# Kinks. What are yours? What's too much? (TMI, duh!) **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 23, 2006, 5:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinks-what-are-yours-whats-too-much-tmi-duh/361890 "2006-06-23T17:25:10Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 11\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![Stauderhorse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ce7236/32.png) [@Stauderhorse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stauderhorse)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2009, 8:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinks-what-are-yours-whats-too-much-tmi-duh/361890/101 "2009-08-29T20:10:05Z")
I’m fairly inexperienced when it comes to sex, so this all takes place in my head, but… Having a guy masturbate while fingering me/rubbing my clitoris. It’s even better if he starts repeating a phrase over and over, something like “You’re making me want you”. Dirty talk. “I want to fuck you.” “Do you want me to come in your mouth?” type of stuff often does the trick when simply visualizing isn’t working. Guy on guy sex is unimaginably hot to me. Heavy making out, lip biting, one guy jerking or sucking the other off. Mmm. Lots of biting, sucking, and licking. ---
**Author:** ![Kimmy\_Gibbler](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Kimmy\_Gibbler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kimmy_Gibbler)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2009, 9:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinks-what-are-yours-whats-too-much-tmi-duh/361890/102 "2009-08-29T21:28:13Z")
> [@EvilTOJ](#): > > I have a fetish for zombie threads. Well, then, has Bruce LaBruce got a [movie](http://www.advocate.com/exclusive_detail_ektid105735.asp) for you! ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2009, 11:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinks-what-are-yours-whats-too-much-tmi-duh/361890/103 "2009-08-30T23:06:11Z")
First of all, I cannot stand the word “kink.” It evokes people who’ve been totally vanilla, but who are thinking of trying something a little “naughty.” That said, my partner and I really have no limits to our sexuality. There are damn few things that we haven’t done over the years, short of permanent injury. Someday I’ll start a thread about this. ---
**Author:** ![AFer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/f9ae1b/32.png) [@AFer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AFer)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2009, 11:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinks-what-are-yours-whats-too-much-tmi-duh/361890/104 "2009-08-30T23:57:32Z")
Stupid term, but what the Internet uses: BBWs are my thing. ---
**Author:** ![Malleus\_Incus\_Stapes](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/malleus_incus_stapes/32/3293_2.png) [@Malleus\_Incus\_Stapes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malleus_Incus_Stapes)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2009, 1:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinks-what-are-yours-whats-too-much-tmi-duh/361890/105 "2009-08-31T01:46:46Z")
I have a question for you guys- how do you get a kink in the first place? Is it something you’re born with, so that your romantic life is unfulfilling until the magic day you find a picture of a naked taxi driver making sushi? Or do you aquire a fetish? How? (As I’ve mentioned before, I’m asexual, so I don’t understand vanilla, let alone kinks. So naturally, I’m curious as to what goes on). ---
**Author:** ![Electric\_Warrior](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee7513/32.png) [@Electric\_Warrior](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Electric_Warrior)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2009, 1:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinks-what-are-yours-whats-too-much-tmi-duh/361890/106 "2009-08-31T01:55:51Z")
> [@meenie7](#): > > My other major thing that’s purely imaginary is that I am a writer, and I love to pretend to be my characters when having…solo entertainment, as it were. Always male characters, and usually gay male characters. I really get into their mindspace and react to things differently than i would myself. I make up whole dialogues between the couple I’m imagining at the time, and switch perspectives and reenact all stages of the activities (i.e. all the kissing, feeling up, etc. in addition to imagining the actual sex stuff). I think you and I are very similar in this sense! I also like to write, and some of what I write is erotic fiction, and I love fantasizing in terms of what my characters would write. So a lot of it is a major turn on even if it’s not things I would myself be interested in doing, including some things that really freak me out in real life but are very, very hot in a fantasy headspace! (And since this is the sort of thread where semi embarrassing things are revealed, I will say the two things that have made me go very, very NO normally but through the mind of a character have been REALLY hot are…two people pretending they are siblings and describing their interactions as ‘brother and sister’, and…uh…pee. _goes and hides in a bunker in Siberia forever_) It’s not _always_ gay male characters, which it used to be and now is almost never, in fact I’ve been thinking mostly about lesbian stuff lately which makes me wonder if I’m not swinging toward the gay side of my bisexual orientation. But this is a tangent. Anyway. Like someone else who posted in this thread, I have not had a lot of sexual experience. And in general, when I’m thinking about myself, I prefer very vanilla stuff. Beyond a little roughness and a little biting, that’s it. But there must be a little part of me that wishes she’d had girl- or boyfriends as a preteen because the first time I hold hands with someone … PHWOAR! It’s like every molecule of my body gets excited. (My electrons jump to the next energy level? something like that.) ---
**Author:** ![Unintentionally\_Blank](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/unintentionally_blank/32/5418_2.png) [@Unintentionally\_Blank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Unintentionally_Blank)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2009, 2:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinks-what-are-yours-whats-too-much-tmi-duh/361890/107 "2009-08-31T02:36:53Z")
> [@Malleus\_Incus\_Stapes](#): > > I have a question for you guys- how do you get a kink in the first place? Is it something you’re born with, so that your romantic life is unfulfilling until the magic day you find a picture of a naked taxi driver making sushi? Or do you aquire a fetish? How? > > (As I’ve mentioned before, I’m asexual, so I don’t understand vanilla, let alone kinks. So naturally, I’m curious as to what goes on). You say this after the abercrombie bag thread? Uh. My heart weeps. The world would be a much better place if everybody had the same libido. ---
**Author:** ![Sir\_T-Cups](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ed655f/32.png) [@Sir\_T-Cups](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sir_T-Cups)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2009, 3:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinks-what-are-yours-whats-too-much-tmi-duh/361890/108 "2009-08-31T03:18:49Z")
I have a small variation on the foot fetish. I’m all for feet, but I get off a lot more if you’re in socks. Back when it was happening I would lay next to my then girlfriend and finger her, and 9 times out of 10 I would stare at her socks. If we are having sex, I would rather you be wearing _only_ socks. And last but not least…knee highs are the hottest things in the world, and if those knee highs are argyle…Oh holy shit… ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2009, 3:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinks-what-are-yours-whats-too-much-tmi-duh/361890/109 "2009-08-31T03:47:48Z")
> [@Sir\_T-Cups](#): > > I have a small variation on the foot fetish. I’m all for feet, but I get off a lot more if you’re in socks. Back when it was happening I would lay next to my then girlfriend and finger her, and 9 times out of 10 I would stare at her socks. If we are having sex, I would rather you be wearing _only_ socks. > > And last but not least…knee highs are the hottest things in the world, and if those knee highs are argyle…Oh holy shit… You’d be amazed how common this is. Everything from dress socks to gym socks to, of course, stockings, and everything in-between. ---
**Author:** ![Jerseyman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/bbce88/32.png) [@Jerseyman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jerseyman)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2009, 3:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinks-what-are-yours-whats-too-much-tmi-duh/361890/110 "2009-08-31T03:57:40Z")
The feel of soft plastic and holding back or being made to hold back on wriggling for relief. ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2009, 4:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinks-what-are-yours-whats-too-much-tmi-duh/361890/111 "2009-08-31T04:10:23Z")
> [@EvilTOJ](#): > > I have a fetish for zombie threads. Whereas I have a fetish for _killing_ zombie threads. Funny, isn’t it? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinks-what-are-yours-whats-too-much-tmi-duh/361890.md?page=5)