# Ladies a tour of my bedroom? (Boom-chika-chika. No not like that) **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 29, 2007, 12:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-tour-of-my-bedroom-boom-chika-chika-no-not-like-that/428114 "2007-11-29T00:15:48Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 17\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Mayo\_Speaks](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c57346/32.png) [@Mayo\_Speaks](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mayo_Speaks)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2007, 6:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-tour-of-my-bedroom-boom-chika-chika-no-not-like-that/428114/61 "2007-12-03T06:38:41Z")
Do I get a free pass since I actually do live in a dorm room? I have 3 decorations. They are: [This XKCD comic](http://xkcd.com/154/) on the outside of the door [My “counterfeit” dollar bill](http://i239.photobucket.com/albums/ff82/dcmayo/bill1.png) that I made at work [My self portrait](http://i239.photobucket.com/albums/ff82/dcmayo/cardCENSORED.png) (The top image.) and a picture of my Mom. I used to have a poster with all of U2’s album covers on it, but it has disappeared. ---
**Author:** ![Maastricht](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a88e57/32.png) [@Maastricht](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maastricht)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2007, 7:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-tour-of-my-bedroom-boom-chika-chika-no-not-like-that/428114/62 "2007-12-03T07:42:24Z")
**Sunspace** , if you don’t want to spend too much money but are a bit handy (and I think you are 🙂 ) you might do what I did for my living room. I went to the DIY store and bougth a large rectangle of soft plywood, softboard, I don’t know the word, but the kind of board used to tack announcements to. I painted it white, but any other color would have been nice too. Then I bought a lenght of picture frame. Well, actually, it was a [wall frame](http://www.bakkerschilderwerken.nl/images/sierlijst.jpg) . It was cheap, made out of pressed wood, and in profile looked something like [this](http://www.verdouw.nu/media/informatie_en_assortiment/hout/Naamloos-48.gif). I painted the frame black, sawed it off at an 45 degree angle, and glued/nailed the list to the soft plywood. Then I painted the whole thing and nailed it to the wall. It now resembles one of those old inner-city announcement boards that has all sorts of advertisements and announcements on it. On it I have a rotating “exhibition” of pictures and posters large and small. The board and the frame frames the whole thing and gives it body and unity, so individual pictures don’t need their own frames anymore. Plus, it is much easier to rotate what you want to look at. ---
**Author:** ![Dangerosa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/22d042/32.png) [@Dangerosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dangerosa)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2007, 12:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-tour-of-my-bedroom-boom-chika-chika-no-not-like-that/428114/63 "2007-12-03T12:48:58Z")
[QUOTE=SHAKES] This is cracking me up. I wonder why none of the ladies I’ve dated have never said anything? [/QUOTE] Quite a few possibilities: 1. The women you date (as opposed to myself) have superior taste in black light art. 2. You are such a neat guy that they are willing to overlook decorating - there are two subsets here. 2a. “If this goes anywhere, he can have a den - the rest of his place looks fine.” 2b. “If this goes anywhere, I will change him and give him fine taste in couches that are covered in cabbage roses” (Women are big on the “marry the man today, rather than sigh and sorrow, marry the man today and change his ways tomorrow.” Men often seem shocked after marriage that their former girlfriends turn out to not like posters of beer girls) 1. They don’t want to insult you - and simply back off slowly rather than running from your room. ---
**Author:** ![Testy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/c37758/32.png) [@Testy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Testy)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2007, 1:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-tour-of-my-bedroom-boom-chika-chika-no-not-like-that/428114/64 "2007-12-03T13:23:32Z")
Hmmm . . .while all the doper wimin are hanging around, could I get some advice too? ::Insert pleading demeanor here:: I’m probably worse off than **Shakes** as I’m even older (52) and **much** more out of practice at dating. OK, here’s the story: I lost my wife of 22 years last December and am just now getting my act sufficiently together to think about sharing a bed with somebody. I live in a large-ish 2 BR apt. and my bedroom has a large Ikea bed made from birch with a handmade quilt, a wardrobe (also birch) with a big mirrored segment in the center, a dirty-clothes hamper and an air cleaner. The floor is a white-mottled tile and I have a small, hand-made carpet on the floor. The walls and ceiling are white. There’s a brown cabinet kind of thing that looks awful and I would dump immediately if I knew what to put in its place. That’s it. Any suggestions? Aside from “Resign yourself to celibacy!” 😛 Thanks. Testy ---
