2002-11-24T17:16:22Z")
Hmm. Calling any doctors/child psycologists: Aren’t all the nerves hooked up, even at that age? Couldn’t the kid just have discovered that sexual stimulation feels good? ---
**Author:** ![Duck\_Duck\_Goose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/50afbb/32.png) [@Duck\_Duck\_Goose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Duck_Duck_Goose)\ **Post date:** [November 24, 2002, 5:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kindergarten-sex/138498/5 "2002-11-24T17:32:19Z")
Erm, well, I don’t wanna say “it’s not that big a deal”, but…to say that the girl must have been “seriously abused” in order to know about something like that? Not necessarily. The 6-year-old boy down the street once persuaded my 4-year-old daughter to “put his pee-pee in her mouth”, as reported by the two shocked 9-year-old neighbor girls who saw it and escorted my daughter home, but I wouldn’t characterize the boy as “seriously sexually abused”, just that he had a dad who routinely left hard-core magazines around the house, so he thought he’d try it out on the nearest gullible preschooler. And she’s growing up perfectly normally, AFAIK. This was the same boy who a few years later brought the magazines out to show the other kids, which is how I know where he got the idea. Kids experiment, and I think it’s a mistake for parents to get all hysterical, and especially to start assuming “sexual abuse”, and to start calling in the heavy-duty child psychologists and therapists. At the time I judged that it would have done much more damage to The Cat to have carried on in a big hullabaloo, because she really didn’t understand what she had done, so I just told her, “We don’t put people’s pee-pees in our mouths”, and left it at that. ---
**Author:** ![andros](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e480ec/32.png) [@andros](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/andros)\ **Post date:** [November 24, 2002, 5:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kindergarten-sex/138498/6 "2002-11-24T17:37:41Z")
Dammit, **Ducky** , cut that reasonableness shit out, willya? Our knees are jerking here! ---
**Author:** ![singular1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ba9def/32.png) [@singular1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/singular1)\ **Post date:** [November 24, 2002, 5:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kindergarten-sex/138498/7 "2002-11-24T17:43:22Z")
Betcha her boyfriend’s pissed at you, **DDG**. ---
**Author:** ![Enderw24](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ba9def/32.png) [@Enderw24](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Enderw24)\ **Post date:** [November 24, 2002, 5:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kindergarten-sex/138498/8 "2002-11-24T17:44:45Z")
And here I thought Arnold Schwarzenegger was making a sequel. ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [November 24, 2002, 6:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kindergarten-sex/138498/9 "2002-11-24T18:14:25Z")
> [@](#): > > I just told her, “We don’t put people’s pee-pees in our mouths”, and left it at that. :eek: Yes we do!! ---
**Author:** ![Ringo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/779978/32.png) [@Ringo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ringo)\ **Post date:** [November 24, 2002, 6:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kindergarten-sex/138498/10 "2002-11-24T18:44:16Z")
Go **Duck** s! ---
**Author:** ![Silentgoldfish](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e36b37/32.png) [@Silentgoldfish](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Silentgoldfish)\ **Post date:** [November 24, 2002, 6:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kindergarten-sex/138498/11 "2002-11-24T18:49:06Z")
My sister’s best friend had her boyfriend demand oral sex and the ripe old age of 15. She kicked him in the nuts and broke up with him on the spot. I felt strangly proud of her. ---
**Author:** ![Geobabe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/geobabe/32/3908_2.png) [@Geobabe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Geobabe)\ **Post date:** [November 24, 2002, 6:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kindergarten-sex/138498/12 "2002-11-24T18:59:08Z")
I played “Doctor” with a boy in my neighborhood, including oral sex (though of course I didn’t know it was called that at the time, I just knew it felt good when he did it to me). I wasn’t sexually abused. Kids that age are simply becoming aware of the existence of sexual organs, both their own and others and want to explore. Now, doing it in the school is a bit much, but I don’t think that the act necessarily means there is anything wrong at home, except possibly that the parents haven’t been providing enough guidance about appropriate behavior in public places. Yes, it is possible one or the other has been abused, but I wouldn’t assume it without more information. ---
