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Marley23, your memory fails you:
Think back to the OJ trial for a minute: remember all the business with Mark Fuhrman and the word “nigger?” The defense was just trying to make it look like he was a racist to reduce his credibility. Now, who’s really going to believe that he was so racist he somehow stole OJ’s glove and samples of his blood and DNA and planted them? Nobody that I can think of. But it doesn’t matter. It’s more of a shady, innuendo kind of thing. Damaging credibility is the goal.
In fact, Fuhrman stated that he hated blacks in his application for a disability pension. He so hated blacks, he claimed, that he could no longer stand to work as a police officer. Working as a cop in black and Latino neighborhoods was driving him, in his words, “crazy”.
Fuhrman expressed similar hostilities on tape when he was interviewed by a writer doing research for a screenplay. He said that he hated blacks, that he particularly hated to see black men and white women together, and would find any pretext to stop such couples. He also said that he would plant evidence if neccessary to make a case against a known criminal.
There are only two possibilities: either Fuhrman really was a racist, or he lied on official documents to get a desired outcome. His credibility is ruined either way.
ON TOPIC
Kobe is a prize fool for becoming involved with this woman in any way. The NBA has for years now conducted mandatory seminars for incoming players to help them avoid problems with women - paternity suits, accusations of sexual harrassment and assault, etc. Maybe he wasn’t paying attention. Maybe he just forgot. Still, every NBA player knows that he’s a big, moving target for unscrupulous women.
He also failed to learn anything from the example of another Laker great, who was beloved by the fans, who had a clean-cut, family guy image, who had lots of unprotected sex with strange women, who contracted HIV.
Kobe didn’t know this woman at all. He could’ve brought any number of ugly diseases back to his wife - herpes, chlamydia, Hep C, warts - whatever.
This woman - the accuser - has a pattern of behavior that is associated with survivors of childhood sexual abuse. Survivors often have a damaged sense of self -preservation and danger, so they put themselves in dangerous situations. They will gravitate to situations where they are likely to be abused, and remain in those situations long after an emotionally healthy person would have fled or sought help. One answer to the question: Why did she go to Kobe’s hotel room late at night if she didn’t want sex?
Abuse survivors can learn to deal with powerful men by seducing them, manipulating men with sexuality, even as they despise sex. Flirtation, manipulation, seduction become their way of dealing with the world.
Her recent behavior - attending a party and speaking inappropriately about her assault -“boasting,” and publicly describing her alleged rapist’s genitalia, are indications of desensitization. It’s common for abuse survivors to speak of their abuse with inappropriate ease or jocularity, because the capacity to connect with deeper, more appropriate emotional expression is lacking.
Also fitting the profile of abuse survivor is her tendency, reported by friends, to get excited and strip naked at parties. Suicide attempts and substance abuse are also common among abuse survivors. Her pursuit of fame and her desire to associate with celebrities may be attempts to repair a damaged psyche, to fill up the hole inside her.
I could imagine Susan Smith making a false rape accusation. A nice girl, from a good, Christian family with high social standing in their small town. A nice girl who was sleeping with her stepfather.
Unfortunately, none of this really speaks to Kobe’s guilt or innocence. As others have noted, even if the woman is disturbed, that doesn’t mean she can’t be raped. If she is disturbed, she’s quite capable of fabricating a rape story, wounding herself and tearing her clothes to make it seem credible. She may not be entirely sure in her own mind whether she wanted to have sex with Kobe or not. She may be using Kobe as a proxy for the man who really hurt her, a man she either can not or will not accuse.