**Author:** ![Maastricht](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a88e57/32.png) [@Maastricht](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maastricht)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2007, 1:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-tour-of-my-bedroom-boom-chika-chika-no-not-like-that/428114/65 "2007-12-03T13:44:14Z")
**Testy** , that bedroom looks just fine to me. A bit more European/Swedish, perhaps, then the “traditional” American look with a lot of solid oak. If I’d were to visit it, I’d think that it was probably your late wife who had decorated it, and that you hadn’t changed anything since then. And that’s perfectly okay. Don’t be surprised though, that if things get serious, the lady will hesitantly suggest that if you move in together, she might redecorate the room. The right answer then would be something like: “Would you? That would be very nice, I like the way you have decorated your own home. Jill picked most of what I have now in the bedroom, and it was fine, but yes, it is getting a bit old now, and I don’t really need to keep the furniture to remember her by. Just tell me when you want me to go with you to pick out new furniture.” If, in the meantime, that brown cabinet really bugs you, just find a friend to take you to IKEA and replace it. ---
**Author:** ![Testy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/c37758/32.png) [@Testy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Testy)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2007, 2:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-tour-of-my-bedroom-boom-chika-chika-no-not-like-that/428114/66 "2007-12-03T14:06:01Z")
[QUOTE=Maastricht] **Testy** , that bedroom looks just fine to me. A bit more European/Swedish, perhaps, then the “traditional” American look with a lot of solid oak. If I’d were to visit it, I’d think that it was probably your late wife who had decorated it, and that you hadn’t changed anything since then. And that’s perfectly okay. Don’t be surprised though, that if things get serious, the lady will hesitantly suggest that if you move in together, she might redecorate the room. The right answer then would be something like: “Would you? That would be very nice, I like the way you have decorated your own home. Jill picked most of what I have now in the bedroom, and it was fine, but yes, it is getting a bit old now, and I don’t really need to keep the furniture to remember her by. Just tell me when you want me to go with you to pick out new furniture.” If, in the meantime, that brown cabinet really bugs you, just find a friend to take you to IKEA and replace it. [/QUOTE] **Maastricht** Thank you. We lived in quite a large house but it was furnished so I had to go get my own furnishings after I moved out. I’ve got lots of decorations boxed-up though. As far as some lady wanting to redecorate, that would be perfectly OK as I am generally oblivious to such things. Fortunately, I know I’m bad at this so I tried to be as neutral as possible. All the best Testy ---
**Author:** ![Mtgman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b5a626/32.png) [@Mtgman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mtgman)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2007, 4:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-tour-of-my-bedroom-boom-chika-chika-no-not-like-that/428114/67 "2007-12-03T16:17:24Z")
The parenthetical disclaimer seems to apply, despite your intentions. Your room sounds like the set for a college-themed porn flick. I’d recommend boxing most of it up and putting it in the attic. If you like things which fluoresce in black light, get a saltwater aquarium and a jellyfish or a cool rock or stamp collection. In [the article referenced earlier](http://chemistry.about.com/cs/howthingswork/f/blblacklight.htm)(re: bodily fluids) these are all mentioned as fluorescent. > [@](#): > > Postage Stamps > Stamps are printed with inks that contain fluorescent dyes. > > Jellyfish > If you have a jellyfish handy, see what it looks like under a black light in a darkened room. Some of the proteins within a jellyfish are intensely fluorescent. > > Some Minerals and Gems > Fluorescent rocks include fluorite, calcite, gypsum, ruby, talc, opal, agate, quartz, and amber. Minerals and gemstones are most commonly made fluorescent or phosphorescent due to the presence of impurities. The Hope Diamond, which is blue, phosphoresces red for several seconds after exposure to shortwave ultraviolet light. Extra bonus points if you get the Hope Diamond(a known chick magnet) as part of your collection. Failing that, [jellyfish in UV](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IpWT8tqafdo)(youtube link) look pretty cool. Enjoy, Steven ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2007, 5:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-tour-of-my-bedroom-boom-chika-chika-no-not-like-that/428114/68 "2007-12-03T17:04:12Z")
[QUOTE=Mtgman] Failing that, [jellyfish in UV](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IpWT8tqafdo)(youtube link) look pretty cool. [/QUOTE] > [@youtube](#): > > The url contained a malformed video id. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![lobstermobster](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lobstermobster/32/10033_2.png) [@lobstermobster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lobstermobster)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2007, 6:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-tour-of-my-bedroom-boom-chika-chika-no-not-like-that/428114/69 "2007-12-03T18:08:55Z")
First of all, I think I need to hear more descriptions of bedrooms. I’m upset that someone can have a room like the OP’s and this detail completely slipped by us for so long. I feel like I’ve been duped. Secondly, I turn 24 this month and if I walked into this bedroom of a potential lover (my age or older) I would probably freeze, slowly back up til I hit a wall, slide down the floor mouth open, eyes glazed over then pull my knees to my chest and rock back and forth on the floor quietly weeping. I’m offended at anyone associating this style with my generation. WE did not come up with black light posters or lava lamps thankyouverymuch. ---
