# Ladies: Do you like getting your hair pulled? (TMI) **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 12, 2008, 9:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-getting-your-hair-pulled-tmi/472427 "2008-11-12T21:49:55Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![EpicNonsense](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/c37758/32.png) [@EpicNonsense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EpicNonsense)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2008, 9:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-getting-your-hair-pulled-tmi/472427/1 "2008-11-12T21:49:55Z")
You knew I was going to be on top of this one. So, ladies, do you like having your hair pulled while playing hide the salami? Please explain… My ex loved this for some strange reason and I’m hoping you can enlighten me and the rest of us. ---
**Author:** ![pbbth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f9ae1b/32.png) [@pbbth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pbbth)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2008, 9:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-getting-your-hair-pulled-tmi/472427/2 "2008-11-12T21:52:58Z")
Nope. ---
**Author:** ![Inigo\_Montoya](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inigo_montoya/32/124_2.png) [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2008, 9:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-getting-your-hair-pulled-tmi/472427/3 "2008-11-12T21:57:41Z")
My girl does when we’re pretending to be dachshunds. It’s a ruffsecks thing. … ruff ---
**Author:** ![Malacandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Malacandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malacandra)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2008, 10:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-getting-your-hair-pulled-tmi/472427/4 "2008-11-12T22:00:14Z")
I’ve known some ladies who, while _quite rightly_ abominating any prospect of _actually_ being coerced sexually, were at least slightly, maybe heavily, into _pretending_ to be coerced. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2008, 10:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-getting-your-hair-pulled-tmi/472427/5 "2008-11-12T22:02:41Z")
My GF likes it. But it’s not like a huge pull, just a gentle tug. I’ve heard that it actually imobilizes the tuggee, much like a cat going limp if it’s picked up by the scruff of the neck. ---
**Author:** ![TheMerchandise](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/b487fb/32.png) [@TheMerchandise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TheMerchandise)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2008, 10:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-getting-your-hair-pulled-tmi/472427/6 "2008-11-12T22:03:26Z")
Don’t get me wrong… I don’t want you yanking all the hair out of my head, but I do enjoy hair pulling occasionally during sex. Ditto on spanking. If done right, it adds just a tiny bit of pain to my pleasure. It’s dramatic. It’s “take charge.” It’s a wee bit dangerous. It’s Rough Sex Lite for those of us not willing to commit to a dog collar and chains. My preferred hair-pulling method: Grab a big handful, close to the roots. Pull back, hard enough to pull the head backward, but not hard enough to pull hair out. Do not yank in little jerks. Accompany with phrases like “Do you like that?! I’m going to fuck you hard!” I can’t believe I just typed this out. ---
**Author:** ![Litoris](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/9f8e36/32.png) [@Litoris](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Litoris)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2008, 10:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-getting-your-hair-pulled-tmi/472427/7 "2008-11-12T22:31:12Z")
Not really. It doesn’t _bother_ me, but it’s not something I would list as something I would prefer a guy do. My husband likes to do it to me though, FWIW. ---
**Author:** ![wring](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/838e76/32.png) [@wring](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wring)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2008, 10:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-getting-your-hair-pulled-tmi/472427/8 "2008-11-12T22:41:01Z")
Hate it. At any time. absofuckinglutely **hate** it. Anyone under the age of two, we gently disengage the hand holding the hair. Still hate it then, though. ---
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2008, 11:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-getting-your-hair-pulled-tmi/472427/9 "2008-11-12T23:02:37Z")
Anyone who wants to keep their hand or other relevant parts better not try it. And they especially better not try it after being told not to. ---
**Author:** ![Lugubrious](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/a698b9/32.png) [@Lugubrious](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lugubrious)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2008, 11:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-getting-your-hair-pulled-tmi/472427/10 "2008-11-12T23:32:27Z")
Uhhhhh… yes. I do. I like having my hair pulled, but only while he’s… behind. I also like being spanked. A little. I’m a bit of a strong personality in my day to day life, so I like to be completely dominated in the bed. ---
**Author:** ![Lord\_Ashtar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7ea924/32.png) [@Lord\_Ashtar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lord_Ashtar)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2008, 12:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-getting-your-hair-pulled-tmi/472427/11 "2008-11-13T00:00:20Z")
When I moonlighted at a pool hall a few years ago, this kinda hot but way too skanky girl who was a regular came up to me one day and said, “Pull my hair.” So I obliged. I grabbed a big handful close to her roots and gently tugged. She moaned appreciatively. She then followed another guy out to his car to give him a blow job. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Devil\_s\_Grandmother](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/74df32/32.png) [@The\_Devil\_s\_Grandmother](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Devil_s_Grandmother)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2008, 12:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-getting-your-hair-pulled-tmi/472427/12 "2008-11-13T00:06:43Z")
