# Ladies, don't we mostly agree about bald guys? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [May 29, 2011, 6:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-dont-we-mostly-agree-about-bald-guys/583685 "2011-05-29T18:55:59Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Chefguy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chefguy/32/138_2.png) [@Chefguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chefguy)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2011, 11:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-dont-we-mostly-agree-about-bald-guys/583685/21 "2011-05-29T23:05:44Z")
> [@WhyNot](#): > > Many of them are just awful, but I admit there’s some confirmation bias there, too. A toupee that looks good won’t be read as a toupee. > > A friend of mine is a hairdresser specializing in “hair replacement systems” - which are essentially toupees that are glued onto the head for a few weeks. She uses human hair pieces which are tied single strands at a time by hand, and they’re shaped to the head with a custom mold and dyed to match the color and after applying them, she trims the piece and your hair together, so there’s no line of demarcation. They actually look really, really natural, and you’d \*never \*peg these guys as toupee wearers. > > It also costs roughly $500 a month, though. So I don’t think many average Joes are wearing them, but a whole lot of lawyers and businessmen who don’t want you to know they’re bald are! The security at her place is ridiculous - one client at a time inside, appointment only and she uses code names in her appointment book, just in case it gets lost or stolen. These guys are \*really \*invested in no one finding out they’re bald. It’s a little sad, actually. You’re probably right. The ones I see are so sadly bad that you have to wonder if the guys own mirrors. There’s one man who rides on our busline, who either has to be 70or is someone who has led a very rough life. He wears a dark brown rug that looks like a castoff from the Beatles era, and really doesn’t go well with his gray stubble and wisps poking out from underneath. ---
**Author:** ![Slithy\_Tove](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/slithy_tove/32/18248_2.png) [@Slithy\_Tove](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slithy_Tove)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2011, 11:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-dont-we-mostly-agree-about-bald-guys/583685/22 "2011-05-29T23:07:13Z")
> [@needscoffee](#): > > I can barely tolerate my own hair going gray. I guess that’s the price they pay for looking distinguished with silver temples. (off topic) silver and gray haired women are quite attractive to a lot of guys in that same age group. When I was online dating, I was frankly dismayed at the handful of such women on the sites, compared with the hundreds with damaged “crayon-hair.” ---
**Author:** ![Stoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/stoid/32/272_2.png) [@Stoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stoid)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2011, 12:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-dont-we-mostly-agree-about-bald-guys/583685/23 "2011-05-30T00:18:14Z")
> [@Slithy\_Tove](#): > > (off topic) silver and gray haired women are quite attractive to a lot of guys in that same age group. When I was online dating, I was frankly dismayed at the handful of such women on the sites, compared with the hundreds with damaged “crayon-hair.” I’d let my grey show with no problem if it was just about the grey itself, but on me it isn’t. If my hair is grey is washes my complexion out and adds 10 years. ---
**Author:** ![Mean\_Mr.Mustard](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mean_mr.mustard/32/3865_2.png) [@Mean\_Mr.Mustard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mean_Mr.Mustard)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2011, 12:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-dont-we-mostly-agree-about-bald-guys/583685/24 "2011-05-30T00:58:02Z")
> [@](#): > > Are there any women who do NOT agree that just going for it and embracing baldness with confidence by shaving it all off… When a dude who is going bald shaves it all off, I hardly think that he is “embracing” his baldness; more often than not, he’s trying to hide it. If you are obviously balding and you _don’t_ shave it off, _then_ you are embracing it. Going cueball is actually a slick attempt at deception. mmm ---
**Author:** ![Claire\_Beauchamp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ec9cab/32.png) [@Claire\_Beauchamp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Claire_Beauchamp)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2011, 1:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-dont-we-mostly-agree-about-bald-guys/583685/25 "2011-05-30T01:09:03Z")
Really? All women should agree on this, or any topic? I bet you’d be the first to take offense if a post was titled, \*\*Gentlemen, \*\*\*\*don’t we mostly agree about [chubby/greying/sagging/whatever] women? \*\* ---
**Author:** ![Slithy\_Tove](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/slithy_tove/32/18248_2.png) [@Slithy\_Tove](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slithy_Tove)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2011, 1:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-dont-we-mostly-agree-about-bald-guys/583685/26 "2011-05-30T01:20:34Z")
> [@Mean\_Mr.Mustard](#): > > When a dude who is going bald shaves it all off, I hardly think that he is “embracing” his baldness; more often than not, he’s trying to hide it. > > If you are obviously balding and you _don’t_ shave it off, _then_ you are embracing it. Going cueball is actually a slick attempt at deception. > mmm So if a guy doesn’t have any hair, he’s hiding the fact that he doesn’t have any hair? Of course, I was the first one in my logic class to get the professor’s signature on a drop card. ---
