# Kinky or not? What say you? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 30, 2003, 6:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinky-or-not-what-say-you/151680 "2003-01-30T18:54:22Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 11\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![DocCathode](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doccathode/32/18773_2.png) [@DocCathode](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DocCathode)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2003, 8:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinky-or-not-what-say-you/151680/41 "2003-02-01T08:01:42Z")
Wang Ka- Your melon tale is nigh indescribable. It’s humorous. It’s titilating. It’s educational. it’s disturbing. It’s inspirational in almost religious way. Think of it- the melonophile is surrounded by friends. They urge him on out of drug addled lust and fascination. But, they also urge him on to the fulfilment of his life’s goal. They look on with genuine love as he attains his ultimate pleasure.Then, the sacred and profane merge. As he showers his friends in melon juice and semen, a man attains the pinnacle of his life. In a way, it’s quite admirable. ‘I know what I want, and I am not ashamed. I shall pursue my dream until I run it down.’ Re-The OP I am unashamed, except when it comes to my Mother-and she’s looking for a used pc so she can get on the web. Without being specific about my fantasies, I can say that the only thing that would prevent me from acting on them is lack of a willing partner. Sadly, I’ve been single for years. ---
**Author:** ![Master\_Wang-Ka](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/master_wang-ka/32/3325_2.png) [@Master\_Wang-Ka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Master_Wang-Ka)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2003, 2:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinky-or-not-what-say-you/151680/42 "2003-02-01T14:32:25Z")
Doc, I’d thought of that, too. But when one’s ultimate moment in life involves screwing a watermelon… it seems to me that one has set one’s goals a little low… ---
**Author:** ![DocCathode](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doccathode/32/18773_2.png) [@DocCathode](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DocCathode)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2003, 2:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinky-or-not-what-say-you/151680/43 "2003-02-01T14:35:46Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Wang-Ka \* > \*\*But when one’s ultimate moment in life involves screwing a watermelon… it seems to me that one has set one’s goals a little low… \*\* Now, THAT is a sig line!!! ---
**Author:** ![Badge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/4bbf92/32.png) [@Badge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Badge)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2003, 2:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinky-or-not-what-say-you/151680/44 "2003-02-01T14:56:23Z")
You know, I think we’ve finally found the definition of kinky sex . . . > [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Wang-Ka \* > \*\*I ignored her and kept jumping up and down and whacking the dog. \*\* Wang-Ka, I don’t think I’ve ever laughed so hard at anything I’ve read on the SDMB (not even _WallyM7 tries cyber sex_, the previous record holder). ---
**Author:** ![Master\_Wang-Ka](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/master_wang-ka/32/3325_2.png) [@Master\_Wang-Ka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Master_Wang-Ka)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2003, 3:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinky-or-not-what-say-you/151680/45 "2003-02-01T15:52:49Z")
Believe me, what was going on between the dog and I was ANYTHING but sexual. Although, in all honesty, I can’t speak for how the dog felt… ---
**Author:** ![RedFury](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/ec9cab/32.png) [@RedFury](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RedFury)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2003, 5:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinky-or-not-what-say-you/151680/46 "2003-02-01T17:49:44Z")
Although I admit to finding many of the above posts quite funny, I feel that the ensuing thread drift has rendered this thread very difficult to follow. Too bad. I thought this topic had great potential for a serious thought-provoking conversation. With my apologies to those I didn’t get to in my replies and a thank you to those that contributed to the original topic, I think I’ll bow out of this thread. Hopefully, there were enough points raised before the drift to at least get some people thinking about the benefits of exploring and enjoying their own sexuality. And if it takes melons to do so, all the more power to you! 😉 ---