**Author:** ![Testy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/c37758/32.png) [@Testy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Testy)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2007, 6:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-tour-of-my-bedroom-boom-chika-chika-no-not-like-that/428114/70 "2007-12-03T18:11:19Z")
[QUOTE=lobstermobster] First of all, I think I need to hear more descriptions of bedrooms. I’m upset that someone can have a room like the OP’s and this detail completely slipped by us for so long. I feel like I’ve been duped. Secondly, I turn 24 this month and if I walked into this bedroom of a potential lover (my age or older) I would probably freeze, slowly back up til I hit a wall, slide down the floor mouth open, eyes glazed over then pull my knees to my chest and rock back and forth on the floor quietly weeping. I’m offended at anyone associating this style with my generation. WE did not come up with black light posters or lava lamps thankyouverymuch. [/QUOTE] **Lobstermobster** Hey! Nothing wrong with lava lights! Very cool devices and I’d put one in my living room if I had it! 😛 Testy ---
**Author:** ![Mtgman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b5a626/32.png) [@Mtgman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mtgman)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2007, 6:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-tour-of-my-bedroom-boom-chika-chika-no-not-like-that/428114/71 "2007-12-03T18:14:13Z")
[QUOTE=twickster] ☹ [/QUOTE] Sorry, stray quotation marks. Try [this link for UV jellyfish](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IpWT8tqafdo). Enjoy, Steven ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2007, 6:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-tour-of-my-bedroom-boom-chika-chika-no-not-like-that/428114/72 "2007-12-03T18:28:20Z")
[QUOTE=Mtgman] Sorry, stray quotation marks. Try [this link for UV jellyfish](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IpWT8tqafdo). Enjoy, Steven [/QUOTE] Thanks – that’s seriously cool! ---
**Author:** ![DoctorJ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doctorj/32/2904_2.png) [@DoctorJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DoctorJ)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2007, 7:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-tour-of-my-bedroom-boom-chika-chika-no-not-like-that/428114/73 "2007-12-03T19:30:18Z")
Just to get meta, one of the reasons a teenager or college student’s bedroom looks like it does is because that’s the only personal space that person has. Most of the time I was awake and in the house as a teen, I was in my bedroom, so it was set up as such with all of my stuff, some sitting-type furniture Now, as an adult, the bedroom is for sleeping, sex, getting dressed, and late-night reading. That’s it. I spend most of my waking time in other parts of the house, and my personality extends to those parts, too. I don’t have to cram it all into one tiny space. In short, it would strike me as weird if it looked like a 37-year-old lived entirely in his bedroom. ---
**Author:** ![Mtgman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b5a626/32.png) [@Mtgman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mtgman)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2007, 8:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-tour-of-my-bedroom-boom-chika-chika-no-not-like-that/428114/74 "2007-12-03T20:15:07Z")
[QUOTE=twickster] Thanks – that’s seriously cool! [/QUOTE] Yea, cuddling on the bed watching the jellyfish glow could be an attractive feature of a bedroom. Enjoy, Steven ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2007, 9:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-tour-of-my-bedroom-boom-chika-chika-no-not-like-that/428114/75 "2007-12-03T21:18:07Z")
[QUOTE=twickster] The url contained a malformed video id. ☹ [/QUOTE] When you get errors like that, you can often hover the cursor over the link and by looking at the status bar to see where the url is going you can see what is wrong with it. It’s often a punctuation mark at the end that just needs to be removed for the link to work (in this case a quotation mark). ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2007, 9:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-tour-of-my-bedroom-boom-chika-chika-no-not-like-that/428114/76 "2007-12-03T21:20:55Z")
[QUOTE=ArchiveGuy] (3) Opal wept [/QUOTE] Yes, yes she did. I have to agree with the rest. You lost me at “beer girl poster.” [QUOTE=Mtgman] Yea, cuddling on the bed watching the jellyfish glow could be an attractive feature of a bedroom. Enjoy, Steven [/QUOTE] [http://www.thinkgeek.com/homeoffice/lights/9a8c/](http://www.thinkgeek.com/homeoffice/lights/9a8c/) Woohoo! Fake glowing jellyfish! ---
**Author:** ![Bryan\_Ekers](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bryan_ekers/32/183_2.png) [@Bryan\_Ekers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bryan_Ekers)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2007, 2:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-tour-of-my-bedroom-boom-chika-chika-no-not-like-that/428114/77 "2007-12-04T02:34:47Z")
Clearly the OP needs to take a long hard look at himself, possibly while lying on his race-car bed and facing the ceiling mirror. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-a-tour-of-my-bedroom-boom-chika-chika-no-not-like-that/428114.md?page=3)