# Ladies: A Question about back-door lovers and homophobia.

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-question-about-back-door-lovers-and-homophobia/473596>\
**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\
**Created:** [November 20, 2008, 3:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-question-about-back-door-lovers-and-homophobia/473596 "2008-11-20T03:07:53Z")\
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**Author:** ![chacoguy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/50afbb/32.png) [@chacoguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chacoguy)\
**Post date:** [November 20, 2008, 3:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-question-about-back-door-lovers-and-homophobia/473596/1 "2008-11-20T03:07:53Z")

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Lady Dopers, of the men that you have been with that have enjoyed anal sex, have those men been more homophobic or less so?

I’m trying to figure out if people that are grossed out by the idea of gay sex are more bothered by the anal aspect or the the fact that it is men.

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**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\
**Post date:** [November 20, 2008, 3:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-question-about-back-door-lovers-and-homophobia/473596/2 "2008-11-20T03:30:39Z")

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I can’t really say as I wouldn’t date anyone who was even remotely homophobic.

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**Author:** ![chacoguy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/50afbb/32.png) [@chacoguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chacoguy)\
**Post date:** [November 20, 2008, 3:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-question-about-back-door-lovers-and-homophobia/473596/3 "2008-11-20T03:37:08Z")

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I hadn’t thought of that; me either.

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**Author:** ![Sycorax](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a4c791/32.png) [@Sycorax](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sycorax)\
**Post date:** [November 20, 2008, 3:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-question-about-back-door-lovers-and-homophobia/473596/4 "2008-11-20T03:52:37Z")

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I don’t think there’s a connection. My impression is that most men love the idea of anal sex because it’s a “tighter” orifice. Some women like it, some don’t.

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**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\
**Post date:** [November 20, 2008, 3:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-question-about-back-door-lovers-and-homophobia/473596/5 "2008-11-20T03:53:48Z")

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That, definitely, plus I think a lot of guys also like it because it’s got a forbidden nature to it. Probably some women like it for that reason as well.

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**Author:** ![chacoguy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/50afbb/32.png) [@chacoguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chacoguy)\
**Post date:** [November 20, 2008, 4:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-question-about-back-door-lovers-and-homophobia/473596/6 "2008-11-20T04:01:47Z")

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If a Mod pops by, can you correct the spelling in the thread title? Thanks.

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**Author:** ![hotflungwok](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/edb3f5/32.png) [@hotflungwok](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hotflungwok)\
**Post date:** [November 20, 2008, 4:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-question-about-back-door-lovers-and-homophobia/473596/7 "2008-11-20T04:27:31Z")

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I knew a guy who wouldn’t have anal sex with his wife specifically because he thought anal sex was gay, and she enjoyed anal sex.