**Author:** ![mnemosyne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c4cdca/32.png) [@mnemosyne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mnemosyne)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2011, 1:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-dont-we-mostly-agree-about-bald-guys/583685/27 "2011-05-30T01:34:49Z")
> [@Mean\_Mr.Mustard](#): > > When a dude who is going bald shaves it all off, I hardly think that he is “embracing” his baldness; more often than not, he’s trying to hide it. > > If you are obviously balding and you _don’t_ shave it off, _then_ you are embracing it. Going cueball is actually a slick attempt at deception. > mmm But it isn’t really hiding…we can still see where the hair is (or isn’t) as it regrows after a day or three. But it (generally) _looks better_ to trim it or shave it. “Embracing baldness” by letting existing hair grow long, or worse, going to the ponytail or combover, just doesn’t look good on most men, even the ones who think they are ugly. I’m sure there must be a few exceptions to this, but I can’t think of a single one. Heck, my husband _has_ a full head of hair and I prefer it when he shaves it short because it makes him look better…sexier and tougher, I guess! ---
**Author:** ![rhubarbarin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/eb9ed0/32.png) [@rhubarbarin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rhubarbarin)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2011, 2:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-dont-we-mostly-agree-about-bald-guys/583685/28 "2011-05-30T02:02:48Z")
I don’t think a lot of people have attractively shaped heads, so I think close-cut hair looks better on a balding guy than full cueball much of the time. As for longer hair on a balding guy, it just depends on how he is balding… receding hairlines can look fine with longer hair, but with the bald spot of the crown it looks horrendous to me if hair is longer than an inch or so. And I hate all facial hair but stubble/a light full beard, personally. ---
**Author:** ![elfkin477](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/a9a28c/32.png) [@elfkin477](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elfkin477)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2011, 3:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-dont-we-mostly-agree-about-bald-guys/583685/29 "2011-05-30T03:53:19Z")
> [@Stoid](#): > > Are there any women who do NOT agree that just going for it and embracing baldness with confidence by shaving it all off is far more attractive on the vast majority of men than a fringe or any other version of his trying to hang on to hair that is clearly over? Yep, there are women who do not agree with that. I can’t think of a single person, male or female, who looks better with a completely bald head. Many look fine with very short hair, but none at all? Nope, that’s not an attractive look on anyone. Even Friar Tuck is a better look than Uncle Fester. ---
**Author:** ![YaraMateo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/58f4c7/32.png) [@YaraMateo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/YaraMateo)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2011, 4:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-dont-we-mostly-agree-about-bald-guys/583685/30 "2011-05-30T04:17:17Z")
> [@Chefguy](#): > > The obvious omission in the poll is “buy a rug”. I think toupes look as ridiculous as a combover, personally. I wanted to put buy plugs. They look best. They’re costly and I think over time you have to get them replaced. So, I didn’t know if that was a good option or one most would do. Even Prince William doesn’t have plugs. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![YaraMateo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/58f4c7/32.png) [@YaraMateo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/YaraMateo)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2011, 4:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-dont-we-mostly-agree-about-bald-guys/583685/31 "2011-05-30T04:19:11Z")
> [@Slithy\_Tove](#): > > (off topic) silver and gray haired women are quite attractive to a lot of guys in that same age group. When I was online dating, I was frankly dismayed at the handful of such women on the sites, compared with the hundreds with damaged “crayon-hair.” Gray foxes are hot. I’m in my 20s. ---
**Author:** ![Arrendajo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e0b2c6/32.png) [@Arrendajo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Arrendajo)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2011, 5:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-dont-we-mostly-agree-about-bald-guys/583685/32 "2011-05-30T05:00:46Z")
> [@Eonwe](#): > > Men, don’t we mostly agree about women with tattoos? Yes! They’re **hot!** ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2011, 5:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-dont-we-mostly-agree-about-bald-guys/583685/33 "2011-05-30T05:38:19Z")