> [@wring](#): > > Anyone under the age of two, we gently disengage the hand holding the hair. Still hate it then, though. From two to about six, slap the hand. Over six, cut off the hand with big knife. I hate having my hair pulled or tugged in any context. ---
**Author:** ![EpicNonsense](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/c37758/32.png) [@EpicNonsense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EpicNonsense)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2008, 12:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-getting-your-hair-pulled-tmi/472427/13 "2008-11-13T00:17:52Z")
> [@Lord\_Ashtar](#): > > She then followed another guy out to his car to give him a blow job. Didn’t see that one coming. ---
**Author:** ![TroubleAgain](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e480ec/32.png) [@TroubleAgain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TroubleAgain)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2008, 12:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-getting-your-hair-pulled-tmi/472427/14 "2008-11-13T00:24:37Z")
Yeah, kinda. Gentle tugs. And I do the same for him. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![appleciders](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/85f322/32.png) [@appleciders](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/appleciders)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2008, 12:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-getting-your-hair-pulled-tmi/472427/15 "2008-11-13T00:36:25Z")
> [@Lord\_Ashtar](#): > > When I moonlighted at a pool hall a few years ago, this kinda hot but way too skanky girl who was a regular came up to me one day and said, “Pull my hair.” So I obliged. I grabbed a big handful close to her roots and gently tugged. She moaned appreciatively. She then followed another guy out to his car to give him a blow job. Moonlighted doing what? I’ve been with girls who like it, but only when it’s done fairly gently; more as a method of expression of my own pleasure than to actually cause pain. To be honest, as a straight man with enough hair to pull, I enjoyed having my own hair pulled as I manually stimulated my then-girlfriend to orgasm and she clenched her fist in my hair. It hurt, yeah, but the expression of her own pleasure was exquisite. Remember, though- grabbing hair fine, clenching fist in hair fine, _twisting_ fist with clenched hair EXTRAORDINARILY painful. Limits, please. ---
**Author:** ![scout1222](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/34f0e0/32.png) [@scout1222](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scout1222)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2008, 12:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-getting-your-hair-pulled-tmi/472427/16 "2008-11-13T00:54:45Z")
**TheMerchandise** , you may not believe you just typed that out, but trust me, you saved me the effort. I think you summed it up nicely! ---
**Author:** ![Heffalump\_and\_Roo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/heffalump_and_roo/32/7691_2.png) [@Heffalump\_and\_Roo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Heffalump_and_Roo)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2008, 1:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-getting-your-hair-pulled-tmi/472427/17 "2008-11-13T01:36:27Z")
> [@EpicNonsense](#): > > Didn’t see that one coming. How could you? It was in the car. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Kaio](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/c68b51/32.png) [@Kaio](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kaio)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2008, 2:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-getting-your-hair-pulled-tmi/472427/18 "2008-11-13T02:43:04Z")
Oh yes. And it’s a control/submission thing, not a pain thing. If you control the head, you control everything else. It is like being scruffed, I completely relax into it (assuming you’re someone I’ve consented to be intimate with), and it makes a nice handle. FWIW, I also like pulling hair myself, especially if you’re a pretty girl with great hair that I’m very close to. Same deal, I pull for control, not pain. I like to lead you/be led around by the hair. If you’re yanking hair **out** , however, Imma gonna kick your ass. Do not damage the tresses. Mmmm… I’ll be in mah bunk. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2008, 3:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-getting-your-hair-pulled-tmi/472427/19 "2008-11-13T03:45:09Z")
> [@TheMerchandise](#): > > My preferred hair-pulling method: Grab a big handful, close to the roots. Pull back, hard enough to pull the head backward, but not hard enough to pull hair out. Do not yank in little jerks. Accompany with phrases like “Do you like that?! I’m going to fuck you hard!” That’s a great explanation. It’s a great way to take control without being controlling, to be dominant without being domineering. Done right, it’s a turn-on for both. Done wrong, it’s… well, cruel and hurty. I understand that men enjoy it too. I wouldn’t know, as no one ever did it to me. And these days, as I grow my hair to the sexy and wonderful length that suits my style, there’s simply nothing to grab onto. I guess I have to settle for being tied up and ravished. Ho hum. Tug gently, guys. ---
**Author:** ![Chessic\_Sense](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7c8e57/32.png) [@Chessic\_Sense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chessic_Sense)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2008, 3:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-getting-your-hair-pulled-tmi/472427/20 "2008-11-13T03:57:19Z")
I think of it as a step up from having their hair played with, which all women seem to love. It’s just _slightly_ more stimulating. My GF likes me to grab it by the root in a fist, not by the ends, FWIW. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-getting-your-hair-pulled-tmi/472427.md?page=2)