**Author:** ![Xavier](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/x/2bfe46/32.png) [@Xavier](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Xavier)\ **Post date:** [November 24, 2002, 7:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kindergarten-sex/138498/13 "2002-11-24T19:04:23Z")
> [@](#): > > And here I thought Arnold Schwarzenegger was making a sequel. No, you’re thinking of [Arnold Schwarzenegger]: “Skraw-ny Boy… Get That Doo-Dah Ow-da ha moud” [/Arnold Schwarzenegger]. It hit four Polly-Pecker awards smack in the mouth. ---
**Author:** ![dantheman](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dantheman/32/9421_2.png) [@dantheman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dantheman)\ **Post date:** [November 24, 2002, 9:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kindergarten-sex/138498/14 "2002-11-24T21:33:50Z")
[Arnold] You mean you suck other people’s pee-pees? SHTOP IT! [/arnold] ---
**Author:** ![kimera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/f0a364/32.png) [@kimera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kimera)\ **Post date:** [November 24, 2002, 9:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kindergarten-sex/138498/15 "2002-11-24T21:52:52Z")
It is perfectly normal for kids to experiment sexually with other kids. Those of us who have had a lot of experience with children will at one point or another have to tell them to stop masturbating or doing such other activities in a public place. My one brother from the time he was about 5 to about 7 used to hump the couch. Whenever my mother saw him she would yell at him to stop it, but he learned to just do it when he wasn’t around. I seriously doubt either of those kids were abused. Many of my friend’s (in fact, almost all) had a “special childhood” friend they played around with. Also, having a special childhood friend of the same sex as you does not mean the child will grow up to be “gay”. ---
**Author:** ![Mycroft\_Holmes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a5b964/32.png) [@Mycroft\_Holmes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mycroft_Holmes)\ **Post date:** [November 24, 2002, 10:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kindergarten-sex/138498/16 "2002-11-24T22:17:10Z")
[Arnold] It’s naht a boh-nah! [/arnold] ---
**Author:** ![butter\_pie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/aca169/32.png) [@butter\_pie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/butter_pie)\ **Post date:** [November 25, 2002, 2:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kindergarten-sex/138498/17 "2002-11-25T02:29:13Z")
Hello, how are you? I want to ask you a few questions, and I want them answered immediately… … who is your daddy, and what does he do? ---
**Author:** ![apotheosis](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ba8739/32.png) [@apotheosis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/apotheosis)\ **Post date:** [November 25, 2002, 2:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kindergarten-sex/138498/18 "2002-11-25T02:52:20Z")
I’ll second what **Geobabe** said, experience-wise. I can dimly recall “playing doctor” at the age of five or six-ish with a neighborhood girl of the same age, and I wasn’t abused and had no exposure (heh) to porn or ‘instruction’ of any kind at the time. That included a fumbling, unsuccessful attempt at intercourse – neither of us knew what we were doing, but there was a vague (instinctive?) knowledge that “this is supposed to go there, I think…” (Why do I feel so damned creepy even _remembering_, much less admitting, this stuff now?) ---
**Author:** ![j\_kat\_251](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/71c47a/32.png) [@j\_kat\_251](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/j_kat_251)\ **Post date:** [November 25, 2002, 6:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kindergarten-sex/138498/19 "2002-11-25T06:02:12Z")
> [@](#): > > My sister’s best friend had her boyfriend demand oral sex and the ripe old age of 15. She kicked him in the nuts …I felt strangly proud of her. Yes, clearly justified. WTF? I would have smacked the bitch out. ---
**Author:** ![threemae](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/5f9b8f/32.png) [@threemae](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/threemae)\ **Post date:** [November 25, 2002, 6:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kindergarten-sex/138498/20 "2002-11-25T06:17:23Z")
Jesus, how about a little bit of fucking de-escalation here! Violence is not the answer for sexual realtionships! J-Kat, responding will do you nothing good, except maybe an assualt charge. SilentGoldfish: Kicking someone in the testicles for demanding oral sex? That seems a but harsh, but I guess it depends on how he “demanded”. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kindergarten-sex/138498.md?page=2)