# Kissing- Eyes open or shut? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [May 27, 2003, 4:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kissing-eyes-open-or-shut/177714 "2003-05-27T04:59:01Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Deadly\_Nightlight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/6a8cbe/32.png) [@Deadly\_Nightlight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Deadly_Nightlight)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2003, 4:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kissing-eyes-open-or-shut/177714/1 "2003-05-27T04:59:01Z")
A friend of mine was just talking to me about how his girlfriend wanted him to close his eyes when they kissed(made out), I was like darn skippy you close your eyes, but then he asked me why, I had no REAL reason why, just thats how I do it any everyone I know. Soooooooooooooooo what about you all? How do you kiss? ---
**Author:** ![Q.E.D](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/51bf81/32.png) [@Q.E.D](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Q.E.D)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2003, 5:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kissing-eyes-open-or-shut/177714/2 "2003-05-27T05:15:09Z")
Eyes closed, always. Dunno why, but that’s the way I like it. ---
**Author:** ![danceswithcats](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/9e8a1a/32.png) [@danceswithcats](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/danceswithcats)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2003, 5:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kissing-eyes-open-or-shut/177714/3 "2003-05-27T05:19:04Z")
Always closed ---
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2003, 5:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kissing-eyes-open-or-shut/177714/4 "2003-05-27T05:19:35Z")
Shut. Open is just wrong. ---
**Author:** ![Cosmopolitan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/94ad74/32.png) [@Cosmopolitan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cosmopolitan)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2003, 5:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kissing-eyes-open-or-shut/177714/5 "2003-05-27T05:21:00Z")
Eyes closed, man. Seems to me to be an involuntary thing. ---
**Author:** ![Essured](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/278dde/32.png) [@Essured](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Essured)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2003, 5:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kissing-eyes-open-or-shut/177714/6 "2003-05-27T05:29:20Z")
Either. It depends on the type of kiss, location, etc. ---
**Author:** ![AncientHumanoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ancienthumanoid/32/278_2.png) [@AncientHumanoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AncientHumanoid)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2003, 5:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kissing-eyes-open-or-shut/177714/7 "2003-05-27T05:34:26Z")
It depends. Lustful kissing, I’ll often keep my eyes open. I like what I see, you see. But even then, when on her mouth, my eyes are usually closed. And the “tender” kiss, the one that says “you are so very precious to me…” is usually eyes closed, too. I like to place my hand on her cheek, slowly lean in to her while smiling and keeping eye contact, until right before our lips touch and then our eyes both close, often just for a moment. Then, I look her in her eyes again, and slowly drop my hand from her face. I just love the way that feels. Which is probably why kissing is often done eyes closed. It’s the touch, not the sight, that matters in a kiss. ---
**Author:** ![Jman](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jman/32/4416_2.png) [@Jman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jman)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2003, 6:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kissing-eyes-open-or-shut/177714/8 "2003-05-27T06:08:25Z")
I kiss with my eyes closed for the most part, but during long, passionate kisses, I’ll open my eyes from time to time, and just look at her face while we kiss…then close them again. ---
**Author:** ![FyreFiend](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/919ad9/32.png) [@FyreFiend](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FyreFiend)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2003, 6:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kissing-eyes-open-or-shut/177714/9 "2003-05-27T06:12:34Z")
Eyes Closed. It’s rude to stare. ---
**Author:** ![j.c](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/73ab20/32.png) [@j.c](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/j.c)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2003, 7:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kissing-eyes-open-or-shut/177714/10 "2003-05-27T07:28:07Z")
I keep my own eyes closed shut in sort of a squinty way, but reach up and put my thumbs on his upper eyelashes to hold his peepers wide open. Dunno why - that’s just what “feels right” to me. ---
**Author:** ![Casey1505](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/dc4da7/32.png) [@Casey1505](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Casey1505)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2003, 11:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kissing-eyes-open-or-shut/177714/11 "2003-05-27T11:43:52Z")
Open. That way you can keep an eye out for your wife. ---
**Author:** ![Rapunzel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/cc9497/32.png) [@Rapunzel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rapunzel)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2003, 1:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kissing-eyes-open-or-shut/177714/12 "2003-05-27T13:07:32Z")
Surely closed makes it easier to ‘tune in’ to the sensation? ---
**Author:** ![Khadaji](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Khadaji](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khadaji)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2003, 1:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kissing-eyes-open-or-shut/177714/13 "2003-05-27T13:15:06Z")
Usually closed. ---
**Author:** ![papergirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/aca169/32.png) [@papergirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/papergirl)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2003, 1:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kissing-eyes-open-or-shut/177714/14 "2003-05-27T13:22:54Z")
Huh. All these closed-eyed kissers, who woulda thunk it. I open my eyes frequently, and love it when we make eye contact for those moments. Mmmm…nice. Good kissing is a fairly new thing for me, so maybe I’m still a newbie at it. ---
**Author:** ![JRDelirious](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jrdelirious/32/9531_2.png) [@JRDelirious](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JRDelirious)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2003, 2:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kissing-eyes-open-or-shut/177714/15 "2003-05-27T14:08:56Z")
_Someone_ of the parties involved should take an ocassional look. Y’know, in case enemy agents are sneaking up on you 😛 But seriously, it works just as well either way for me – maybe it’s just my attention-span problem catching up with me… ---
**Author:** ![metroshane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/aeb1de/32.png) [@metroshane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/metroshane)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2003, 3:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kissing-eyes-open-or-shut/177714/16 "2003-05-27T15:07:43Z")
depends on what’s on the tube. ---
**Author:** ![that.sound.again](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e5b9ba/32.png) [@that.sound.again](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/that.sound.again)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2003, 6:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kissing-eyes-open-or-shut/177714/17 "2003-05-27T18:17:40Z")
Open. Closed. Serious and deep. Playfully, even sort of half-way smiling. Go for variation! Open eyes aren’t a problem if you like what you see. There is an eyeshutting reflex, I’ll admit, but always going in with your eyes closed is really missing out. ---
**Author:** ![lilbtagna](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/4491bb/32.png) [@lilbtagna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lilbtagna)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2003, 9:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kissing-eyes-open-or-shut/177714/18 "2003-05-27T21:25:51Z")
Usually closed, but if I’m in a playful mood, then I leave them open and kind of make goofy faces (not disgusted faces because I don’t think he’d like that). During passionate kisses, my eyes sometimes open a bit to see him. ---
**Author:** ![Giraffe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/giraffe/32/129_2.png) [@Giraffe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giraffe)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2003, 9:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kissing-eyes-open-or-shut/177714/19 "2003-05-27T21:59:03Z")
Closed, if for no other reason to keep them from bugging out like Don Knotts whenever something particularly enjoyable happens. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Ooner](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/c67d28/32.png) [@Ooner](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ooner)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2003, 10:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kissing-eyes-open-or-shut/177714/20 "2003-05-27T22:53:21Z")
Closed, always. No exceptions. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/kissing-eyes-open-or-shut/177714.md?page=2)