> [@YaraMateo](#): > > I wanted to put buy plugs. They look best. They’re costly and I think over time you have to get them replaced. So, I didn’t know if that was a good option or one most would do. Even Prince William doesn’t have plugs. 😉 Aren’t those the ones that look like Barbie doll hair? Or is there different levels of hair plugs, some that look ridiculous and some that look better? ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2011, 6:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-dont-we-mostly-agree-about-bald-guys/583685/34 "2011-05-30T06:08:15Z")
Confession time: I had no idea, whatsoever, that Ted Danson was wearing a hair piece when he was in Cheers. Like NONE. It is possible to get something that looks fairly natural, apparently. Barring that, a short cut would probably be my preference. ---
**Author:** ![needscoffee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/needscoffee/32/1076_2.png) [@needscoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/needscoffee)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2011, 6:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-dont-we-mostly-agree-about-bald-guys/583685/35 "2011-05-30T06:14:43Z")
> [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > Aren’t those the ones that look like Barbie doll hair? Or is there different levels of hair plugs, some that look ridiculous and some that look better? It depends on the size of the plugs, larger being worse, and also how well they’re aligned with the natural direction of the scalp hair. ---
**Author:** ![needscoffee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/needscoffee/32/1076_2.png) [@needscoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/needscoffee)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2011, 6:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-dont-we-mostly-agree-about-bald-guys/583685/36 "2011-05-30T06:16:08Z")
> [@alice\_in\_wonderland](#): > > Confession time: > > I had no idea, whatsoever, that Ted Danson was wearing a hair piece when he was in Cheers. Like NONE. > > It is possible to get something that looks fairly natural, apparently. > > Barring that, a short cut would probably be my preference. I’ve seen photos of Hugh Laurie with a big bald patch, but when I see the crown of his head on House there’s no bald spot at all. ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2011, 6:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-dont-we-mostly-agree-about-bald-guys/583685/37 "2011-05-30T06:18:09Z")
> [@needscoffee](#): > > I’ve seen photos of Hugh Laurie with a big bald patch, but when I see the crown of his head on House there’s no bald spot at all. Well, and they guys in the ‘Hair Club for Men’ adds seem to look decent with their hair. I’d sort of like to see it in real life, but I guess if it’s really that good I probably have and didn’t even know it! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![phantom\_lamb](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/5f9b8f/32.png) [@phantom\_lamb](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/phantom_lamb)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2011, 9:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-dont-we-mostly-agree-about-bald-guys/583685/38 "2011-05-30T09:05:27Z")
I voted for trimming it close, because I don’t like the shiny head look. But generally I agree - if your hair starts departing, looks best when you let it all go. ---
**Author:** ![amanset](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8dc957/32.png) [@amanset](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/amanset)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2011, 9:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-dont-we-mostly-agree-about-bald-guys/583685/39 "2011-05-30T09:57:55Z")
> [@Markxxx](#): > > Very few people look good with a shaved head. It’s just popular to declare it “in,” but they don’t look good unless you have a nicely shaped head. I voted for simply shave it close but keep what’s there. Yeah, that’s where I am. I know I would look like an idiot with a fully shaved head. I started losing it when I was 18, so in my early 20s I looked like I was 31-32 ish. I’m now 36 (37 in a week!) and people have been telling me of late that I look like I am in my early thirties, so I seem to have crossed from looking older than I am to looking younger. Maybe I’ll permanently look like I’m 31-32 … ---
**Author:** ![FairyChatMom](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fairychatmom/32/21906_2.png) [@FairyChatMom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FairyChatMom)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2011, 10:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-dont-we-mostly-agree-about-bald-guys/583685/40 "2011-05-30T10:07:11Z")
My husband is really obsessed with his hair loss. He worries that I won’t find him attractive any longer. Personally, I barely notice what’s going on atop his skull. It’s just not a big deal to me, provided said skull isn’t bleeding or dirty. I guess I’m a bad wife because I don’t always notice when he gets a haircut. Thanks to paternal genetics, my hair is thinning considerably. My dad’s sisters all wore wigs by the time they were my age - at least for “occasions.” I toyed with trying Rogaine but decided it just isn’t that big a deal. Instead, I just try to keep it clean and well-groomed and save my worries for important thing. It’s just hair. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-dont-we-mostly-agree-about-bald-guys/583685.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ladies-dont-we-mostly-agree-about-bald-guys/583685.md?page=3)