# Kinks. What are yours? What's too much? (TMI, duh!) **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 23, 2006, 5:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinks-what-are-yours-whats-too-much-tmi-duh/361890 "2006-06-23T17:25:10Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Dunderman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecb155/32.png) [@Dunderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dunderman)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2006, 8:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinks-what-are-yours-whats-too-much-tmi-duh/361890/21 "2006-06-24T20:28:11Z")
Some rough stuff, which I apparently share with most of the people here. I go at it from both sides, but if I have to pick then I pick being dominant. Bondage, role-playing, whatever. Snowballing, “cumshots” and other semen games. I guess those two are the big ones, but as long as everyone involved is giving meaningful consent, I’ll try anything once. Well, almost. ---
**Author:** ![Lilairen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8491ac/32.png) [@Lilairen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lilairen)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2006, 10:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinks-what-are-yours-whats-too-much-tmi-duh/361890/22 "2006-06-24T22:46:54Z")
I’m amused to be referenced, even obliquely. 😉 Anyway – I’m a switchy sub and enjoy restraints. (This was too much for the nice Methodist boy. It scared him.) I have an ex who was into approximately _everything_ – he said he had more kinks than a garden hose and a fetish fetish – and there’s a limit to how much of everything I’m willing to put up with without getting, y’know, bored. (And maybe a bit feeling like my role in the relationship could be adequately supplied by a blow-up doll.) (I mean, a little rapturous toe-sucking is okay, I guess, though I’m not interested in it, but when there’s more rapturous toe-sucking and so forth in my sex life than actual sex … it wound up being really damn weird. I mean, setting aside all the really weird stuff.) ---
**Author:** ![Hostile\_Dialect](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e495f1/32.png) [@Hostile\_Dialect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hostile_Dialect)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2006, 1:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinks-what-are-yours-whats-too-much-tmi-duh/361890/23 "2006-06-25T01:37:58Z")
**Anastasaeon** , I was threatened with cat-ear sex once–a mutual friend (the bite-my-nipple girl) of myself and my first sexual (well, first intercourse) partner always threatened to give above mentioned first sexual partner cat ears (or were they bunny ears?) to wear to bed with me if I pissed her off. I played along like it was a horrible fate, and to be honest I’m not at all excited about the idea, but it wouldn’t be that bad. I don’t even see it as trying something out, because I don’t think it’s really its own kink…just something that you leave on your head during sex. What does “switch” mean? Bisexual? Willing to play both dominant and submissive? ---
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2006, 1:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinks-what-are-yours-whats-too-much-tmi-duh/361890/24 "2006-06-25T01:46:06Z")
> [@fetus](#): > > What does “switch” mean? Bisexual? Willing to play both dominant and submissive? The latter, though you might be familiar with the term “switch hitter” as a synonym for bisexual (which I am, but it has nothing to do with the power thing, of course). I have had difficulty finding someone to accomodate me, though. People want to top, they want to bottom, or they want no part of power play at all. Sigh. There are some signs that this will change soon in my particular life, though. I like rough sex and role-playing as well, and I have a kink about being asked to do things (the power thing again). It approaches fetish status at times. I also am very into teasing someone to what some may view as extreme lengths. ---
**Author:** ![Ludy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/d6d6ee/32.png) [@Ludy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ludy)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2006, 1:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinks-what-are-yours-whats-too-much-tmi-duh/361890/25 "2006-06-25T01:53:13Z")
Well the standard stuff porn toys bondage food (ice is my favorite) blindfolds and above all else Location Location Location 😃😃😃 15 more days until I see my boyfriend and start to work my way down the list ---
**Author:** ![Dunderman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecb155/32.png) [@Dunderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dunderman)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2006, 2:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinks-what-are-yours-whats-too-much-tmi-duh/361890/26 "2006-06-25T02:18:58Z")
> [@Telperien](#): > > I have had difficulty finding someone to accomodate me, though. People want to top, they want to bottom, or they want no part of power play at all. So… you doin’ in any particular way, or anything? ---
**Author:** ![betenoir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/258eb7/32.png) [@betenoir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/betenoir)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2006, 2:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinks-what-are-yours-whats-too-much-tmi-duh/361890/27 "2006-06-25T02:38:41Z")
> [@fetus](#): > > What does “switch” mean? Bisexual? Willing to play both dominant and submissive? For the record what I meant was the latter. I’m a submissive and I’m staying that way thankyouverymuch. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2006, 2:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinks-what-are-yours-whats-too-much-tmi-duh/361890/28 "2006-06-25T02:40:28Z")
> [@Priceguy](#): > > So… you doin’ in any particular way, or anything? Good, but not as good as I could be…what about yourself? Hmm…::looks back at **Priceguy’s** post::…snowballing, eh? ---
**Author:** ![Dunderman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecb155/32.png) [@Dunderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dunderman)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2006, 3:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinks-what-are-yours-whats-too-much-tmi-duh/361890/29 "2006-06-25T03:07:01Z")
> [@Telperien](#): > > Good, but not as good as I could be…what about yourself? Pretty much the same. > [@](#): > > Hmm…::looks back at **Priceguy’s** post::…snowballing, eh? Oooh yes. ---