**Author:** ![liirogue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dbc845/32.png) [@liirogue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/liirogue)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2003, 5:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinky-or-not-what-say-you/151680/47 "2003-02-01T17:58:14Z")
To get things back on track, even though those were classics, Wang! > [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by RedFury \* > For one thing, you’ve _already_ shown your husband the tendencies by allowing (or, more likely from what you’re saying, pushing for it) yourself to be tied-up. So, the question is/are, what stops you from opening the communication further? Are you afraid of being ‘labeled’? And how strong would you say your ‘little dark thoughts’ are? Because, in the end, they are neither dark or light, they are simply “you.” Lots to explore and learn there – why would you (anyone) give it up? > > That’s the “journey” I spoke about in the OP. Seems to me, many (most?) people are sexually repressed for one reason or another – and that’s the core issue I’m trying to get to here. For instance, I happened to notice the number of views this thread has Vs the actual number of posts. Can’t say I am surprised it has one of the lowest, if not the lowest, rate of posts per views. > > Sex obviously sells but it’s still taboo in many ways – and I find that very harmful. > > Again, appreciate your candor. Look forward to your response. \*\* Btw, sorry it has taken me so long to respond! I don’t tell him because there is the fear of being labeled, as well as the fear of rejection, I think. At the same time, I am not sure exploring this fantasy would be good… it (more than likely) would not live up to my “expectations” and the fantasy would be ruined in many ways… At the same time, so tempting, so tempting… 😃 I also don’t want to put pressure on my husband. I don’t orgasm during sex, and I’m afraid he would seize the “opportunity.” I suppose what I’m saying is while I would certainly like to orgasm with him, I don’t feel that it’s possible (for reasons that I won’t go into here) and I don’t want to pressure him or set him up to be disapointed. The “little thoughts” go quite deep indeed… I think my fantasies were formed in no small part due to the fact I looked at Net porn during my adolescent years… And we all know how that is not vanilla!! :eek: ---
**Author:** ![liirogue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dbc845/32.png) [@liirogue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/liirogue)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2003, 6:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinky-or-not-what-say-you/151680/48 "2003-02-01T18:00:31Z")
Well dangit, **Red** just go ahead and leave just as I bear my soul… 😃 ---
**Author:** ![jack\_ss](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c77e96/32.png) [@jack\_ss](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jack_ss)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2003, 11:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinky-or-not-what-say-you/151680/49 "2003-02-01T23:16:00Z")
I had a fiance who, like **XJETGIRLX** was a very sound sleeper and I really enjoyed waking her up with oral pleasure. It made me feel very much in control. I had another girlfriend who had a very big rape fantasy. It made me feel uncomfortable to be in that much control. actually, what I think made me unconfortable was that I really got into dominating her. Part of her fantasy was being choked, which I did not enjoy doing. Later, my ex-wife enjoyed light bondage occasionally, but I was always the one tied. I could tolerate that, but it didn’t add to my enjoyment. In fact, I had to thoroughly dominate her after. So, I guess that makes me more of a dom than a sub, but not a sadist. Do you consider exhibitionism kinky? I really enjoy the thought of being watched and desired. I like the idea of a woman just _burning_ with desire for me. I have had sex in public places and found the possibility of being caught exhillirating. ---
**Author:** ![Muffin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/muffin/32/4341_2.png) [@Muffin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Muffin)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2003, 11:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinky-or-not-what-say-you/151680/50 "2003-02-01T23:16:47Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by RedFury \* > \*\*From the small sampling of responses already given I can see where finding a working definition of the word “kink” might be necessary. \*\* Clown sex = not kinky Mime sex = kinky Clown with mime sex = perversion ---
**Author:** ![Lumpy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lumpy/32/446_2.png) [@Lumpy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lumpy)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2003, 4:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinky-or-not-what-say-you/151680/51 "2003-02-02T04:35:01Z")
My actual sex life hasn’t lived up to the standards of _The Joy of Sex_, much less anything that could be described as “kinky”. I seem to attract very conservative women. As far as what I’ve fantisized about, let’s see: I would like to fuck a woman with a dildo. I would like to have my wife **insist** that I sleep with a woman she sets me up with. I would like to spend one year having sex with women of nearly every conceivable size, shape and color. I would like to be with a woman who was ready anytime, anywhere, on a moment’s notice. I would like to be invited to watch a woman have sex with a dog. I would like to be… well dominated isn’t quite the right word. I am definitely not into pain or humiliation. But I would like to be -_controlled_. Used liked a trained stud beast by two or three agressive women. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kinky-or-not-what-say-you/151680.md?page=2)