# Ladies: Do you like to be spanked? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 12, 2008, 6:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-to-be-spanked/472388 "2008-11-12T18:55:33Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 19\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Vihaga](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b4bc9f/32.png) [@Vihaga](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Vihaga)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2008, 2:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-to-be-spanked/472388/41 "2008-11-13T02:03:20Z")
Not in the slightest. If you hit me, it’s the end of not only the encounter, but the relationship. I don’t find the idea remotely sexy. ---
**Author:** ![SandyHook](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dec6dc/32.png) [@SandyHook](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SandyHook)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2008, 2:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-to-be-spanked/472388/42 "2008-11-13T02:24:20Z")
At the 2007 Burning Man I was asked by a young lady to administer a spanking. After the first swat, which seemed to me to be a pretty good one, she said, rather distdainfully, “Harder than that.” After a couple more, diddly-durn good smacks, she started snorting and grunting. By the last one, the 6th, the grunts had taken a definate air of sexual pleasure. The audience had fallen silent. As she walked off, rubbing her buns, she told one and all, “Most guys can’t give a spanking, but damn that was good.” ---
**Author:** ![sunacres](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/4491bb/32.png) [@sunacres](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sunacres)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2008, 3:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-to-be-spanked/472388/43 "2008-11-13T03:19:02Z")
> [@corkboard](#): > > So 8% of my former sex partners liked it. YMMV. I did some quick back-of-the-envelope work and although my impression was that it would be much higher, it did only come out to about 11% of my sample. I guess it just makes an impression on me when a woman indicates that she wants to be spanked. Now, this is over the last 35 years, and I certainly haven’t noticed any trends in that time, to **JSexton** ’s question. The motivations vary, of course. For some it’s a pain thing, others a more complex humiliation/control/dom/sub experience. My recently ex girlfriend of five years, a very accomplished and self-confident 50-something pediatrician, took two years before she screwed up the courage to ask for it. She was so roundabout it took me a while to pick up the hints. But she liked it, yes she did. ---
**Author:** ![phil417](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/6bbea6/32.png) [@phil417](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/phil417)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2008, 5:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-to-be-spanked/472388/44 "2008-11-13T05:52:24Z")
> [@Sigmagirl](#): > > Hell no. Do not strike me. You will be sorry. Seconded!! Phil ---
**Author:** ![KittyCat444](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/848f3c/32.png) [@KittyCat444](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KittyCat444)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2008, 10:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-to-be-spanked/472388/45 "2008-11-13T10:33:40Z")
I love getting spanked. I was a little offended when my first boyfriend did it without asking, but since then I’ve gotten really into it. I’ve never done it as part of a punishment scenario, but it just feels really, really good when I’m all turned on and hopped up on endorphins or whatever. ---
**Author:** ![control-z](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/eada6e/32.png) [@control-z](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/control-z)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2008, 7:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-to-be-spanked/472388/46 "2008-11-13T19:24:49Z")
My last gf liked a few swats on the ass during doggy. Hehe. ---
**Author:** ![Zebra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/c0e974/32.png) [@Zebra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zebra)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2008, 10:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-to-be-spanked/472388/47 "2008-11-13T22:59:13Z")
God I misss sex. ---
**Author:** ![Inigo\_Montoya](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inigo_montoya/32/124_2.png) [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2008, 11:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-to-be-spanked/472388/48 "2008-11-13T23:04:34Z")
> [@Zebra](#): > > God I misss sex. Yesss precioussss, we missses it we does … ---
**Author:** ![Tastes\_of\_Chocolate](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tastes_of_chocolate/32/3232_2.png) [@Tastes\_of\_Chocolate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tastes_of_Chocolate)\ **Post date:** [November 14, 2008, 12:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-to-be-spanked/472388/49 "2008-11-14T00:38:48Z")
> [@melodyharmonius](#): > > the smacking, the hair pulling - sometimes it’s the rush of adrenaline and unexpected sensation during the act of sex. Yep. It’s the sharp difference between the pleasurable sensations that have been going on, and a sudden little bit of pain. I suppose it’s like going outside into the snow after being in a sauna. ---