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2006, 3:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinks-what-are-yours-whats-too-much-tmi-duh/361890/30 "2006-06-25T03:22:50Z")
> [@Telperien](#): > > Hmm…::looks back at Priceguy’s post::…snowballing, eh? > [@Priceguy](#): > > Oooh yes. I never seem to meet anyone who would do that either. Maybe I need to move again. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Dunderman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecb155/32.png) [@Dunderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dunderman)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2006, 3:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinks-what-are-yours-whats-too-much-tmi-duh/361890/31 "2006-06-25T03:33:26Z")
> [@Telperien](#): > > Maybe I need to move again. 😃 Pop over and say hi. I’m just across that charming pond called the Atlantic. ---
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2006, 4:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinks-what-are-yours-whats-too-much-tmi-duh/361890/32 "2006-06-25T04:32:37Z")
> [@Priceguy](#): > > Pop over and say hi. I’m just across that charming pond called the Atlantic. An excuse to get a passport at last! ---
**Author:** ![Yookeroo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/yookeroo/32/323_2.png) [@Yookeroo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yookeroo)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2006, 3:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinks-what-are-yours-whats-too-much-tmi-duh/361890/33 "2006-06-26T03:17:22Z")
No kids. animals, scat. Everything else is good with me. ---
**Author:** ![Chotii](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/71e660/32.png) [@Chotii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chotii)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2006, 5:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinks-what-are-yours-whats-too-much-tmi-duh/361890/34 "2006-06-26T05:48:01Z")
I’ll have really complex storylines going on inside my head, fantasy stuff, things I know I wouldn’t enjoy RL, but I kind of need the mental images to help me get aroused enough to come. Some of these may be replays of things I’ve seen in porn flicks, but as often as not it’s the same ‘original’ story over and over: aristocratic girl caught by pirates and used and abused by them. I enjoy _occasional_ stints into bondage (I’m the one tied up) and occasional other things (I’m always on the receiving, uh, end) but I don’t want those things all the time - just sometimes, for variety. Sometimes I want plain old ordinary ‘bread and butter’ sex (I think this is usually called ‘vanilla’ but I like bread and butter better; besides, it’s filling and not merely tasty). I don’t know how people keep from getting jaded if it’s always the same kink all the time. ---
**Author:** ![bauble](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/f6c823/32.png) [@bauble](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bauble)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2006, 9:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinks-what-are-yours-whats-too-much-tmi-duh/361890/35 "2006-06-28T21:33:09Z")
OK - here’s the list: porn (stories or pictures, depending on mood) using toys on my girlfriend watching GF masturbate sex in public/places where getting caught is a possibility I really enjoy watching someone else, preferably but not necessarily female, get said girlfriend off MFF-type threesomes (not comfortable with MMF-types and GF isn’t either, but it sure is hot in movies) I think that’s it. Pretty vanilla. ---
**Author:** ![Hostile\_Dialect](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e495f1/32.png) [@Hostile\_Dialect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hostile_Dialect)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2006, 10:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinks-what-are-yours-whats-too-much-tmi-duh/361890/36 "2006-06-28T22:18:20Z")
I’d like to use toys on a girl, too, but none will let me. I find that baffling. ---
**Author:** ![Misnomer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/misnomer/32/14897_2.png) [@Misnomer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Misnomer)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2006, 10:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinks-what-are-yours-whats-too-much-tmi-duh/361890/37 "2006-06-28T22:36:27Z")
> [@fetus](#): > > I’d like to use toys on a girl, too, but none will let me. How many have you asked? You’re relatively young, so I’ll go out on a limb and venture a guess that the number isn’t very high … in which case, it’s not so baffling. Hang in there. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Hostile\_Dialect](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e495f1/32.png) [@Hostile\_Dialect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hostile_Dialect)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2006, 11:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinks-what-are-yours-whats-too-much-tmi-duh/361890/38 "2006-06-28T23:01:46Z")
> [@Misnomer](#): > > How many have you asked? > > You’re relatively young, so I’ll go out on a limb and venture a guess that the number isn’t very high … in which case, it’s not so baffling. Hang in there. Are you volunteering? Be here at midnight PST. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2006, 11:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinks-what-are-yours-whats-too-much-tmi-duh/361890/39 "2006-06-28T23:04:11Z")
In my experience, it’s the guys who balk at using toys on girls. Glad to see that not all of them do, though. ---
**Author:** ![Hostile\_Dialect](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e495f1/32.png) [@Hostile\_Dialect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hostile_Dialect)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2006, 11:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinks-what-are-yours-whats-too-much-tmi-duh/361890/40 "2006-06-28T23:07:55Z")
Where are these girls who can’t get a guy to use toys on them? Why haven’t I been introduced to any of them? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinks-what-are-yours-whats-too-much-tmi-duh/361890.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinks-what-are-yours-whats-too-much-tmi-duh/361890.md?page=3)