# Ladies, a guy asks if he can kiss you. Is it cute? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 28, 2005, 3:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-guy-asks-if-he-can-kiss-you-is-it-cute/323799 "2005-09-28T03:42:46Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 12\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Eonwe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/eonwe/32/240_2.png) [@Eonwe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eonwe)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2005, 7:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-guy-asks-if-he-can-kiss-you-is-it-cute/323799/41 "2005-09-28T19:33:01Z")
> [@taxi78cab](#): > > Oops. I have to admit that I also thought you were a girl! > > And since I’m one of the Cap Region Dopers too and plan to be at the Albany Dopefest in a couple weeks, I’m glad that I was in the privacy of my office when I found out that you’re a guy. That could have been embarrassing! :eek: > > I really think they need a “gender” line up next to the “location” line. It’d clear up a lot of confusion! That’s what I get for having a user name that doesn’t end in “o” or “u.” Curse our linguistic heritage!!! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2005, 7:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-guy-asks-if-he-can-kiss-you-is-it-cute/323799/42 "2005-09-28T19:51:56Z")
> [@Askia](#): > > **taxi78cab** You can “make” a gender line if you have enough room. See what I did? I know. And I don’t read it as Location: Stone Mountain Sex: Male But rather Stone Mountain Sex Male ---
**Author:** ![Askia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/96bed5/32.png) [@Askia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Askia)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2005, 8:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-guy-asks-if-he-can-kiss-you-is-it-cute/323799/43 "2005-09-28T20:22:27Z")
Get real, _Mika._ If I lived in a place called Stone Mountain Sex, why the _hell_ would I log on to the _internet?_ :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![Askia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/96bed5/32.png) [@Askia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Askia)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2005, 8:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-guy-asks-if-he-can-kiss-you-is-it-cute/323799/44 "2005-09-28T20:23:33Z")
:smack: That :rolleyes: was supposed to be a 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2005, 8:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-guy-asks-if-he-can-kiss-you-is-it-cute/323799/45 "2005-09-28T20:36:27Z")
> [@Askia](#): > > Get real, _Mika._ If I lived in a place called Stone Mountain Sex, why the _hell_ would I log on to the _internet?_ :rolleyes: 'S true…but I more think of it as a \*type \* of sex. Random person: “I’m getting tired of missionary-style sex.” **Askia** : “Oh, that’s so out-of-date. Have you tried Stone Mountain sex?” Plus I will never, ever forget you’re a male again. ---
**Author:** ![Draelin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ce73a5/32.png) [@Draelin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Draelin)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2005, 8:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-guy-asks-if-he-can-kiss-you-is-it-cute/323799/46 "2005-09-28T20:44:52Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > Random person: “I’m getting tired of missionary-style sex.” > **Askia** : “Oh, that’s so out-of-date. Have you tried Stone Mountain sex?” I am intrigued by your Stone Mountain Sex and would like to subscribe to your newsletter. As to the OP, another echo–if I like the guy, it’s cute. If it’s some random stranger … well, it depends on where I am and how much I’ve had to drink. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Askia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/96bed5/32.png) [@Askia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Askia)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2005, 8:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-guy-asks-if-he-can-kiss-you-is-it-cute/323799/47 "2005-09-28T20:50:42Z")
> [@Draelin](#): > > I am intrigued by your Stone Mountain Sex and would like to subscribe to your newsletter. I’m not sure I want to get credit as the _originator_ of Stone Mountain Sex as it probrably involves kudzu and roleplaying in Confederate uniforms. ---
**Author:** ![Creaky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e68b1a/32.png) [@Creaky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Creaky)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2005, 10:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-guy-asks-if-he-can-kiss-you-is-it-cute/323799/48 "2005-09-28T22:37:57Z")
I guess it would be cute. If the guy were handsome, I’d let him kiss me on the lips. If her weren’t, it’s the cheek for him! I think saying no, unless the guy was an absolute boor, would be kind of mean. After all, I’d take it as a compliment regardless. ---
**Author:** ![Askia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/96bed5/32.png) [@Askia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Askia)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2005, 10:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-guy-asks-if-he-can-kiss-you-is-it-cute/323799/49 "2005-09-28T22:44:09Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > Plus I will never, ever forget you’re a male again. Reading this out of context, I should make this my sig line. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2005, 10:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-guy-asks-if-he-can-kiss-you-is-it-cute/323799/50 "2005-09-28T22:47:44Z")
> [@Askia](#): > > Reading this out of context, I should make this my sig line. Ooo! Do I win? > [@Askia](#): > > iamthewalrus(:3= You know, I am about THIS CLOSE to having a ‘Choose Askia’s sig line’ contest. ---
**Author:** ![gfloyd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/d2c977/32.png) [@gfloyd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gfloyd)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2005, 10:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-guy-asks-if-he-can-kiss-you-is-it-cute/323799/51 "2005-09-28T22:58:33Z")
I think it’s cute to be asked. Actually, romantic. My boyfriend and I were both insecure and unsure of ourselves in the begining, so I think it’s fine to ask. ---
**Author:** ![sjc](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e5b9ba/32.png) [@sjc](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sjc)\ **Post date:** [October 1, 2005, 6:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-guy-asks-if-he-can-kiss-you-is-it-cute/323799/52 "2005-10-01T06:07:57Z")
For my first kiss I asked her, there really wasn’t any other way I could have done it. I think she found it cute. I’m a guy and I don’t know very much about this subject, but I have a feeling that the “if she already thinks you are cute then it is cute, otherwise it’s creepy” principle is in most cases true. The implication is that it is OK to ask if she already thinks you are cute, but may be superfluous. And if she doesn’t think you are cute then asking will only make it worse. The question I have is this: would a woman find it worse if a guy she didn’t find cute asked if he could kiss her or if he just tried to kiss her? I realize that there are a lot of difference scenarios here. Feel free to picture whatever scenario you like, but I’m more interested in the cases where the woman’s feelings are hard for the guy to read. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-guy-asks-if-he-can-kiss-you-is-it-cute/323799.md?page=2)