**Author:** ![Lust4Life](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ecc23a/32.png) [@Lust4Life](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lust4Life)\ **Post date:** [November 15, 2008, 1:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-to-be-spanked/472388/50 "2008-11-15T13:17:03Z")
Its slightly off topic but I really dont want to start a new thread on this question. Are there any female Dopers who like being covered in warm custard,while dressed as a prison guard and have Glace’ cherries flicked at them by a man wearing a dustbin liner and a false moustache to the sound of Bagpipe music? I have this friend who really,really wants to know. ---
**Author:** ![LouisB](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dfb087/32.png) [@LouisB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LouisB)\ **Post date:** [November 15, 2008, 1:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-to-be-spanked/472388/51 "2008-11-15T13:36:41Z")
In all my years of promiscuity, I’ve encountered one woman who liked to be spanked\*. She sort of crawled across my lap and the most obvious sight of her was that of her peachy little bottom. I gave that bottom a few caresses and then a few light pats; she turned her head to see me and said, “You don’t spank hard enough.” So, I did spank hard enough to turn her bottom red. She gave every sign of enjoyment and the subsequent love making was very enthusiastic. But I was left feeling very uncomfortable about what I had done. (I have a powerful inhibition against striking a woman in any way.) And I’ve never done it since. \*That is to say, one woman who let me know she wanted to be spanked. ETA: Corrected misspelling. ---
**Author:** ![Demonica](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Demonica](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Demonica)\ **Post date:** [November 15, 2008, 1:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-to-be-spanked/472388/52 "2008-11-15T13:51:25Z")
I would love to get spanked. My former SO’s weren’t into it. I’m a recently single gal and will be going through a long dry spell (self-imposed) while I get my head together, so I think it’ll be a long time before I have the opportunity to try it. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![melodyharmonius](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/melodyharmonius/32/21310_2.png) [@melodyharmonius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/melodyharmonius)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2008, 1:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-to-be-spanked/472388/53 "2008-11-17T13:58:11Z")
> [@Demonica](#): > > I would love to get spanked. My former SO’s weren’t into it. > > I’m a recently single gal and will be going through a long dry spell (self-imposed) while I get my head together, so I think it’ll be a long time before I have the opportunity to try it. 🙂 Y’know - you don’t have to be in a relationship or have sex to be spanked. ---
**Author:** ![corkboard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@corkboard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/corkboard)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2008, 2:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-to-be-spanked/472388/54 "2008-11-17T14:02:26Z")
[waits for the inevitable “how\* you \*doin’?”] ---
**Author:** ![melodyharmonius](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/melodyharmonius/32/21310_2.png) [@melodyharmonius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/melodyharmonius)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2008, 11:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-to-be-spanked/472388/55 "2008-11-17T23:22:49Z")
> [@corkboard](#): > > [waits for the inevitable “how\* you \*doin’?”] Unfortunately for others - I have someone who takes care of all my spankings for me. Would you like to see what he spanks? [(NSFW)](http://i109.photobucket.com/albums/n49/melodyharmonius/Mischief%20and%20Melody/AssIcon.jpg) ---
**Author:** ![chacoguy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/50afbb/32.png) [@chacoguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chacoguy)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2008, 12:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-to-be-spanked/472388/56 "2008-11-18T00:01:32Z")
Nothing personal, but I have to fill in the obvious next line; I’d hit that! 😉 ---
**Author:** ![melodyharmonius](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/melodyharmonius/32/21310_2.png) [@melodyharmonius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/melodyharmonius)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2008, 12:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-to-be-spanked/472388/57 "2008-11-18T00:27:21Z")
> [@chacoguy420](#): > > Nothing personal, but I have to fill in the obvious next line; > > I’d hit that! > > 😉 LOL! ---
**Author:** ![Demonica](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Demonica](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Demonica)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2008, 5:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-to-be-spanked/472388/58 "2008-11-18T17:16:16Z")
> [@melodyharmonius](#): > > Y’know - you don’t have to be in a relationship or have sex to be spanked. Heh…I know. But I was married at 18, divorced 15 years later. Year and a half or so single (no action, upset and sad, long story), then with my former SO 5 years. I have no clue how to date, or start a NSA super-happy-funtime situation. 🙂 Whole other thread entirely. Sorry for the minor hijack. Now back to spanking! ---
**Author:** ![Santo\_Rugger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e95f7d/32.png) [@Santo\_Rugger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Santo_Rugger)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2008, 5:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-to-be-spanked/472388/59 "2008-11-18T17:43:04Z")
> [@Demonica](#): > > I have no clue how to… start a NSA super-happy-funtime situation. PM and email address in profile. Yes, it’s just that easy. 😛 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-do-you-like-to-be-spanked/472388.md?page=2)